Fight the Power.....

1. Remember, more often than not, it’s about them and not about you. Generally critical people are critical of everything and everyone. You are not unique, so don’t make it personal. If they are critical of your promotion or your new shirt, they are likely critical of your co-workers’ shoes, the water cooler, and their limited choices of screensavers.
2. You can always choose to ignore them. Most critical people are not critical with malicious intent. This is just their way of life. However, there are those critical people who like to get a reaction and may intend to cause some negative feelings. In this case the best thing you can do is ignore them. The more you respond, the more likely they will continue to be negative – and so the cycle will continue. You can’t stop critical people from talking, but you have the power to shorten the conversation.
3. Give them the opposite. I once knew a lady who was critical of everything I did because she knew it would always get under my skin. One day I decided that for every critical thing she would say, I would say something nice. She would say “I hope you didn’t think that shirt was cute when you bought it,” and I would reply, “I love your shoes.” She was stunned — so much so that she repeated her critical statement. When she realized her critical statements no longer bothered me, she eventually stopped.
4. Give them honest feedback. When we know that a person has a reputation for being critical, we have a tendency to ignore or avoid them. It’s only natural: who wants to hear their critical statements all day? However, it is important to consider if they are aware of how negative they are and whether they understand their intent. Critical people need love too! It may be helpful to pull them aside and ask if they are aware of the negative energy they bring into a room. Talk with them specifically about how their negativity makes you feel and how it affects you. They may be completely unaware of their actions and willing to change their behavior.

 I personally know a person who is strongly disliked by so many people and I often wonder does it bother her? They say everybody needs two things from life. 1. To have someone or something to love and 2. To be loved by someone or something. With out these, its gonna be a bumpy ride for all involved......

I am Ward....