2013 is gone 4 ever suckers........

O.k. so another 365 days have flipped over the old calendar once again. Many people no doubt celebrated by watching the ball drop, standing out in the cold with people they enjoy or don't know (you choose). Some went to worship service and who knows what the rest have done-lol!
I like this time of year when people start lying about all their new years resolutions. Weight loss, Bible reading schedules, better to kids and better employees and the like. I decided I am gonna treat this as business as usual and keep my eyes on the prize. 2014 will be like no other year for all of us. Time will show what I meant. Besides yall ain't ready for this jelly yet.
Its all good
I am Ward......

Several things I hate about Xmas and glad its fianlly ova!!!!!

1. I hate the phony Xmas spirits some pretend to have. Where is it @ the rest of the year?
2. That darn Salvation Army man who is always ringing that bell? Oh if he were only smart enough to get a credit card swipe!!!
3. The traffic at the Malls.
4. All the cheap items that stores present and people can't wait to purchase and give them as gifts that no one else wants????
5. The nativity scene in my neighbors yards. Dang, Jesus been a baby for 2,000 years now. The Bible says he is a King ruling in Heaven.
6. I hate that people tell their kids that Santa Claus is real. Now the debate is over is he black or white. I thought he wasn't even real to begin with.
7. The fact that people think December 25th is really Jesus Christ Birthday. A quick search on Google can solve this mystery.
8. Its one of the few times that families get together. It must be against the law to be loving any other time as a family.
9. I find it ironic that no 1 else in the Bible  "Ever" celebrated Jesus supposed Birthday, but people do now a days. The sad thing is the birthday boy is not even invited.
10. Tired of hearing people complain about all the $$ they wasted on gifts.
11. I detest the commercialism of holidays. People are such suckers for traditions of man!
12. I wonder why do they kill the trees and then hang ornaments on them?
13. At the end of day, I just wish people would realize that Xmas is a lie, Satan is real and we are all pawns in the game of life until we realize this thing is way bigger than us.

I am Ward.......

What Ward is Wondering Now.......

*Why do couples keep having the same silly arguments day after day!

*Why do Doctors always snap their gloves when they begin a procedure?

*Why do women with no man have all the advice for women who got a man?

*Is it me or does it seem like people are only nice to those they feel inferior 2?

*How come some people not love ice cold water???????

*Why do people lie and then say it's not lying, just embellishing?

*How can one be a Christian if they don't even try to follow the Bible?

*What makes u stays stay at job we hate vs. finding another better one?

*Why some people think they are so wonderful and their ex will never do better?

* Why people pretend to listen and then say, What did you say?

* What is so good about cigarette that makes folks commit slow motion suicide?



I am Ward.....

Fight the Power.....

1. Remember, more often than not, it’s about them and not about you. Generally critical people are critical of everything and everyone. You are not unique, so don’t make it personal. If they are critical of your promotion or your new shirt, they are likely critical of your co-workers’ shoes, the water cooler, and their limited choices of screensavers.
2. You can always choose to ignore them. Most critical people are not critical with malicious intent. This is just their way of life. However, there are those critical people who like to get a reaction and may intend to cause some negative feelings. In this case the best thing you can do is ignore them. The more you respond, the more likely they will continue to be negative – and so the cycle will continue. You can’t stop critical people from talking, but you have the power to shorten the conversation.
3. Give them the opposite. I once knew a lady who was critical of everything I did because she knew it would always get under my skin. One day I decided that for every critical thing she would say, I would say something nice. She would say “I hope you didn’t think that shirt was cute when you bought it,” and I would reply, “I love your shoes.” She was stunned — so much so that she repeated her critical statement. When she realized her critical statements no longer bothered me, she eventually stopped.
4. Give them honest feedback. When we know that a person has a reputation for being critical, we have a tendency to ignore or avoid them. It’s only natural: who wants to hear their critical statements all day? However, it is important to consider if they are aware of how negative they are and whether they understand their intent. Critical people need love too! It may be helpful to pull them aside and ask if they are aware of the negative energy they bring into a room. Talk with them specifically about how their negativity makes you feel and how it affects you. They may be completely unaware of their actions and willing to change their behavior.

 I personally know a person who is strongly disliked by so many people and I often wonder does it bother her? They say everybody needs two things from life. 1. To have someone or something to love and 2. To be loved by someone or something. With out these, its gonna be a bumpy ride for all involved......

I am Ward....

Que Psi Phi til the day I die.......

I am Ward

From 1 brutha to another: fear of the other brutha in a bow tie.......

O.k,. at my job we are moving into a new building this Saturday. They got overtime and all kinds of free give aways going on! Quite naturally they have movers at the job ( mostly black men, who seem to be quite musty!). I find it rather ironic- that most of the movers seem to either look away when we pass by or look at me like I am some wanna be "Carlton" from the fresh Prince!!!!! I thought at 1st, it may be due the fact that I am zipping around the hospital doing my thing, but heck, everybody does that-right? Then I started to realize that its because those men think I am not black enough.......... because I wear a bow tie or other fashionable neck attire. Hummmmmmmm, should I just walk around smelling all musty- in a pair of run down Chuck Taylor's?  I think the freak not!!!!!

