Da great Tipping Debate (remixed)

Eye don't know about U, but I don't think leaving a tip when eating out is a requirement because ummmmm.....it ISN'T! I once got into a real big drawn out discussion with an ex-waitress because she said it people like me, who hurt the waitress's income by not tipping. She even went so far as saying that wait staff only get paid $2.85 per hour. I guess that was my fault the owner of the restaurant getz over by paying below minimum wage and then expect the customer to buy the food and and then pay extra for someone to walk it over to me.
I think waiters have a hard job at times depending on the clients but I am one of them people who are big on customer service. As my new motto goes "I cant expect every 1 to think like me", I expect bad service when I go out. Its the new generations way of say thank you. I know I can go to places that allow self service like Ryan's or Golden Corral. Hey its America, I can go anywhere I want to suckers.

True story: I went to Out Backs with my family the other day and had the waitress from Haiti. She came to our table to get our drink orders. That went smooth or so I thought::: after 10 minutes of waiting. She came back and apologized because she was working a big table, but still managed to mess up the drink order. No problem we were ready to order and did just that! Well another 10 minutes went past and the salads came out along with our main course.What!!!! Again we dealt with the apologizes. Again, no problem. Well we tried to quickly eat our salads B4 our steaks got 2 cold, but it didn't work. My sister's steak was burnt as was mine. I suggested that we not complain and pay and go else where on me (that on me part is a lie, it just sounded good)but when the waitress returned to ask if everything was cool, we told her and she said we should have ordered medium well. I don't like people telling me what I should have done. I explained that well done does not mean burned. She rolled her eyes and went and got the manager on her on. He was cool and said the right things but it didn't work. He apologized and said he would adjust the bill. I told him it wasn't necessary, but he insisted (that's true). Again, waitress gal returns and said I had to fight with my manager to get you a discount. We was like yeah right! My sister and husband left a tip but not me. I left and went to the car. I heard that the waitress was looking for her tip after my departure. I hope she found it. What she didn't know is I wrote in very tiny letterz....."buy the Thriller album cuz the King of Pop is dead"
Was I wrong from not leaving a tip? Not in my opinion, because if you want it, then act like it. I only tip for people who give good customer service like most professionals do. Heck I was in the customer service field for years and learned what gets good tips. Now I can't give nothing but advice...

Ward up yall......

Sunday

Sunday was cool even though the world is still mourning the loss of MJ. Its so ironic because just last week my kids wanted to know about MJ, so we looked at all the old videos he and his brothers had out and appearances on t.v. My kids were really impressed and inspired. We studied how he was raised as one of Jehovah's witnesses and then later changed to the Muslim faith. I told my kids that the world can say what they want about him, he owed us nothing about his personal life, he was just an entertainer, a very good one!

Then my friend and I were chilling in the car one night at Perkins listening to MJ's greatest hits and how deep the words were. I recall specifically talking about you are not alone. R.Kelly wrote and produced that joint for MJ.(In fact Kelly sang it too and really put it down). Then boom out of nowhere, the man up and dies. I didn't see that coming.

I know he isn't the only person/celebrity 2 die recently but I think like world realizes that Wacko Jacko was more than that. He was a man who gave his life for entertaining the masses. He truly crossed color lines with his music. Special people come and go and some will be missed more than others.

Like I said what ever the man did wrong is between him and his God, but I got my Thriller album and others.... By the way BET did a wonderful job by making this about the man. I enjoyed the program. I hope it give people the closure the need...

Ward.

If you fight in Wal-Mart.....YoU are GhEtTOe

Lets just face one simple fact. There are no experts on life that any of us know of, other wise I would not have to write this entree. Needless to say, here goes......

Who does not route for the under dog? I really think that answer will change greatly when it comes to ghetto-ness. There have been a few times that I found my self in Wal-Mart during rush hour hoping I can get in and get the heck out ASAP! Well it never fails. Some body gets upset about something that I find trivial and acts a fool. My favorite is when a down home fight ensues!!! Until viewing a live ghetto Wal-Mart fight, I would have sworn that was some Jerry Springer type ishhh!

