4 giveness

How many times am I 2 forgive my brother? This question was asked of Jesus some 2 thousand years ago. For those of you who don't know the answer- it might just surprise you. Don't get it twisted, we can definetly forgive someone, but forgetting is the hardest part of all. Sure its easy to take out trash, but seldom do we go out and bring the trash back inside to re-examine it all. Y can't we be like that with our loved ones.

In this writers opinion, I think it has a lot to do with pride and feelings. When someone we know and love hurts us, its ironic. We never expect it from them. They know us, we trust them, its not suppose to happen that way. Then somehow "Sorry" just doesn't seem to cut it. Perhaps on some level we may want to hurt them back so the offender can feel the gravity of the pain that they inflicted upon us.

I know I have hurt people before and wish that I could take back some of the things I have said and done, but I can only learn from my errors and try to not repeat those silly mistakes again. Again, I think that Jesus came to Earth as a perfect man and he was killed for no other reason than trying to help people. I guess we should expect no more than he received due to inherited imperfection.

Well my challenge for myself today is to be forgiving to others more often!! I won't get mad at the jerk who cuts me off on the highway, I won't get sucked into arguments about ""nothingness issues"" and I get upset at people who give sucky customer service. Today I will be the example that challenges you to look past the past and embrace the future with a smile.

I am Ward.....

Me, Myself and the kidz

Today was a pretty good day for me! I went to a job that I actually enjoy, helped some people and made some new friends at the same time. You know what they say about a friend in need..... Nevertheless those of you who really know me -should know whom I spend the majority of my free time with. That is correct, its my two daughters (hence the picture). Tuesday was yet another Daddy and girls day out. We went to the dollar show at 5:20 to see this movie called Penelope. It was surprisingly good. I had planned to go to sleep and awake when the pain stopped, but it caught my attention. See this young girl had a pig nose passed down from a family curse and it could only be broken by marrying some rich sucka. Well she quit hiding and learn to love herself and broke the spell. My kids asked what I thought? I said its all about loving your self enough to know that as imperfect as we are, we are made perfectly like how we are suppose to look. The rest of the world can kick rocks cause it aint gonna change.
We then went out to Ryans and got stuffed on everything from ribs, corn, steak, salad and baked pork chops. Do I have to say it was good!!! During dinner we all took turns talking about what our day consisted of and then went shopping at Burlington's Coat Factory. We came back home and made sure the cribb was tidy, jumped in our respective showers and had a family Bible study amongst us 3, said our prayer and they went to bed and I came to blogg....
Its funny sometimes to think I never wanted kids. Now that I have them, I find balance and peace. I love my kids and enjoy spending time with them ( at least for now!)
I just hope that I am a positive figure in their lives and hope they grow into beautiful God fearing women.

I am Ward

Love

Today I studied all about love. I found that it has four different meanings from the love a parent has for a child, brotherly love, general love of mankind and love between a man an woman. I won't insult my readers by giving all the Greek terms-because that might robb you of the job of looking this information up to see if I am right!
Anyway with so many love options 2 choose from, its almost funny to think that hatred is so prevalent in the world today. Point: I know a woman who is very charming, great mother of several children, hard working, well kept and up beat. She is one of those people who would give the shirt off her back to a stranger in need (a good Samaritan). Her down fall is her husband- he wants to do his own thing because he thinks the grass is greener on the other side. I understand his view points because of all the great qualities that I mentioned about his wife, I omitted one thing- She never asked her husband what he wants or needs from her? Communication from both parties is missing here. A man is gonna do what he is gonna do, but sometimes love is not perfect. Someone has to be the 4 giver or the one to absorb the blame especially when the two are one. Everyone knows that the woman is the one who holds the family togeather, but it takes a stronger woman to help or sometimes push the man into a husband. I envy the strong black women everywhere.

My other love thought is parents and kids ( here we go again). To spank or not spank, that is the question. But the unanimous answer should always be YESSSSSS. We could go to the scriptures and see something about not whupping that tazz can result in the Parent getting regular beat downs from an out of control teenager? Then again you got some parents who go to the other extreme and beat the kids for every little thing. I look at it like this. A child is like a spring, if you hold the pressure to tight the spring will never be allowed to stretch -let it go to soon, you have big trouble in litte China!! The key is to release it slowly with....whats that word again....oh yeah ( in my Steweey Voice) "Love".

These are two true stories that I am thinking about today, I hope that they both turn out for the best, but at the minimum, these people are not alone because we all got problems 2.

Remember I am Ward.....

Customer service is dead and you helped to kill it.