If by some strange freak of nature, that I am correct in my thinking, I refuse to make my self yeild to fit some pseudo mold of what others think a stranger to them should or shouldn't be. I am not trying to just go thru life.....Ward is trying to Grow thru life. What those men don't see is the Man who had to struggle in his past as a single parent, going to college full time while working a full and part time job. A person who had to travel 200 miles a day for 18 months to obtain a Barber's License. A guy who lost his mother when just starting out in life. A person who loves helping people.

Nevertheless, it is what it izzz, for those to men 2  judge me because they know not what they do. But there is light at the end of the tunnel for those on lookers. My job has came up with an excellent ideal!! Everybody has to start wear uniforms and khaki's starting Monday. Ya know the ones like they wear in some schools? Now we can all walk around looking like we work at Staples. I am so excited to put my neck wear up on the shelf. Now I can finally be black enough to start getting the what up nodd from the real bruthas!!!!!

I am ward......

Blinded by love or just tired of trying to get it right?????

Fellas, we all got that homeboy who started dating a chick that really made you scratch your head???? She was flaky, possessive, and high-drama. Everyone could see that the gal was toxic and really bringing your boy down…everyone, that is, except your boy.
You tell yourself, “That would never happen to me.”
But then it does----Surprise.
What gives? How do people end up in crazy relationships despite warning signs that their mate was bad news to begin with?
Answer: Women are Crazy and Men don't make them that way!!!!

 Seems that most men start out dating the chick hoping she never changes and the woman usually thinks that she can change the half a man in to the perfect specimen once she puts her finishing touches on him-lol!
Don’t fool yourself.  You can’t force your partner to change; the change has to come from within. Also, problems that you notice at the beginning of a relationship tend to amplify themselves as the relationship deepens. If he/she is possessive of you and you got friends, its your mates "goal" to get rid of the pseudo competition. But what I don't understand is why does the trust leave a relationship? Could the couple no longer be "NEW" to each other, are out side influences pulling at the seems of your relationship? Could it be family that is a the root of the situation? Perhaps you are ashamed of the decision you made in a mate? All good questions but I believe the answer to be: Improving your communication.

Learn to talk to your mate about how you feel and what you want and need. It may not be easy, but consider the alternative (Being by your self, because somebody is about to ba ba ba ba BOUNCE!) Yes, love is a powerful thang that most people don't get right. Look at all the couples you know and see how many are really happy? I heard one dude say, he stay with his chick because he don't want to pay that $750 alone! Wardy things that when you fall for someone looks, you may over look their realities. 1. How to they handle relationship conflicts 2. What is the money management skills looking like? 3. Do they love your kids (if any)? 4. Do you feel like a prisoner or free to be yourself.
Heck, most people don't ever have the HIV talk so why would the above 4 be asked?  Hummm, are we blinded by love or just tired of trying to get it right???????

I am Ward......

Hey Women.....Men don't like this stuff so please nix that &#(@#*!

1). Quit bringing sex toys in 2 the room! We don't like being hand cuffed by cops and we dang sure don't want to be cuffed by your emotioNICOLE self!!! What you could do......... is be naked when we come home with a new wig on and a new sex move or 3 thrown in for excitement.
2). Men like an assertive woman but never a dominant/mean one (Notice I said "Men"). If a woman starts yelling out Army commands during the act, not only will the guy loose interest in you but he will also loose his ummmm Attention! Try being a sexy, soft and good smelling woman!
3). What about the women wearing them elaborate outfits? I realize them corsets look good on yall women, but you dang near need a bachelors degree in unnecessary clothing items, to take them off!!!! A brutha can get hand cramps trying 2 have sex!
4). O.k., we realize women love a good kiss but don't take advantage of us great kissing bruthas- by slobbing us down.  Don't suck our foreheads and leave us needing a dry towel or need to feel like we just had a dentist exam with your sticky tounge. I mean, I know Cherry Chap-stick is the bomb, but baby take it easy, like Tupac tried to tell you!
5). Women, do you like have man areola hair in your mouth???? Good, cuz we don't like it either. Sucka, thats what we do 2 yall. We ain't got no feelings there. So just stop it already!!!! Freaking Gross lol!!!
6). Stop bringing up your ex! We don't need to hear how much better we are than your ex, how nicer we are or what ever. It just makes us envision you with him or her (never know now a days). Just say how much you love us and be done with it.
7). Please don't try and get all extra sexy in the bedroom. We already like your sexy, so when you come home trying to be the good looking girl at your job, that you imagine we would cheat on you with, doesn't quite work. Just be you.

Finally, keep this fact  in mind. You can only have one struggle in life. You can't be broke and ugly, its not a good look!!!!!!!!!!

I am Ward......