Well peep this, I was talking to someone who explained the art of a Wal-Mart fight in complete detail. The person (A) said they saw someone in line(B) who robbed them of personal property and wanted them to know she saw them. ( the start of the issue). After a brief exchange of words another family member joined the- ummm discussion and a fight was on the launching pad!! Of course everyone passing by only saw the display of stupidity and no doubt could care less about the reasons. Person "A" said they had to represent so they started the argument. I asked if they thought that was ghetto in nature. Of course " A" said it wasn't because she is not a ghetto person????

This response made me ask myself how does my back ground affect my future. Growing up in a single parent house hold can be a challenge but it is not an excuse for acting ignorant in public or private for that matter. Growing up with meager funds can cause a person to become resourceful with finances, clothing and attitude. When you think about it, haven't black people always had to work twice as hard to be considered almost equal.

I am really trying to be brief with this entry because its too personal, but when I see or hear of people who act ghetto and then try to justify it just turns me off. It reminds me of addicts who are unaware of their situation but can always come up with a great reason for the cause. People can change, but we- first have to realize that when we were as babies ,we acted as such, but now that we are older, we must also act accordingly. Can you say public etiquette??? Even ignorance of the law is not an excuse for not knowing. So if you fight, argue or just draw unwarranted attention to yourself in public, you are doing a great disservice to your self, potential or current employers, your family who learn from you and of course your self! With that being said, if you don't know if you are ghetto, don't feel bad because all the people on Jerry Springer and Maury don't think they are either....but then again they act igg-norant in public...hummmm

Ward..

Just let your Yes mean Yes and your No mean NO!!!

I saw a man on the Today show complaining about how Coco Cola tried 2 play him. He opened a pop bottle that said he won $10,000!! Of course he was excited, but Coke wasn't having it. They said it was an error on their part because even though he was a winner, the contest wasn't suppose to start for another two weeks. So they told him they would give him $200 for his trouble instead of the 10K! Ummm I think not. The man did more than call Rafael Sanchez....he called the Today show and they put him on live. Needless to say, Coke called to make that situation right! They said they would give him the 10K and some extra items. At last all was happy again for everybody. I think Coke eventually did the correct thing by letting their yes mean yes. They a was pushing that reduced amount but they had to try. I consider that like giving a hungry whale a tic-tac and asking are you full now?

When I think about what some one's word means, I think of that as an extension of you. A verbal contract if you will. A friend use to tell me that her kids were expecting to get picked up by their father and would fall asleep in the living room with their coats on waiting on him. He gave his word --but obviously no one knew when he was speaking for the moment or really being sincere. I think the Coca Cola guy could handle being lied to better than a loved one can. Where is the love mannn?

Wardy point: Anybody has the right to change his/her mind on anything at anytime. No getting around that, but you can not get mad at someone for how they feel or react to your inconsistencies affect them. People are only works in progress! ((( Would you stay at a job that promised you $75K during the interview and then later changed to it to 21K when you started. Of course you would because you are so understanding--yeah right!)))

I am just a Ward who is letting his yes mean yes...

Just let your Yes mean Yes and your No mean No ----suckers.....

I am ward

I know my opinion can't be wrong sucka!

Malcolm X was quoted as saying that "If you throw a brick into a pack of running dogs, only one of the dogs would scream"! Humm, well eye finally figured out what that man meant. Pleeze peep the following closely.

Wardy was engaged in yet another controversial conversation and spoke about Bob Knight (former Indiana University Mens Basketball coach) and how his views were on rape. Knight said "If you are going to get raped and can't get away, to sit back and enjoy it" or something like that. The point is that is his opinion on getting raped or surviving it. Is he wrong? I would say no because, this is his view based on his experiences with life? Would he be wrong if he says my nose is 3 millimeters to wide? Who of us can judge another person's opinion? The other person I was speaking with thought I should be bothered by his comments because I have two daughters. Well, it didn't bother me (sorry) because that man has it own issues and I ain't got time to give time to something that is not going to make me money or save me money-ya feelz me. Do you think Bob Knight would care if I said Wal-Mart got waaaayyyyy to many Handy-capped parking spaces ( and they do) probably not but that disabled Walmart shopper may try and run me down with his motorized wheel chair! Point: Bob Knight has forgotten more about basketball then you and I will ever know, but that don't mean he is a relationship expert,Lol.

