What is a friend

Someone whom one trusts, knows and likes is one of the definitions that Dictionary.com gave for the meaning of the word friend. I looked that up because of two conversations I had this week with people I assumed were my friends. I still consider both of them my friends but with a clearer understanding.
Situation number one goes like this.....Lets call him Anthony! He stated that he can't tell me everything he deals with or thinks because I-nor anybody can handle his thoughts. I don't know if I was offended or just perturb'd because I trust Anthony with my thoughts on a variety of topics. So now I am thinking what kind of secrets does this dude keep. Did you kill Jimmy Hoffa, did he shoot the Pope back in the daze or worse....is he the shooter of both 2 Pac and Biggie Smalls???? I don't think its just that serious with Anthony, he just has trust issues. Perhaps he talks to his woman about deep issues, but still as friend I would like to know who I am dealing with. I think Jerry Springer said once during his closing " Its alright to have skeletons in your closet, but as a friend I have the right to look in the closet sometimes to make sure you are cool".
Story number 2...Lets just say John's woman thinks it is alright for a person to talk sideways to their supervisor!! I am a firm believer that respect is given and not always earned, but you should never mistreat someone who has a say in your future with your job. An old boss named Jim Van Dyke once told me that it is completely o.k. to treat staff nicer who make your job easier and those who make you life a living...you know what can get the boot. I understand that now, but John's woman thinks its just the way people are and supervisor have to accept insubordinate staff. I don't know about yall, but if I talk crazy 2 my boss, I can expect to be looking for a new job that same day. Funny thing is, I use to think a friend would know me and know that I live by he golden rule. So basically today's learning curve has taught me that a friend is someone-- whom one trusts, knows and likes. How you during?
Ward