Grand Mall Seizure (a GhetTo PerspeCTive)

I just can't do Ghetto shopping no more! O.k. check it because this is how it all went down Friday after work. I just put in my 40 for the week and I needed a cold Root Beer ( I never drank and never will) and a new sweater. So I decided that I won't go downtown or the Greenwood Mall out South by my house, so I decided that going to the Lafayette Square Mall.....(Bad Move). I entered from the Burlington Coat side to be quickly eye balled down by this big, more to love, 13 sandwich eating, extra hair on his belly and black taco meat on his chest, top flight security looking dude starring at me like I was gonna steal some of the well looked over products of his store. Still, I rise or should I say shopped the store anyway. Now I think about it, how many pregnant employees can you have working at one time. I moved on to walk around the mall to see what other ghetto sightings I could view. Didn't take long to run into the empty game room. They actually have air hockey and centipede in that piece. The ironic thing was they dollar changer didn't work but since I got hood skillz, I went to the pop machine in the back and put in my dollar and hit the return change lever and got 4 quarters and kept it 100-lol! Next stop in hoodville was Max 10. I had a few bags with me that the clerk told me I had to leave at the front desk and they gave me a ticket to retrieve my items back upon exiting???? Where dey do dat @.... I was offended. I looked around and decided that the slavery days were over or is it showing at the movies again????? I asked the clerk "Why did I have to check my bag", do you know she told me that it was because it helps customers to shop with out having to carry bags around? That is funny because I thought it was to prevent obvious stealing. I mean everything in the freaking store was suppose to be $10. I think if I was personally gonna risk jail time, it wouldn't be at Max 10, but that's just me. I nexed walked past Harold Penner's store and saw so many bright colors that I thought I was trapped in a rainbow. I decided to not go in that store and headed toward Shoppers World. I was surprised to see the armed security person who looked surprisingly like the rent a cop from Burlington's! I was able to quickly find mix matched shoes, poor quality shirts and plenty of clothes sprawled all over the floor. I think I understand why all the white businesses have secretly left that mall. In fact the whole mall reminds me of Gary Indiana for some odd abandoned reason....
The experience taught me two things. 1) I understand why so many people get shot at this Mall. Its dead out there. 2). Any Mall that has a big sign that says "Special Sale on Gold Teeth" is a Mall that I am pretty sure I won't be returning to again. Perhaps I don't like the fact that place is a ghetto cliche that cloak's itself as a public  necessity. Its a joke and I ain't laughing.
I am Ward....

Rushing to be used up by Hollywood....

If you are anything like me, then I am sure you know that anything you ever wanted is right in your grasp! Perhaps you wanted to be a ballerina, a lawyer, Doctor or comedian? Well what stopped you? Fear, time, family or life? Whatever it was you should be glad you are where you are now, doing what ever you are doing-believe me! Look at all the stars that you know or have heard of in HollyWeird. Very few, if any, go on to lead what we would consider normal lives (Even though I don't know of any).
As a student of the scriptures, I clearly see how Satan uses music and entertainment to desensitize our senses to what is really going on. Side point: I read recently of a 9 year old boy killing his grandmother because she turned off his PS4 game (call of Duty). They say the little boy was so use to killing people in the game, that he didn't realize the his grandmomz would not come back to life. I don't know if i believe that but I am not playing God in this life!
Back to Hollyweird. I love shows like Lifeafter, Unsung and Where are they now. I feel like I know these people I watched on the tube and movies. But, why do I always feel surprised and dumbfounded about the events that are told.  Remember Roger from "What's Happening" that sucker had a bad Cocaine problem as did Whitney Houston,Mike Tyson, Rick James, Solider Boy, Lavar Burton, Marcia Marcia Marcia- Brady, Old Dirty Bastard and so on. One thing they all have in common is they were rushing to be used up by Hollywood!
I don't see how anyone can carry burning wood and not get burned? Likewise, Hollywood has a lot of bad people there, waiting to use people up (let's just say its Satan's playground) and spit them out when they are not hot anymore. If I hear about another broke ball playa I think i might just throw up on my wife! How the freak did Mike Tyson blow 400 Million bones??????? I won't even go no further on that subject. Heck Ray Charles got strung out on Heroin and that sucka was blind. So I am wondering what makes so many of us want to leave the lives we lead now to be someone we are not! Are we fame whores or do we just want to live life to the fullest?
I met a old man the other day and he had such a calm look on his face that I had to inquire what brought this feeling of relaxation to his person. He looked at me and flashed a wide kool-aide smile and slowly said he was too blessed to be stressed. He been beaten up before, filed bankruptcy twice in his life, lost 3 kids to death and been divorced by his high school sweetheart and homeless for 4 years before. But now he realized that loving God has shown his true happiness and hope for the future. I actually believe this man was happy. He doesn't need coke, drank or women either. Amazing I tell you!
Like I said, I am not a judge, so if you want to be famous in this life, then do what you have to! I think I am gonna stick to telling jokes to my kids.
I am Ward....

Being Nice

Is it me or have you noticed that companies are really big on customer service but not so much when it comes to internal customers???? Case in point: I recently helped and older customer find her destination and then turned and saw another person who works for my company walk past me as if I were an criminal he couldn't bare to look at. I was under the view point that were should always be cordial but especially to those of the family......right?
I began to look closer at this and realized that many co-workers walk past other staff and look away or at the ground. Hummmm, but why? Is is it like this everywhere? I am sure Google doesn't run this way nor does SouthWest Airlines.....

I Am Ward.....

Men get tired......

Men get tired of being strong
Men get tired of outside pressures
Men get tired of holding the pain inside
Men get tired of being looked down upon by you
Men get tired of getting N2 constant arguments w/ U
Men get tired of going through unnecessary changes
Men get tired of people trying to take advantage of us
Men get tired of your mood swings and jealousy
Men get tired of being used for $$$$
Men get tired of you not knowing "YOU"

No Matter how strong you are,
men get tired sometimes!
Ladies,
That is where you as a women, wife or lover has the power that the creator on put in you to lift up, build up and refuel the man in your life. On the other hand, if you think what you are doing is working......Good luck with that?