Please understand that Wardy is not a know it all (I mean I didn't take no stinking classes in know-it-all-ology) but in my opinion I feel that we all are entitled to our own view points no matter how crass it may be!

I have views that many disagree with for example, Remember when Bill Clinton was president, I felt that what he did with Monica was between his God, his wife and Monica. He was eleceted to run the country and not to the example of the perfect mate (not excusing his actions are acceptable). I think Micheal Vick should be allowed to get his money back. He served his time and is a good athlete. I am sure people could and would arugue me down on my views, but at the end of the day, I will still have my views and you will still have yours so WHY CAN'T WE JUST GET ALONG- RODNEY "CRACK HEAD" KING....

Today's lesson for me is this.........Brotha Malcolm helped me to see that the dog that cried out, was the one in the pack that got hit by the brick! In other wordz sucka, he had be hurt by the words, actions or thoughts of another literally. Likewise, we are all human and can easily get caught up. What hurts me may have no effect on you and vice versa!

I think the best medicine in this situation is to apply the GOLDEN RULE....Treat others the way you want them 2 treat you!!

I am Wardy

Blame it on the Akkk-ka-kaka-kaa-hol.....

Last night my nephew spoke with me about some pressures that young people go through. He asked me if I ever drank in high school. I explained to hime that I have never had a drink of Alocohol in my life! He said that he hasn't either. I told him that it is nothing wrong with drinking in moderation but most of my high school and collge friends drank simply to get drunk.
Nephew stated that at some of his parties he attends drinking is expected. I can dig it because that how it was for me back in the daze.
I did not really get to deep with him about this because I wanted to see how he felt about it later on. But what I plan on telling him is this. I know that drinking is like a right of passage for many but in my opinion, the world is made up of 95% followers and 5 % leaders. Those same people who want him to drink and probably smoke are followers and they are actually looking up to nephew to see which direction he is going to lead.
I think that you can have fun with out having a drink. See at the end of the day, Alcohol is still a drug. Drugs serve a purpose, so he needs to ask him self why does he want to drink (if he chooses). Is it to fit in with the followers, to escape reality or some other reasons. Looking at the picture above you may think that Ronald doesn't want to be the McDonald poster boy, he might just want to be a freak. Who knows. My point is this, a real man blazes his own path and the greatest compliment others can give him is the gift of imitation of his actions. You at the cross roads hommie. Choose wise and live long and prosper....
I am Ward....

Anger Management help

While a man was polishing his new car, his 4 yr old son picked up stone and scratched lines on the side of the car. In anger, the man took the child's hand and hit it many times; not realizing he was using a wrench. At the hospital, the child lost all his fingers due to multiple fractures.

When the child saw his father.....with painful eyes he asked, 'Dad when will my fingers grow back?' The man was so hurt and speechless; he went back to his car and kicked it a lot of times. Devastated by his own actions.......sitting in front of that car he looked at the scratches; the child had written 'LOVE YOU DAD'.

The next day that man committed suicide. . .

I am Ward

Is he into you......or are you just a jump off?

1. When he really likes you he will show it by spending quality time with you. If you are with someone that is not giving you the quality time that you deserve than that is not a good sign.
2. Another sign that he really likes you is judged by the affection he shows you. I am not talking about wanting to go to bed but I am talking about public displays of affection; hugging, kissing, sweet nothings, etc ...
3. In my opinion, the best way how to tell if a guy likes you is to ask him. It may seem like an obvious statement but you would be surprised at how many guys are straight up and willing to tell you how he really feels. So, just go ahead and ask him.
4. Does he make eye contact with you? When a guy likes you he will look you right in the eye but that is one of the first things to do when he does not.
5. If he really does like you he will also be willing to help you out with the little things. For example: He will help you wash dishes, pick up your trash and throw it out, do little favors, it really comes down to little acts of kindness.

