Three sydes 2 the truth

O.k party people, this one is about relationships! I will start by stating the obvious- Men and Women tend to view things differently at times. Not better or worse than the other, just different. With that being said I think I have just saved myself a million opinionated emails about relationships!
What i wanted to discuss is, if what was said is what you "really" heard. I have learned that communication involves more than just words. It is about your tone, body language and of course the words. Think about it, most fights start out with someone looking at someone else sydeways and then the rest ensues. Its no different with dealing with the opposite sex!
Sometimes women don't know exactly what they want or how to always get there but they will know when they know. A man will find that reasoning dang near mind boggling. Inside a man's wallet you may find some paper money, credit cards and a drivers license. Inside a women's purse you may find, a mirror, tissue, dental floss, tampons, ink pens, money, breath mints, scrap paper, lip stick etc... So at times a woman may not be totally aware of what is in the purse until she dumps it all out and sifts through it and finds what she wanted, even if she didn't know what that was from the jump. Back to the man, he gets in and out (that has double meaning).
To keep this blog simple, I sum it up like this. Just because someone says one thing and may mean another, let us not call them a liar, lets just give them the benefit and respect as having a unique perspective that we can appreciate. Your side, their syde and the truth... What did you expect me to say in this, lol...

i aM wARd..

fact

I love You!

Copy right infrigment

Today I am very excited! I was reviewing comments that occasional readers of my blog leave me. Well, one such comment was from a Dilweed who actually took one of the photos that I posted on a previous blog. Peep this, he actually demanded that I remove the picture immediately. After I stopped laughing, I began to think, what if Mr. Dilweed is a psycho 4 real?

For example, what if he and a couple of his photographer buddies come looking for me!!!!! Would they beat me down with their expensive Nikon cameras, would they take a million photos of me until I am blinded by their bright flash devices or would they just mistake me for a super model and try and temp with fattening foods? I think I better remove that copyrighted photo right now........................................NOT!

This is what I told Mr. Dilweed...... GET A LIFE--BUY A NEEDY PUPPY-- VOLUNTEER AT A HOMELESS SHELTER-- RUN A 5K-- TRY DATING WOMEN FOR A CHANGE-----AND THE BIG ONE------STOP READING MY BLOG LOOOOSER, THIS SITE IS INTENDED FOR MATURE AUDIENCES ONLY....Don't get it twisted, I respect an artist work, but it I am not trying to make money of his work, perhaps their are deeper issues that only Dr. Phil can assist with. Besides the greatest compliment you can give a person is imitation! (The pic is nice)

Now that I have got that off my chest, yall check back later for some real talk.....

( I bet he is still reading this) I aM warD

Back to work already..

Hey the week end is up and its time for everybody to return to work. Well, I took off an extra day, So I don't have to be back until Wednesday. I have few things I want to get caught up on. I want to do some painting, some repairs and catch that Indiana Jones Movie. I am almost tired thinking about it and its still Monday!!!

Life is full of surprises. So be prepared for the unexpected and do what makes the situation right. Have a super week...
I am {{WARD}}

Chicago.......back home

Yes we all have a long week-end because it is the start of summer. A time for higher gas prices, increased visits to the emergency room, risky behaviors and time to get your travel on.

Me and my two girls, Kobe age- 8 and Kierra age- 6, went to Chicago 4 the week-end. Our plan was to attend Shedd aquarium but my Cousin Marie told me she could get your boy in for free on a later date. I quickly curbed them plans cause it cost $25 bones per person to get in. We paid the $15 to park and jumped on the free trolley car and went around the whole city. It was fun and something new. I met an older lady from New York who sat by me and we talked about the differences from her city and Chicago. It was nice to meet a new friend.

One thing I noticed was all the foreign people on the trolley and the foods they had. Man that trolley smelled like dirty floor mat and nursing home patient butt. Yuck! That trolley did not move until it was standing room only. Then this crazy looking man sat his daughter by me and he was staring at me like I was a child molester. When a new chair opened up he called his "Sophie" to sit by him and she said no!! I was like what the heck....I was thinking to myself "please move before I have to catch a case dealing with you crazy daddy".

I saw the beautiful lake, (it was freezing) I saw a wedding taking place, a man getting beat down in the park by cops, I saw a homeless man taking a poop in the alley, and saw all my family. It was the worst of times, yet the best of times for real, lol.