I am warD....

Things girls do to gross out guys........

"One time, this girl asked me if she could pop my zit. It's ok to pop her own-but asking to pop mine? What's wrong with her?" - George, 30

 "I'd asked my live-in girlfriend to take a shower with me, thinking we'd have some good sudsy sex. But then she peed in the shower! She told me she did it to save water, but I'm sorry, that is not a legit excuse." - Ian, 27

"I dated this girl who'd always bite her nails. That's fine-bad habit, whatever-but then she'd try to kiss me afterward!" - Cody, 20

"Once I walked into a chick's apartment and saw a sink full of red water with a pair of underwear floating there. I've been traumatized ever since." - Kevin, 25

"I usually enjoy giving my girlfriend foot massages. But one time she asked for one, and her feet were covered in callouses. Forget the Ped-egg-only sandpaper could have softened those rough puppies." -Stephen, 34

"My ex had long, curly black hair that I loved, but sometimes she would gnaw on it like a stick of gum. She didn't seem to mind that the strands were coated with dirt and hair products, but I certainly didn't want to kiss her after she was licking her locks!" - Ryan, 30

"Late one night, my fiancée got out of bed to go to the bathroom and let one riiiiip on her way there. I'd been sound asleep, but it was so loud that it woke me up-it sounded like a bomb exploded. And it smelled awful!" - Matt, 26

"One day, while my girlfriend had her period, she asked me if I'd watch her put in her tampon, since I'd asked her a question about tampons a few weeks earlier. I quickly refused. A few hours later, she called me into her room, and there she was with no pants on, pointing to the string dangling out of her vagina. I was seriously disgusted." - Chandler, 21

"I'd been dating this woman for a few months, and I really liked her. One Friday night, I invited her over for drinks at my place. After a few strong cocktails, we started hooking up. Then, as she was going down on me, she threw up on my package." - Jon, 27

"My girl and I met at home for a lunchtime quickie. She went to the bathroom first and then we hopped into bed and got things going. I was all excited and flipped her over for some doggy-style action, but then I saw a piece of toilet paper stuck in her butt...she'd obviously gone number two. And yes, it had some *remnants* on it. Needless to say, I got soft instantly." - Jonathan, 26

I am ward.....

The family that borrows $$$$ from each other.....will always cause issues......

As I look back over the years that I have been on my own, I have always had friends, family and users requesting me to loan them some of my coins because they caught the Chinese disease known as" FUNZ are Lowwww". I mean I don't see nothing wrong ( in my R.Kelly voice) with helping out a friend in need but eye find as I get older, that if you help someone when they are in trouble, they will remember you the next time they get in trouble.
It seems like people get caught up in repeating the same old cycles of repetition. For example, stealing from Mookie to pay Marquitta and living pay check to pay check isn't the best look especially when you want my change. Come to think about it, when you ask a bank for money, they come back with a myriad of questions that require answers for consideration.
O.k. back to the family.  They come up with all kind of excuses why they can't pay you back or why you should trust them when no one else would. Well, Wardy came up with a great ideal on money loaning moving 4ward. I simply say NO! I think someone being in a compromising  situation is an excellent opportunity for them to use strengths they didn't know they had to get out of it! I know, you can thank me later.....
Some may consider it mean, but I don't think I should have to feel sorry for child molesters, drug addicts or people who are broke due to their own errors. If you need a loan, get a cash advance, if you need a car, go to Enterprise and if you need clothes, go to Goodwill suckers.... I wouldn't say- I work hard for my $$$ -but I would say it is my money to do what I want. I was once told by a relative that I think I am all that because eye have nice house. Really???? I guess that can be a bad thing........NOT!
Advice: Know better and do better! Work hard and do what u can until you can do what you love. Make payment arrrangements and keep your eyez simple.
NO MASSSSS
I am Ward....

Why women are always changing up their look...........

Have you ever noticed the millions of women out there with the nice weave, colored contacts and the perfect mac makeup? The funny thing is these women say they want a real man....what the fudge (WTF)??? Sounds like a double standard to me. See men usually wear the same hair style for years and maybe the same style of clothing too. But women, lol......yall flip clothes and hair style like Jay changes clothes!!!
So armed with this knowledge, I inquired of a female (that I found to be very logical and wise) as to why women are always changing it up? The response was basically this:
 ""Men are visual creatures and they like what they like. So sometimes men are attracted to women with long hair and some days they want the chick with the blonde wig on with stripper shoes. A woman who wants to keep her dudes eye, may want to swithch it up to please him according to my source. She even stated that some men will tell his chick that he tired of her look and she should make a change. Even though this truth has the tendency to hurt the woman's, at the end of the day she is glad 4 this honesty, because this will keep them together!""
I had to marinate on this briefly because, honestly I only looked at it from the male perspective. I just knew men are visual but only liked one look. For example, I enjoy a woman who keeps her hair nice and clothes fashionable and stay in shape. I prefer her not to drink like a fish or use foul language. But then again, it is cool to see a girl like Black China some times too! So I agree, men can be fickle at times too. So now, I am thinking what do women want? Is it just to be loved by the man who chooses her? Does she think the dude is almost what she wants and just needs a little enhancement from her????? Heck, most women get involved in realtionships thinking they want to change (help better) the dude and men tend to get married to his woman and hopes (falsely thinks) she will never change. Both are usually surprised lol!
My thoughts are these: Its important to please your mate, but its equally important to know thy self first.
I am Ward......

prisoner of love.....we can break free if we don't tire out......