I have long accepted the dicotomy of fast food being a reality, but i still have to eat at a resturant from time to time. Well here goes this crazy example. I arrived at work about 30 minutes early and felt the last fruit loop ceral wear off. I knew immedeately that Wardy must get that egg Mc Muffin that was dreamed about the previous night. So I jumped in my Mercedes SL560 ( O.k. it was an old mazda 626-but its clean) and drove down to the Keystone and 38th street McDonalds. I walked up to the line with 3 dollars in hand and a kool-aide smile on my face. But what I heard next hurt my heart.

This Hispanic woman and her guy was ready to place an order. The server was very hard at work "NOT" doing her job. She was texting on her cell phone and talking to the pancake cook about why Flavor Flav IS sexy. ( I guess looking back now I should have left at the moment??). She finally took the order and the Hispanic woman mumbled to her self an obviously bad name because the server said "Excuse you, I know Spanish"! The Hispanic (lets call her Maria) woman said I was talking to my boyfriend. Well the server looked back and told the pancake cook as her manager walked up an over heard. To my surprise, the manager sided with the server and cook make a smart remark to the customer. WTF??

I am not saying who was right or wrong in this one, but as a business -I thought the purpose was to make money by providing a service to your customer to earn and keep their business. Ya know the 20/80 rule. I would just like for once to go into a restuarant and be greeted with smile, quick and accurate service with out all the extras. Perhaps I am asking for to much on this issue. I guess it is true about changes. The only person you can change in any relationship is yourself. So the next time I go into McDonalds I am gonna stand up for justice and not allow any craziness to happen on my watch.... ( Never mind that- Them Mc Muffins are off the chains- you know we live in the ghetoo- now deal with it)!

Eye had 2 learn it 4 myself......

I think I finally understand why grandparents are so patient with grand kids. They spent a great deal of their time looking out for every possible dangerous situation their kidz could face. "Dont touch the hot stove, look both ways B4 crossing the street, wipe your face or wash your hands". It is no wonder that parents have time to have time 4 time! (That actually took a long time to think of.)

One would think that this worry wort syndrone that I call it- transfers into our everyday life. Case N point as follows. My brother from another mother had a tough decesion to make even though he knew the answer all along. He drug his feet and made thousands of excuses why he should not have done it and even made some convincing points to boot. I just kept telling him, "Man they was there for you and you gotta be there for them". Looking back now, Perhaps I was a bit insensitive, but that is what I felt he needed to hear and that why I told him. I would rather be hated for telling you the truth than to be loved for not being the Ward you all know me to be.

Nevertheless, my brother and I discussed the issue again and he told me that he was going to stand and deliver. (Yeah the sucka manned up). He looked at he ground then back up to me and said I had to learn it for myself. I was proud of him- not because I wanted to be right, but because he did it his way.

As far as the parents whom I mentioned above. They like grandparents, learn that sometimes you gotta let UR kids find out that boo-boo does stink, even if the gotta tripp and fall down in. They will live, learn and keep it breezee. Then they too will say, I had to learn it for myself.

I am Ward......

What a Tuesday I had

Today I had a training down on Shelby street (where my new office is at) and it was wonderful. The speaker was an older black woman who has her Phd. I only mention that fact because she earned those degrees during a time when most blacks were not thought of as highly-like now (yeah right!). Anyway, the topic was on case management-specificallly on how to avoid burn out. I learned so much that I am still excited. I think the biggest point for me is, that now I realize that I don't have to have all the answers to all my clients myriads of questions. The clients are actually giving their problems to me while they kick back and wait for the answers from my efforts. But whoooaaa nelly, Wardy is gonna flip the script starting Wednesday!!

In order to get some, you gotta give some. A friend of mind recently asked why does society want us to try to employ ex-offenders that no one wants to hire? I gave it thought and came up with the following. It is actually better for society to hire ex-offends, because they get a $2500 tax credit every year for starters, 2ndly, people who work pay taxes which benefits all of us, 3rdly, by putting people to work will keep them from returning to the way of life that got them in trouble in the first place. Our role in this is to be the catalyst to help everyone come togeather in a peaceful way. Is this difficult? Heck-to-the-yeah!!! But that is why they got us, we are caring professionals who can and will make a differnce.

I don't know how I will feel tomorrow night, but the weather is great, gas prices are soaring and I don't care *because I am alive and healthy!!! I just want to encourage at least one person to do an act of kindness tomorrow and not to worry about the other issues....just for one day.
I am Ward....

Iz it really dat serious?

