I do not have teenage kids as of yet, but if all goes well, one day I will have two. In fact, I am looking forward to the teenage years mainly because everybody is often heard as saying how difficult they can be.
I do have 3 teen-age nephews that I am very close with. Its almost like they are my own kids. I have learned quite a bit from them and vice-versa I would say. I have had conversations that the parents know nothing about including steroids, alcohol usage, sex and living with the opposite sex. If I could tell parents any advice, I would say something like this.....
Imagine that you are driving on a long straight highway. 4 many miles, U have had to make only minor adjustment 2 your steering. Then, suddenly, the road takes a sharp turn! @ keep your car on the road, U have no choice but 2 adjust your steering. It is similar when your kid becomes a teenager!! 4 some years, your parenting methods have perhaps needed little adjustments. Now, your child's life has taken some turns and U must steer N2 the curve by adjusting your techniques.
*If your kids seems reluctant to talk, do something together- take a walk, go 4 a drive, play a game or clean the house together and start the communication process.
*When your teen makes a strong statement, say something like this--I can see you're upset and I want to hear what you have to say. Tell me Y you feel that I treat you like a child or why should I extend your curfew?
*If you r teen if unresponsive to questions, try another approach! Don't ask how her day was, tell her about yours and see if she responds. Or ask how their friends feel about certain topics.
My point is keeping the lines of communication open. Parents must be parents but also swift about hearing and slow about anger! Never give up, we are not alone. We can and will do this. You turned out pretty good, didn't you-LOL!!
I have no teens Ward......
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