6. Look at the picture to the right again if your man is more interested in your clothes on him than on you-lol.......

I be the Ward....

Get hustling or get hustled sucka

A broke clock is right twice a day is what my friend once told me when ever I got down. I took that to mean everybody will have their share of problems and good times. We really can't complain to much about that cause it gonna be what it is gonna be. Well this is my misforutne this week..... my dryer started making this grinding sound and I could not fix it. So after looking to the web 4 help I called Sears and they was talking QUA-ZAYYYY. I called another dude who said he was swamped but would try to make it to my house between 1pm and 6pm. I told him cool, but I would try to call others until he arrived. That bama got to my house in 2o minutes! He charged $45 for his trouble and wanted $200 to fix it. Now equipped with the knowledge of the source of the problem, I went back to the internet and found the needed part for $40 and directions on how to do it my self....hummmmm

Next my muffler on my Volkswagen started to get loud after going to CarX for an oil change. I think they did something to my ride, but I got an estimate for the repair of $450. Again, QUA-ZAYYYY talk. I called my boy Mike up and he sent me to this old dude who rides a ragedy ten speed and he hooked my ride up in 21 minutes flat for $100.

Next my homie told me she was trying to get her by here pay here ride on at Oak Motors. I don't care how bad I need a car, I would never go to Oak motors. They will give you a big wheel for $21,500. Well she learned her lesson, but Warde gonna show her how this car game is to be played. FYI: just cause you made some bad credit decisions in the past doesn't mean you gotta get treated like Harry DoorKnobb all your life. To get something, you always gotta act like you got something. I think the saying is--- u can catch more fly honey's with a Rolex than with two baby mama's or something like that-lol!

This is what Ward sez- Get hustling or get hustled sucka, times is hard and people are out to get that fast buck. Ladies don't be believing them lying dudes no more..... and dudes get to Maury cause "you are not the father".....and if you hungry go get the food (job, car, house or higher education)

I am the Ward......

Choices.....

I am associated with people from all walks of life. Some are ministers, lawyers, doctors, nurses, drug dealers and so fourth. The thing that we all have in common is choices. At the end of the day- it is the only thing that we truly call our very own! With that being said, it would benefit us to ponder deeply on steps we take because I don't know how well that time travel machine is coming along-lol!

I heard two associates talking the other day and person A asked person B why he sold drugs? Person B said he needed to feed his family. Person A asked was McDonald's not hiring, could he delivery news paper or anything else legal. And the answer the person B said was profound in my opinion. Person B said, I am sure other jobs were hiring, even in this recession, but selling drugs is the choice I made. People want the drugs and are going to buy the drugs from some one and I was there so that is what I do.

I was blown away because of his honesty with his response. I know personally: selling drugs is an option that I would not choose, but taking ownership shows maturity. I guess I was expecting him to say I don't have an education or all these tat's are slowing me down from work.

Anyway that triggered my thought process about people that I know. Have you ever got fired from a job, went through a foreclosure, car reposed or been dumped by an ex-lover. Like person B, we didn't take ownership of the situation. If we had taken steps to prepare for the future our pain surely could have been less in comparison. I guess its up to us to do what we feel is necessary to achieve that outcome. Ya know, keeping our eye simple, cut back on wasteful spending, following a budget, just being practical! Seems easier said that done but I am learning to become more proactive and less reactive non-the-less.

Here is what Ward thinks, you know how a tire is round and when it is aired up it rolls pretty easy. Imagine if it is flat, it is hard to push and you get no where ......fast! See balance is required as in life. You need to spend time equally in areas of life to keep it tight. Religion, relationships, recreational activity and relaxing. Too much time in one area can make you crazy or neglectful in others, right Nikki? Really the choices we make dictate our lives. Change your focus, change your future.

I am Ward