Have you ever noticed that once you start to yell or elavate your voice at someone or something, you have to keep up that action or "YOU" may not be noticed. I see kids not taking their parents on the 4- real- tip until they start to act like a new fool. I completely understand that people get emotional from time to time due to human imperfections, but should we not keep in mind that we reap what we sew? Parenting is not a chore, rather a prividledge that must be taken seriously. It seems to me that another viable option would be speaking to the youth with respect and love. Catch the kids when they are doing something right then give them a nodd of approval and a kind word then see what results from this approach! I love to say to my kids, " Hey you did a great job or you are special and (my favorite----)Thank you"!
Wardy sez, "The best advice you can give someone...is a darn good example, ask Jesus"

Eye was just wondering.....

Sometimes its hard for me to unwind before I go bed, especially on Sundays. My mind starts to wonder about things. Read and tell me what you think>

*Since smoking causes so many problems, why is it legal? I mean the cancer it causes, the pollution, the insurance bills, hospital stays, the gold teeth, the bad breath and the way it just makes people look so uncool. I see them outside in the cold smoking.

*Why do we send people to prison to rehabilitate them and never get around to that. It seems to be a strong trend between high school drop outz and people who end up in jail. Why not start at the root rather the end?

*If we can demand that all televisons change the way consumers view them by 02/17/09, why can we not make all the auto giants create electric cars or all hybird models without the lobbist blocking -like they once did in the early 90's?

*How come when women get mad @ men* they sometimes put them in the dog house and then can understand why the man ends up in the cathouse??

*If we have to pay a water bill at our homes and apartments, who pays for the water in public water fountains and how much is that bill?

*Why do unattractive people think that attractive people are neither smart or got their job based on their looks?

*Why do we put round pizza in a square box?

*Do people with no arms wear deodarant?

*Why do some gay people think that their struggle is the same as the African Americans??

*Since everyone knows that our voting process is broken/outdated, why not just change it and make it fair or work the way it is suppose to?

*Since the divorce rate is so high in the world, why not make it difficult to get married and easy to get a divorce?

What I learned today

I recently had two chances to have 2 great arguments. But being the calm person I try to be, I willingly passed. Let me share the situationz with you and U do the math on what you think. Situation #1). I was asked if I would cut my nephew's hair in the kitchen( I am a licensed barber by the way.) At first I said I would do it because I was distracted and just wanted to stay focused. However after a few moments I gave it thought and said I would rather not, besides I was tired. I mean, would I ask my physican to perform surgery on my toe in his car while we drive down the street----I think not!! So why should I not take my skilled profession any less serious? Anyway, I was given a lot of lipp because I said I would perform the delicate task and then flipped the script. Oh well, needless to say he didn't get his hair cut--by me!

Situation #2. The dreaded what are we gonna eat or do for dinner/lunch question has lead to many an arguments, I am sure! I know I can't be the only one- am I? Well you get where I am going with this. I just wish people who ask a question can sometimes bring an expected answer to the table to.

Now this is the lesson for me today, so read slowly from here on out. Anybody can get upset and retaliate when their feelings are bruised by others words. But two wrongs will not make you right, but it will get you even (lol). I, The Ward, went to the Bible for help and found the words written at James chapter 3 verse 13--and it says* Who is wise and understanding among you? Let him show out of his fine conduct his works with a mildness that belongs to wisdom.

I can dig it because, stupid issues placed in my path is a chance for me to find strenths to use that I didn't know I was capable of using.

Listen up yall, I got madd issues 2day

Well I am virgin on the blogg scene today, but I assure you that by the time I complete this journey both you and I will both be surprised about what information is trapped in side my mind, lol.

Before we take flight in this situation, I want to thank you for passing on the knowledge to me-which allows me to share my thoughts with others whom I trust, love and want to know me better. I have heard that life like K's Jungle out there sometimes, but still I rise!

Anyway its Saturday and I have a lot on my plate. I have to take my friend on a quest for the perfect minivan and possible car. I guess he has money like that. I have been looking at so many vans, that I think I may get me one too. I can see it now, I will get me a handicapp parking decal, some Ben gay cream and a cane and drive my van to Wal-mart to kick it with the old folk, lol.

I am also going to an anniversary party around six, so I must hustle to the spot and get this pink LaCosta shirt so I can be fresh when I step up in that joint! I need to get a gift too, so I think I will run by the dollar store and see if I can use a coupon ( yes I am very cheap like dat).

I didn't have the kids last night and I was able to get caught up on the cleaning of the old home. Didn't take long cause the game wasn't on t.v. to distract me, so I got done and went to stake-n-shake around 1am and got me a Banana shake and fries and read my relationship book and ear hustled the black couples in the corner talking ***t about what they was and wasn't gonna do. Ahh to be young and dumb again.

Question/thought for today? Do them women on Flavor of love really think flav is fly or are they there for Flav? Next Flav will have his son do Flavor of love 4 (yes I would watch)