I missed my bed because hotel bed have that-somebody has been having sex on me and it wasn't you- feel to it. I couldn't wait to get home. I spent about $100 on gas, what a bummer. But the best part of the trip was going to the all you can eat soul food spot. It cost $18 per head. I was skeptical...... at first. Mannn that food was County Kitchen to the tenth power!!! They had it all, I mean greens, yams, peach and apple cobbler, ribs, catfish, corn on the cobs,dressing, sweet cornbread, kool-aide,red beans and rice.... well you get the point. I was upset because I wasn't ready for that. I couldn't hurt them like I will next month. I am in training to go back. I am on a temporary hunger strike. I will eat 14 pounds. Yall pray for me....I am ready to enter into the (K)jungle, lol!

eYe aM WArd....

Push dat man away

Do you know of a female who really wants to be in relationship because she has been single for far to long. What about the woman who is has a man who is not committed to her but she still considers it a relationship? The list goes on to the break of dawn, but I only have 15 minutes for this topic.
I ran across this situation where a woman wants this dude- who told her what the deal is up front. He just wants to keep it breezee and nothing serious. Ole girl was cool with it until her feelings got deep, now she wants to flip the script. How do you see this situation turning out? Well I think after "ALL" of her girlfriends and trusted family members have been consulted on the situation -the only advice accepted *that will be considered is from the options that match what she already thinks/wants to do!>>> That the guy MUST have changed his mind!! Now keep in mind the guy has previously told her the situation up front and is very capable of expressing his thoughts and ideas and has thus far *not said he wants a relationship!!
So the dilemma somehow is** does he want an exclusive "US" situation. Readers, I refuse to touch this one cause they say love is blind at times, but I say Love needs a seeing eye dawg!!! My point is this, if you press somebody on something they have clearly outlined, then you may just be alone again. Then you can sit back and wonder what had happen was...... I think I pushed dat man away!

Scams

When you think about it, scams are everywhere. Most victims are willing participants and don't even realize it until its too late. I met a nice young man today who told me that he needed some money to help pay for family bills. This is nothing new, 4 many of us face all sorts of money issues from day to day,but this person found someone who said they would give him a loan if he paid a small processing fee. Sounded good at the time didn't it? Well, the small fee was a $1000 bucks that he and a friend split in hopes of getting a loan of $6000.
The money was sent western union to an untraceable account and the guy never heard from the loan contact again. This type of scam is profitable and common for crooks and unsuspecting trusting people trying to do better for themselves.
I felt bad for ol boy, but it was a lesson learned. Now he is in a deeper hole than before, but at least he still has a roof over his head.
I recall one time I lost a twenty and I still find myself looking through old clothing for that money.
The moral of this story is, everything that glitters- ain't always gold....

I am warD....

Flavor of Ward...

First of all, I know that I am not the only one who watched this show! I learned somethings in this show that made me chuckle at times. I recall one time, one of the contestants saw Flav dressed in one of them special fitz that he wears and she said he looked "funky fresh". I was thinking he looked like a ""hot funky mess""!! I mean we know he don't have no more money and that wasn't his real house, but them kisses them women blessed him with was on the real!! I can't deny that, but hey -what would you do to get your 15 moments of fame. ( Trust me, I would never put my lipps on Flav).

I started to day dream that I was on the Flavor of Ward. Hummmm, I thought to myself. All the women, I know and have known living in one big mansion, vying for my affection. I know the ones who would get cut early. Flav gave out nice heart shaped watches! I tried that once and the lady in question asked did I spend all of $2 on the watch. (talk about unappreciative--- guess what she got after that?) Another lady was given a tennis bracelet and never wore it! Need I say anymore on that? But its all good, because it taught me that a real ride or die chick would appreciate a good brotha.

The woman who would win the Flavor of Ward- would have the following- sense of humor, honest, mild tempered, loving, understanding, beauty, faithfulness, big booty, smooth skin, nice smile, lover of Jah, into me and finally she would have to be my friend ( make that best friend). Yeah I like that better than Flavor's show cause he seemed wack at times.

I am warD!

LLOOVVVVEEE

Sometimes I sit back and reflect on life and wonderful it is for some of us and how ironically painful for others. It is true that many of our issues boils down to the choices that we make. Unfortunately, many of us find it less that easy to own up to this fact. For me personally, I feel when a woman gets pregnant (and it wasn't planned) its the guys fault- cause he didn't stop. When someone get a speeding ticket ( and they were actually speeding) is it the cops fault or did you just not obey the law? And what about love in a relationship? If your man or woman cheats on you, is it all their fault or are you guilty with contributing factors? Oh no...I think I hit a nerve so we better go there on this one for a minute.