So many people don’t trust in love

Some are afraid of death

Others don’t believe to be free

I guess I be that sucker who is a slave of love

Ya know a victim of death

Or a prisoner waiting to be freed….

Ya understand that I trust in love, I am its slave

4 I face my death, I am a victim

4 I wish for freedom,  I am a prisoner

I hate being loved yet can’t help but to love back

Waiting to die yet not wanting to end my life

Waiting to be free of torture

Yet cherishing this new life and culture

Now I know that what you do, I can’t follow

What you say does not make Ward’s day

4 my blood runs strong and pure as paradise water

I love you no more; it’s in the past behind a door

When I die, my death will not be for you

But because my time is due

I am no longer a prisoner, now set me free…..

Love is what is is and can’t be denied, it has strength and long since tried.

With a mind of his own. Jealous at times and speaks as it feels

I decided to fight you love. I will win. I got you….

I am Ward….

Women just don't know.......

I have sometimes  wondered  if women really grasp how simple men really are??? I mean, we really don’t ask for that much and feel that we give the everything that is needed while carrying the world on our backs.  Yet and still, society seems to only care about the role of the mother. I get the importance of being the life giver and the parent who spends the most time with the kid during the formative years, but please don’t forget about the man and his contributions or his needs too.

I put down a few areas men feel are important.

*When dating, creeping or interested in a brutha…..If you like us, let us know. If you don’t, let us go. This game where you pretend you don’t care and secretly hope we chase you down is for teenagers. You think men like the chase? Perhaps. You think we like guessing whether we’re wasting our time? Hummm

* We know that, at times, tact can be the only four-letter word that doesn’t describe us, but women need to rethink their reactions to male mind. Men lie and deal with people they have no interest in. The art of BS—and indulging others with their BS—is how we get through the day. But with you, lucky you, we want to forget all that. We want to tell you why your mother bothers us and how you can solve the problem with your high-maintenance friend. In a relationship, honesty is a young man’s mistake because the longer a man feels punished for it, the more he begins to censor himself. And that’s when you really need to worry-lol!

* We acknowledge the importance of couple time. We’d even go so far as to say that, in the best relationships, love that is asserted each day deepens and extends. Lost in this, however, is the belief that time spent enriching oneself also enriches partnerships. In other words, going on a male retreat weekend with the boys does not diminish the bond we share. Like women need the affirmation of their girl friends, guys need the companionship of other men. This kind of solo time will refresh us and we’ll come back with more for you.  I think my boi Brandonnnnn said “Men need me time”.  Its good to do things without your shadow sometimes. Doesn’t mean you will cheat or bad things, its just for us suckers…….

* It is sad to say that equality in our times means adopting the worst of both sexes: Men get more sexualized and women can be cruder. And while no fair-minded guy wants women to return to the 1950s sitcom (although coming home to a roast chicken and a stiff drink ain’t bad as a fantasy), neither do we want the elimination of the feminine as a virtue. Don’t be ashamed to hold on to those things that make you different from us, like how you care about smelling nice or reminding us of empathy. That isn’t regressive; it’s just beautiful. A woman should be a woman and let a man be a man!!!!

*It can seem, at times, that the world elevates the feminine over the masculine and that the lessons men can impart are outmoded or regarded as Neanderthal. But when a bully is picking on your son, your husband showing him how to throw a punch is not crazy is it? Or if your daughter has an athletic talent, his testosterone-fueled guidance may teach her more than just competitiveness. Honoring what men know based on their experiences is just as valuable to the young as the insights of women. Freely sharing his wisdom prevents issues later. Basically, what equipment she has is not better than mine, appreciation is key!

I am Ward……

Truth......

I am Ward.......

It doesn't matter what you wear to worship God, the Bible says come as you are........or is that common misconception for those who don't read the word?

The other day I have a rather lively discussion with my homeboy about how to dress for a job interview. He (let's call him Randon) stated how he could make any combo of clothing work for the job interview, especially jeans! Now its important that we keep in mind that I have had 100's of jobs and one of my favz was that of a career coach (helping people prepare for and find careers in a challenged job market). I entertained this gooobadegoup for a few moments until I realized he was quite serious. So eye switched gears and tried to make a clear point.
I inquired of Randon, if he was going to meet President Obama would he wear jeans? Do you know he said he would!!!! He went as far as trying to get others to chime in on his monolithic view point. Nobody agreed with the poor lad, but I give him props for standing firm in what he felt was correct. The conversation continued on for sometime until I made my tie in point, of the jeans in worship.
As a person who has been trying and falling down many a times on the path of being Christian, I can honestly say that RESPECT is the least you owe the GOD you claim to serve! Most people want to put their best on when going on a 1st date, job interview, funerals,wedding and going to Worship serve. I especially say Worship because all of the good things that we receive, it is only fitting that we can dress up to show the importance of the fact that you are alive and present.  Now I know some are going to say but the Bible says come as you are. But does it really say that? If you think so, then you are one of those lost souls who think Eve gave Adam an Apple to eat too! I looked up a random site on the internet and found that the statement "Come as you are" is not a Biblical statement and that many people erroneously quote it often to fit their needs and bring that almighty dollar to the church! Why else would that statement become so popular?

