Just another day in Chicago

I was talking with the fellas today about what makes them happy in their relationships. I don't think I should actually say what they was said, but I can paraphrase it for those with sensitive ears! The common theme that ran through the conversation is love. Love of the relationship, love of self and Love enough to be a good forgiver.
Love of the relationship focused on doing what it takes to keep the situation new. If that mean getting back into shape or not getting fat, ya might want to do that. How many brothas look at celebrites and think man....In reality the guys want to love their own woman, but life has a way of switching your priorities around. After a hard day of work, cooking dinner and checking checking homework, exercise might not fit the schedule. I can dig, it but that don't mean your dude is suddenly blind. Just do it.
Love of self focused on being able to do something that makes ((you)) happy so you don't need to sweat us 24/7's. Get a hobby, join a book club or take a cooking class. Love your self enough to know that you are important to yourself!! Loving your self means you need some ((you)) time to prevent you from loosing your identity. Its nothing more sexy than a woman who wants but don't need me or at least that is what Neo said!! Not to mention the whole communication aspect of love. Your mate can know you for years but will never be mind reader, so tell us what you want, feeling or thinking. We are only men-lol!
Love and forgiveness is a no brain-er. When two imperfect people come together and form another imperfect union some problems are going to arise. If you are a good forgiver, when the sun sets you will work that $(*@ out and when you awake start the new day fresh. That doesn't mean you are over looking things, just that you love your mate enough to agree to disagree. Of course if this is a serious matter, then you gotta do what you gotta do. I just think for two people meet and like each other and start a relationship is not easy in the 2009. So just try suckers.
Of course I could get deeper, but hey, its just another day in Chicago.....right!
I am Ward....