I
have sometimes wondered if women really grasp how simple men really are???
I mean, we really don’t ask for that much and feel that we give the
everything that is needed while carrying the world on our backs. Yet
and still, society seems
to only care about the role of the mother. I get the importance of
being the life giver and the parent who spends the most time with the
kid during the formative years, but please don’t forget about the man
and his contributions or his needs too.
I put down a few areas men feel are important.
*When
dating, creeping or interested in a brutha…..If you like us, let us
know. If you don’t, let us go. This game where you pretend you don’t
care and secretly hope we chase you down is for teenagers. You think men
like the chase? Perhaps.
You think we like guessing whether we’re wasting our time? Hummm
*
We know that, at times, tact can be the only four-letter word that
doesn’t describe us, but women need to rethink their reactions to male
mind. Men lie and deal with people they have no interest in. The art of
BS—and indulging others
with their BS—is how we get through the day. But with you, lucky you,
we want to forget all that. We want to tell you why your mother bothers
us and how you can solve the problem with your high-maintenance friend.
In a relationship, honesty is a young man’s
mistake because the longer a man feels punished for it, the more he
begins to censor himself. And that’s when you really need to worry-lol!
*
We acknowledge the importance of couple time. We’d even go so far as to
say that, in the best relationships, love that is asserted each day
deepens and extends. Lost in this, however, is the belief that time
spent enriching oneself also
enriches partnerships. In other words, going on a male retreat weekend
with the boys does not diminish the bond we share. Like women need the
affirmation of their girl friends, guys need the companionship of other
men. This kind of solo time will refresh us
and we’ll come back with more for you. I think my boi Brandonnnnn said
“Men need me time”. Its good to do things without your shadow
sometimes. Doesn’t mean you will cheat or bad things, its just for us
suckers…….
*
It is sad to say that equality in our times means adopting the worst of
both sexes: Men get more sexualized and women can be cruder. And while
no fair-minded guy wants women to return to the 1950s sitcom (although
coming home to a roast
chicken and a stiff drink ain’t bad as a fantasy), neither do we want
the elimination of the feminine as a virtue. Don’t be ashamed to hold on
to those things that make you different from us, like how you care
about smelling nice or reminding us of empathy.
That isn’t regressive; it’s just beautiful. A woman should be a woman
and let a man be a man!!!!
*It
can seem, at times, that the world elevates the feminine over the
masculine and that the lessons men can impart are outmoded or regarded
as Neanderthal. But when a bully is picking on your son, your husband
showing him how to throw
a punch is not crazy is it? Or if your daughter has an athletic talent,
his testosterone-fueled guidance may teach her more than just
competitiveness. Honoring what men know based on their experiences is
just as valuable to the young as the insights of women.
Freely sharing his wisdom prevents issues later. Basically, what
equipment she has is not better than mine, appreciation is key!
I am Ward……
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