From my perspective, I feel that if you are going to be in a relationship, then you should be willing to do maintenance like you would on a car to prevent break down.(If you notice oil in your transmission, don't drive the dang car until fixed). My friend told me his wife said during an argument that she would kill him. Those are some strong words, even if you said them out of anger one time. But what if you said it again, even adding that you would throw hot grits on him too. It would seem that the love has checked out and riding in the back seat of a cab like a bad episode of the apprentice.

True, my dude doesn't always do all he should -and that may have lead up to his hearing the "I hate you words"? But grand mama always said, "Two wrongs don't make a right, they just make you even". Getting even in relationships often leads to a breakdown somewhere on the highway of love. (I like that, but you can use it 2). I think the solution includes both people talking with the goal of giving what the other needs and wants and then doing it unconditionally. No- its not easy, but is it worth it? I think so, but it ain't for everybody. Some people just need to say if you hate me so much and you often threaten me --then do us both a favor and leave me. Don't stay for the kids, what others may say or because of financial reasons. Pretend you are a Nike shoe and just do it. I am sorry- I got caught up in the moment.

Look my point is this, when the lloovvvveee starts to go bad because of a lack of a love tune up, arguments and fights and useless name calling starts to creep in. The sad part about it is that one man's junk is another mans treasure. Excuse me yall, I gotta go to the junk yard........

I am wARd...

What a Wednesday

This Wednesday is a day that I did not want to get out of bed. I was tired from staying up way to late. We all know the NBA playoffs are jumping off right about now and I have to stay up to watch the games. Men somehow think that we help our teams to win!! Yeah its crazy but it just might be some reality to the madness. Real talk, who do you think help Michael Jordan win his championships.... uhh me, of course.
Anyway, I got to work and did my normal thing until lunch. I was so bored that I got away and went to the dollar store and Steak and shake. That may have been a bad move because I drop hamburger juice on my shirt and the stains just moved in and would not leave me all day. I looked real unprofessional the rest of the day at work. The office was cold and the clients were non-stop!
Got off work and took the girls out in the field for a few hours and then we came home as I looked for my favorite pair of glasses ( they are still missing) or an hour. I ate some taco bell and watched the game and read what was up in the Jungle and gathered my thoughts.

Oh well, today is over now and all I can say is that despite my hum drum day, I had time to think about my future some more. I know exactly what I need. Its feels good to know that things do get better. Sometimes we find a $20 on the floor, sometimes we get a good unexpected laugh and sometimes we meet someone we can't wait to spend time with!

i am WaRd!

Malachi 1:8

...And when you present a blind animal for sacrificing: It is nothing bad. And when you present a lame animal or a sick one: It is nothing bad. Bring it near, please, to your governor. Will he find pleasure in you, or will he receive you kindly? Jehovah of armies has said....

Have you ever given less than 100% on a project, because it wasn't yours or you were tired, or perhaps it was time to end your work shift. I know I have done it and I feel bad about it. Let me illustrate this one for you. There once was a carpenter, who was considered to be the best at his craft in all of the land. His reputation was from here to there and highly spoken of by all. Well the man decided he was tired and had accomplished all he desired with his trade. However, a might King asked him to do one last project before retiring, but the craftsman was not feeling that and was reluctant. The King said, " Name your price and I will pay". The craftsman agreed to do the last home before retiring. The craftsman did not give his all, he even used inferior products because he did not want to wait for his normal shipments to arrive. He was as accurate with his measurement and cutting to say the least. Well the finished product was by far his worst work ever. But alas he was finished and could retire.

To the craftsman surprise, The rich King said" Oh great craftsman, I want to thank you for all the fine work you have done for me and all the land for so many years. This final master piece you have created is for YOU!!!!" The craftsman broke down in tears and we all know why. He moved into his home and kept his secret to himself.

I told this story to myself because I have cheated myself from doing more because I sometimes get tired. But if you are reading this blog today, you must be a friend of mine and I want to apologize for hurting you or letting you down in someway. I promise to do better and I encourage you to do the same. Thank you.

I am Ward.....

Sometimes I get tired of doing what is right

I often refer to myself as a square and I am cool with that. Lord knows how many talks I have given about the prevention of burn out, yet I sometimes find myself speeding down that very highway. I mean think about it, the only candidates for burning out are the people who want to be successful in life. The people who get up early, worry about having good credit, driving the speed limit, concerned about their job and last but not least, people who care about their reputation. The guy who can work, but won't or that laid back brotha or sista who lives with someone will never burn out. They have no buy in on life.