(((“Come as you are” is sometimes misunderstood and misapplied in today's church. Those churches which are identified with the Emerging/Emergent Church or Hipster movements, among others, sometimes take the grace of God and turn it into licentiousness (Jude 4) by teaching that it makes no difference how you live, as long as you believe. If you come to Christ in an illicit relationship, they say Christ will accept you just as you are and sanctify that relationship. If you come to Christ as someone who enjoys the night life, you can continue those things, and use them to “reach others for Christ.” This may be a popular message, but it directly contradicts Scripture which clearly says that these things from our past lives should be left behind and that our former friends will think us strange for doing so (1 Peter 4:3-4). Romans 13:13 commands us to walk honestly, or decently, no longer participating in the licentious lifestyle of the world. Galatians 5:13 says that we are called to liberty, but that we cannot use liberty “for an occasion to the flesh,” excusing our continued sins.)))...

Now I don't want to get to deep and off subject, but eye will say this. Jesus didn't want to be made a King when asked while he was on Earth did he? He said his kingdom was no part of this world. Did you also notice that Jesus didn't have to act like a hip hopster or be accused of being an out dated thinker because he chose to respect GOD. I clearly understand the benefits of change but the God we serve is still the same. He only asks that we give him our best because he gave us his best (Jesus died for our sins). So is dressing up to serve him too much to ask?  True every man/woman don't have the best of clothing, but what ever your best is, wear it proudly. Recall the poor lady who only had 2 cents for her worship offering? She gave her all and her best and was blessed by God himself! If you disagree, by all means continue to dress like the world does at a nice strip club or dinner outing with co-workers you don't even like- if that works for you. But if you ever wake up and realize that the church is loosing it grip on parishioners because they don't have God's spirit, then I hope you learn to adapt to the void, while you are trapped in eternal darkness suckers. 
In closing, we all have to make the truth our own! So many stories in the Bible speak of how others were unable to follow the leadership of the Elders and how well it DIDN'T turn out. Change is good, but God has a plan. You can get with this or you can get dealt with on that.....
I am Ward.......

 

               

ATL 2013 the ReMixxxxx

I Am Ward......

Shout out to all the determined Players.....This is one for yalll.......

 

Recently a Louisiana minister was preaching at his Church, when he was shot to death! (http://usnews.nbcnews.com/_news/2013/09/30/20761921-pastor-shot-during-sermon-had-contact-with-gunmans-wife-cops) The minister (Ronald Harris) was shot by (Woodrow Karey) The shooter walked right up to the victim and shot him once in the chest and then another at point blank range to ensure he was dead. The man then fled and later turned himself into the authorities along with his two weapons. Come to find out that man’s wife was having an affair with the minister according to the recently found text messages that were exchanged between the cheating couple. I find no delight in death nor cheating but I decided to write down some steps for the man/woman who is bent on cheating. If these steps do nothing else for you, at least have comfort in knowing that you may not get shot but you increase your chances of staying alive. The game just got real out there…….

Cheater Rule # 1)

When cheating always cheat above/better than your current mate. (I am not going to explain the obvious suckers so keep up). For example, if you are dating/married to a $45K year working person, don’t date the fry cook at Burger King even if you can have it your way! If you situation is found out (and it will) you must be able to maintain your lifestyle. Its not a good look to go from a Mercedes S430 with the AMG kit to the Yugo GT with a flame pin strip. So go after someone who can benefit you somehow after you return to your senses.

Cheater Rule #2

The cheater must always keep it 100 with the side piece. She/He must know how to act in public when they see you out with the family. (NO eye contact or conversation and definitely no acting a fool). The side piece must know what the main piece looks like, work schedule, car driven and any tendencies to prevent unforeseen situations. This honesty will also build a closeness between the two cheaters that is invaluable if the three some should have to ever meet!

Cheater Rule #3

Never do 4 side pieces that you have not already done for the main lover. When it comes out, you can never EVER repair the damage with a Kobe Bryant (4 million dollar ring) sacrifice. By all means, give the side pieces little tokens of your appreciation of your situation like sharing your body, car sometimes and lunch or dinner her or there but that’s about it! Don’t say you love them either unless it’s the last resort!

Cheater Rule #4

Leaving any type of paper trail is a definite No--No suckA! This is includes but not limited to: Emails, texts, letters, cards, messages thru friends,pictures,etc. Ask the ex-mayor- Kwame Kilpatrick of Detroit or the minister who recently shot and killed from the 1st paragraph. At some point, some recently caught feelings will turn to hurt/rage and anything you say CAN AND WILL BE USED AGAINST YOU. You must learn to express your feelings in other ways other than the dangerous paper trail. Think about it, why didn’t Harriet Tubman leave notes for everybody to meet at the underground rail road when trying to escape from slavery. Cause she didn’t want to get caught silly!!!!

