O.k. Real Talk on this one yall. My nephew who is in the pic above in the middle gave me permission to break down this situation (sorta, but its too late now anyway-lol). See my nephew is a good dude, well mannered,keeps his hair tight and respectful to other people. In fact he was very instrumental in helping me make a major move in the freezing kold.
His situation is this, he met this girl who was six months pregnant back in the day. This is not necessiarly a bad thing if you can handle being step dad at 19 and it ain't even your baby!!! I assume that the common thing to hope for that you complete school and get your self straight and then settle down with your soul mate-right? Well my nephew must have develop strong feelings for this woman cause he still with her. I met her a few times and she seems pretty cool even though she is quiet around me, I think she really likes my nephew. Then again, she may just want a baby daddy-lol! My concern is how does a young man struggling to find his own identity in life take on this type of responsibility when he has never lived on his own, traveled by him self or had any real bills. Is he being fair to himself or her?
Then comes that whole disciplining the child that aint yours- that you baby sit for and buy items for. Trust me the real baby daddy is gonna wreck havoc in nephew's life for many a year to come, or worse he may totally slack in his parental duties because he got a fill in!
My advice for you nephew is this....Think hard about what you want for the future, map out what steps you have to take to achieve your goals and don't worry about anybody else and just dew you. Shoot Usher did his thing- didn't he? I wish you the best but keep in mind that you got one shot at life, so make the best of it.
I aint yo daddy Wardacious.....
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