This is where I am going with this. I try to keep my cars clean, house clean, bills paid and on time, study the Scriptures and homework with my girls, keep the yard looking neat, planning and cooking meals, attending worship service, working 40+ hours at the job and washing and folding clothes. Yes your boy get tired. I just would like to experience team work sometimes, just to see what it would be like. What would I do with my free time. Take a walk in park, visit strangers in a nursing home, hang out with my friends or just go to Starbucks and read a book while sipping on some warm chocolate (with extra whip cream.)

I know I can't stop doing the things I have started because (*R^#$&*(@#$ would break loose. Like I said, I just want some Wardy time for me to just relax and look back and be re-energized about Mi Vida Loco

What is my favorite thing again? I am (tired) Ward......

I love Musiz

As I was driving home today, I leaned over to grab a mix cd (I sell them for $4.95)that was laying on the passenger seat next to me. Guess what song came on? It was a song that had deep meaning to your boi. Before I share the song with you, let me give you some background on this thought. Have you ever met someone that touched your soul and made you just stop and smile at the mere mention of their name? Well I have. Ain't no shame in it, I am just being real with ya. Anyway here are the words, read it and you guess what was my eventuality, lol!!!

Sorry, didn't notice you there
But then again you didn't notice me
So we'll remain passers by
Until the next time we speak
I hope that I can make you mine
'For another man steals your heart
And once your beauty is mine
I swear we will never be apart

Walks by me every day
Her and love are the same
The woman that's stolen my heart
And beauty is her name
I'm hoping I can make you mine
'For another man steals your heart
And once your beauty is mine
I swear we will never be apart

It didn't take much time to think about
But I didn't want to move too fast
Cuz I knew that when I saw you again
That I wouldn't wanna let you pass
Cuz my eyes have seen the glory
In the coming of your smile
So I swear if you ever come 'round again
Please stay for a while

Walks by me every day
Her and love are the same
The woman that's stolen my heart
And beauty is her name

I'm hoping I can make you mine
'For another man steals your heart
And once this beauty is mine
I swear that we'll never be apart

You are so beautiful
When I'm down and out
I never seem to get tired
Tired of your love
Cuz you are wonderful

You're wonderful
I'm just dying to make you see
Anything you want inside your heart
You can find right here inside of me

Walks by me every day
Her and love are the same
The woman that's stolen my heart
And beauty is her name ......(This song was written by and sang by Dru Hill)(By the way, I am WaRd.....)

The Unlucky Woman

I was talking to an associate the other day and she said something that brought on this blog. She stated that she knows she is a good woman with a lot 2 offer a man, but she just can't seem to find a good man in Indianapolis. She has tried clubs, work mates, hook up from friends and family and sifted most of the churches in the area to no avail? She said maybe should should try playing for the same team (Gay) and see if her fortune increases.

I thought to myself, maybe the dudes are not the only problem. I honestly think its ol girl, I mean she looks o.k. physically, but then again what I think is hot- she is not!! (hey that rhymes) Seriously, how can so many guys not be a match for one woman? Let me see if I can break this thing down from a male perspective.

I am sure everyone woman has read Proverbs chapter 31 in the Bible- talking about what a good woman is all about, so I won't go there, but I will go here. Check it- How do you know if your partner is right 4 you? Let's imagine that you are a man and a woman is going to choose you. If there are a hundred women looking for a man (or vice versa), and each will look at you as a possibility, 4 how many of these women/men will you be the right woman/man? The answer is you don't know. That is Y you need to explore and take the risk. But I can tell you that the right woman 4 you is the woman or man that you love just the way he or she is, the person you don't have the need to change at all!! That is the one 4 you. You have found a good thing, if you found the right person for you and at the same time you are the right person 4 them. I mean its a wonderful thing when U can trust that someone is who they say they are. No pretending or the 6 month front games people often play. See, I think if someone wants to change you, you are they are not the one 4 you. Don't you agree?

Couples should be able to go to Denny's and have French toast and good conversation, just because its raining outside, right? I could get deeper on this topic- but I can't condense this broad subject down right now.Besides women are crazy.....or do men make them that way?

I am Ward....