I you gotta cheat, please be aware of ALL your possible outcomes and the trail of hurt that you will leave behind. Heck, I been there before and  really loved  my chick, but I got out before it got 2 bad ( I think-lol). But in the end, we gotta own whatever we do as if  we got the receipt.

I am ward…..

Question: What things could you do, if fear wasn't a part of your life?

As a kid, I use to think that grown-ups had all the answers and how I couldn’t wait to know everything myself! Well, like most adults, I found out that life is a form of learning on the job un-winnable, test with multiple correct answer and incorrect answers-lol! I also realized that fear of the unknown or doing something new keeps people from being the best them they can and should be.  A recent goal I set for me and my family is being conscious of un-training the elephant.  Let me explain what that means: They say Elephants never 4 get things they learn. Usually this can be a good thing, but not always, especially when it comes to change. I entitled this blog this way because I have my moments of doubt, fear and insecurities when it comes to thy self.  Heck we all do if we are being honest with ourselves.

Most people who know me will be quick to tell you that I enjoy public speaking. Ironically, I have not always been that way! I would get so nervous when asked to speak but after being a substitute teacher in some of the roughest school Indianapolis has to offer no only forced me speak often but actually start to enjoy doing it. I had to accept that it is a part of life and its natural. The key for me, was knowing that failing to prepare for anything is really planning to fail at the task. I began to read things of interest such as the Bible, Relationship books, Journals and strange news stories on the web. I read about an African American male who is in the 8^th grade has earned 6 figures from the stock market because he immolated his mother who vowed to never be broke again! I read about how a man left his secure job at IBM to pursue a career as comedian (yeah he rich) and I even found out how Stella got her groove back. The thing all these people have in common is they were all in uncharted territories of their lives, but they looked/pushed past the fear and made it happen! We don’t have to have all the answers in life; we just need to know where to find them.

Man wasn’t born with a spirit of fear was he not? Any new parent can quickly tell you how you must keep your eye on a kid who is learning how to walk. Them suckers will pull up on anything with in hand reach distance and we are not gonna talk about what they will put in they mouths! So it seems when it comes to fear, we are taught like that elephant was. If we live in the hood, we are taught we are not suppose 2 walk in affluent neighborhoods. If we don’t have a college degree, we are taught we shouldn’t apply for leadership positions and if we are African American/Latino we can never be President of the U.S.A either?????  Whatever we need to do, May it be, losing weight, getting married, learning to cook or searching 4 the true God: Wardy advises this:  Stop being afraid of change and put on your big girl panties and go out there and show the world why you deserve to be fear free in 2013 and beyond.

I Am Ward......

truth.....

I am Ward.....

Please ((((WHOOOP)))) yo kids......or let me!

O.k. let me get str8ight to this one. I was in the store just the other freaking day, and I saw this little girl. No wait.....hold up, let me keep it 100 with yall. This little fat white chick looking like honey boo boo's 14th cousin twice removed, was in the store pitching a fit. Her mother asked her to simmer down ( I think that means calm down) and stop making a scene. Little honey boo boo jr got louder!!! That's when I turned around because I had this feeling that this was about to get real. Fast forward, the kids starts screaming at he momz and telling her she was gonna kill her and how much she hates her! I dang near fell on the floor with shock. The mother locked eyes with me ( Probably because my mouth was open and my eyes were wide as saucers) as if to say "Help me Mr. Ward".
Yeah I wanted to help her too, because I have seen this episode many a times and eye knows what to do. Let me tell you step by step. Read slow cuz this is real spit I am giving ya lol! 1). when the kid acts out for the first time, u the parent, must stay calm and say "Don't make me punch you in the throat Jamaal. 2). The kid will ignore this, but have no fear. You must not only fulfill the promise of the threat, you must take it one step further. Put that little tax exemption in a head lock and run his head into the nearest wall. Then say something that rhymes with your name for a good measure. 3) If the kid is black, this will scare him str8ight and the activity will cease until they think you ain't crazy no more! If the kid is white, its a good chance they will threaten to call the cops on you. Don't give in. Just dial 1-800-WhooPyoKid! Punch option 3 for send a big black man asap! I suggest Mandingo (He scares me) and he will arrive with a cube on his phone to take your Visa payment (Business 1st) then he will proceed to whoop your kids Assteroid to inch of his life. Trust me, it sounds bad, but worth the price.  Problem solved
I wanted to call for my neighbor the other day because I watched his kid cuss him out because he didn't want to come in from the rain. This has really got to stop people. I don't condone beating good kids, but the bad onez are the future......that is future criminals. Think about Micheal Jackson's daddy. He had to whoop a whole gang of kids and they some how survived and ended up rich! $$ isn't everything, but for a few million, I think I could have taken an extra punch or two!
Bottom line: If I see kids acting up one more gin in public.......I'm got to do what I'm got to do (in my old man voice). Look at the picture above and say "children are the future".....
I am WaRd.......

Ward asks: Are there any Logical females out thurrrrr?

I enjoy people watching, Yeah I said it! Notice I didn't say "people judging"? By far my favorite creatures to watch are the elusive female! I think I like them so much because of their unpredictability and illogical actions at times. I personally take offense when I can't get a Yes or No question answered with a Yes or No response. Apparently I am not the only one who feels this way, many of the men I know say its an issue for them too. Seems like the chick likes to "OVER EXPLAIN" everything to death. For example, say you ask you chick did you break your clock radio? Seems like a simple question right? WRONG SUCKERS! This response usually gets something like "Well you left the clock by the trash can in the laundry room, even though it was plugged in and I know you use it daily, I felt like you no longer wanted it because the phone rang when you was watching the Money Mayweather fight, and you said hello to the guy on the other end and told him that your old alarm clock was buzzing last night, so I figured you wanted me to throw it away?"
I am sure this makes sense to a female, but not to a dude. Just answer the question so I can move on with life and go get another one. GEESH....
Sometimes the female can get jealous of the smallest of things. I am unsure if its a lack of attention from the guy they love or are they just feeling some kind of way???? I know of women who get mad cause they guy watches 8 hours of football, spends to much time on Instagram or calls her on her flip flopping conversations. Perhaps this is what keeps couples togeather. Ya know, the never knowing of what, when , where or why! The ironic thing about it is, that most couples don't start out this way. Usually, it involves talking on the phone for hours at time, or you at his house or he is at yours. U just cant get enough of each other company, conversation and bodies!!!! Then something magical happens when  feelings get caught, the scenario changes. The ones you love, tend to be the ones whom hates you the most, by their actions and words. Logically speaking, one would think that to keep your relationship strong would require you to do what your mates likes and stop doing the things they don't like. Either, I am a genius or that is some simple logic!
As I told you, I enjoy watching women because of the messages I get to decode. I think the logic doesn't last due to women thinking since a dude loves her, then he must surely accept her for who she is ready to reveal to him. Maybe when y'all met she had long hair, in a style that you enjoyed, but now its different because she changed her mind. Or maybe she used to work out with you, but now she doesn't want to sweat her hair out because she got you sucker-lol! This is what they call the womenz prerogative to change her mind.  Again, the dude is suppose to love the female is her hair is long or short and love her skinny or fat. From a male perspective that thinking is the same as buying a cat and expecting it to bark like a dog? Why not just buy a dog that acts like a dog?????
This is what men want....

• A soldier/ride or die chick, that respects him and places nobody else above him but God
• Someone he finds interesting, attractive and easy to love
• A mild tempered chick who wins thru actions and never arguments
• A spiritual minded woman who wants to be a compliment
• Someone who can add value to his life, as a cook, lover and friend
• A team mate who knows her role and makes her dude boast about her to his boyz

Let's face it. Relationships come and grow, but one thing they all do is this. Either the couple grow togeather or grow apart!
I am Ward....

All this N Freakin Indiana......

Waitresses may not carry drinks into a restaurant or bar.

Hotel sheets must be exactly 99 inches long and 81 inches wide.

If any person has a puppet show, wire dancing or tumbling act in the state of Indiana and receives money for it, they will be fined $3 under the Act to Prevent Certain Immoral Practices.

Anyone 14 or older who profanely curses, damns or swears by the name of God, Jesus Christ or the Holy Ghost, shall be fined one to three dollars for each offense, with a maximum fine of ten dollars per day.

A three dollar fine per pack will be imposed on anyone playing cards in Indiana under the Act for the Prevention of Gaming.

The value of Pi is 3.

 It is illegal for a man to be sexually aroused in public.

Baths may not be taken between the months of October and March.

Check forgery can be punished with public flogging up to 100 stripes.

Mustaches are illegal if the bearer has a tendency to habitually kiss other humans.

It is illegal to sell cars on Sunday.

Pedestrians crossing the highway at night are prohibited from wearing tail lights.

Oral sex is illegal.

No one may catch a fish with his bare hands.

A man over the age of 18 may be arrested for statutory rape if the passenger in his car is not wearing her socks and shoes, and is under the age of 17.

Men are prohibited from standing in a bar.

It is against the law to pass a horse on the street.

You are not allowed to carry a cocktail from the bar to a table.

It is illegal for a liquor store to sell cold soft drinks.

Drinks on the house are illegal.

Some employees have to sign the board to leave the room

I am Ward.....

7 Things U ain't know about Ward or how I feels about it..........

1. When I sleep, I never snore.
2. I often counsel 3-4 people per week about life.
3. I am the only person I know who has never drank or smoked anything.
4. I tend to 2 beee logical and have a very low tolerance for stupidity.
5. Basketball is the greatest sport ever!!!
6. Communication is paramount to our relationship, especially yes or no responses.
7. I am a really good dancer, but seldom show my skillz.
8. If I have to argue with someone, I subconsciously with draw from them.
9. I enjoy reading, because the more I read, the more I realize what I don't know.
10. There is nothing that I can't do or learn.
11. I don't believe in failure, rather learning experiences.
12. I am huge Miami Heat Fan. They all play good ball!
13. I enjoy spending time with my kids.....they keep me laughing.
14. After taking a class about lying, I find that people lie all the time.
15. My sister and brother in law refuses to call me "Ward": Thus we never see each other.
16. My father and I have not spoken in years.......and I so cool with that!
17. I look for coupons for everything. I found a dollar tree coupon once!
18. I love doing stand up comedy because I am hilarious.
19. I think Instagram is full of truth (and silliness)
20. I would like to try my hand at acting one day.
21. I don't like repeating myself twice, especially if you were not listening the 1st time (sucka)
22. I love chocolate stars........

I am ward......