What it be

When we survey our lives and endeavors, we soon observe that almost the whole of our actions and desires is bound up with the existence of other human beings. We eat food that others have produced, wear clothes that others have made, live in houses that others have built...The individual is what he is and has the significance that he has not so much in virtue of his individuality, but rather as a member of the great human community, which directs his material and spiritual existence from the cradle to the grave.

-Albert Einstein


Ya already know.....I am Ward......

WTF is Cinco De Mayo

Yes it is that time for Cinco De Mayo again! I actually did some research on it and found out that this thing goes back to 1862 over a fight! I realized that it was way too deep for me so I cut my search short. Anyway, ya boi had a great day at work because of meeting some super clients but I will tell you about that later! I want to tell you about my terrible customer service experience at O' Charlies on Keystone by the Mall. I will never ever ( did I mention ever) go there again. I only had 1 hour for lunch and was craving a good salad and rolls. I got there and waited 10 minutes go get the freaking drink, then 15 more minutes to get the salad. I was so hungry I had to call Pizza Hut to deliver a pizza until my other food got there! To make matters worse the server was talking to people she obviously knew for most of my time. A part of me wanted me go in the back and get my own food and then dip out with out paying, but that could lead to me being arrested and I don't look good in orange jump suits!

Well the day returned back to being good cause I played basketball over at school 54 in the hood. I went 8 out of 10 games and ran the point guard position with the precision of a skilled physician. Yelp- your boy got game! Then after the games was over, I felt the need for Uno's pizza and called to order me a Chicago Classic. I called and waited on the phone for 15 minutes ( oh no not again) and then the girl comes back to the phone and say are you still holding, I said yes, she said " I am sorry we close in 5 minutes" and hung up!!! HUGGGGGGG!!!! I think I blew a gasket..

All I can say is holly freaking Cinco De Mayo to fast food!!!

By the way, I am Ward......

Courage

Courage is the ability to confront fear, pain, risk/danger, uncertainty, or intimidation or at least that is what Wikpedia seems to report. Well, everyone one of us out there in blogg land must have or will face our fears and own up to claiming our various selves.

Some people may be comptemplating starting a new job. Should you leave your comfort zone or take the leap and try to do what you know you have been practing for all your life. It can be over whelming, not to mention down right scary. Courage is needed to look at the other person you have been with so long you can smell when they walk in the room! You either want to have that person to marry you or in most cases- unmarry you! What if the grass isn't really greener on the other side does this mean that U should spend more time watering your own back yard? A journey of a thousand miles begins with one step. Until then, you never know.

What do you do for yourself is an excellent question to ask yourself? The answer just might surprise you! Think about it, you work hard all week ( or at least show up) and you rush here and rush back there. You attend service, you help everybody with all their drama, you cook or get food, buy high priced gas and may get to the gym ( and you feel guilty about that). Does it take courage to say today, I am gonna to do something just for me, for get what others think. Its ironic, because when you die, don't they say RIP (rest in peace), perhaps because you been so busy doing for others you forget about YOU!!!!

I know personally I need courage all the time. I find myself having to use my wits to get what I want. Sometimes I think "but what if this doesn't work". Shoot yall know that ain't gonna stop me from trying, but I have to build my courage up to do it sometimes. I don't like the way "NO" sounds in my head, so I try not to make it an answer I won't get!

So my advice to everyone today is to Man up ( or woman up) show some courage and do what you have been avoiding! Ask the woman on a date, Give that dude the kiss he wants, go find a new and better job, throw caution to the wind, start them classes at city college and fall to your knees and pray for a change, Your courage may set your free....(* Please keep in mind that the views of this writer are for entertainment purposes only- In other words, don't try nothing stupid and blame me because the blog will suddenly disappear)I am Ward.....

Bucket List

I thought about this one for while and changed my mind even more times. I watched the movie Bucket List and was moved. I don't consider my self a critic of movies but this one was firing on all cylinders. I love movie that makes me look at my life and say I need to take advantage of my time on Earth.

So check it out, I am gonna write my own Bucket list, don't worry this will make sense after you actually see the movie. I am gonna make my list simple and attainable. If you think you can add to my list, bring it own......

1. Take an air plane flight course and actually fly a real plane.
2. Run barefoot through the park after the rain with someone I love
3. Do a half hour stand up comedy show
4. Give a number 4 talk ( its a hall thing)
5. Take a vacation by myself
6. Encourage my best friend to marry the person that made them homeless...

Hey I gotta reach for the sky and if I fail, I will still be amongst the stars.

I am Ward......