Blinded by love or just tired of trying to get it right?????

Fellas, we all got that homeboy who started dating a chick that really made you scratch your head???? She was flaky, possessive, and high-drama. Everyone could see that the gal was toxic and really bringing your boy down…everyone, that is, except your boy.
You tell yourself, “That would never happen to me.”
But then it does----Surprise.
What gives? How do people end up in crazy relationships despite warning signs that their mate was bad news to begin with?
Answer: Women are Crazy and Men don't make them that way!!!!

 Seems that most men start out dating the chick hoping she never changes and the woman usually thinks that she can change the half a man in to the perfect specimen once she puts her finishing touches on him-lol!
Don’t fool yourself.  You can’t force your partner to change; the change has to come from within. Also, problems that you notice at the beginning of a relationship tend to amplify themselves as the relationship deepens. If he/she is possessive of you and you got friends, its your mates "goal" to get rid of the pseudo competition. But what I don't understand is why does the trust leave a relationship? Could the couple no longer be "NEW" to each other, are out side influences pulling at the seems of your relationship? Could it be family that is a the root of the situation? Perhaps you are ashamed of the decision you made in a mate? All good questions but I believe the answer to be: Improving your communication.

Learn to talk to your mate about how you feel and what you want and need. It may not be easy, but consider the alternative (Being by your self, because somebody is about to ba ba ba ba BOUNCE!) Yes, love is a powerful thang that most people don't get right. Look at all the couples you know and see how many are really happy? I heard one dude say, he stay with his chick because he don't want to pay that $750 alone! Wardy things that when you fall for someone looks, you may over look their realities. 1. How to they handle relationship conflicts 2. What is the money management skills looking like? 3. Do they love your kids (if any)? 4. Do you feel like a prisoner or free to be yourself.
Heck, most people don't ever have the HIV talk so why would the above 4 be asked?  Hummm, are we blinded by love or just tired of trying to get it right???????

I am Ward......

Hey Women.....Men don't like this stuff so please nix that &#(@#*!

1). Quit bringing sex toys in 2 the room! We don't like being hand cuffed by cops and we dang sure don't want to be cuffed by your emotioNICOLE self!!! What you could do......... is be naked when we come home with a new wig on and a new sex move or 3 thrown in for excitement.
2). Men like an assertive woman but never a dominant/mean one (Notice I said "Men"). If a woman starts yelling out Army commands during the act, not only will the guy loose interest in you but he will also loose his ummmm Attention! Try being a sexy, soft and good smelling woman!
3). What about the women wearing them elaborate outfits? I realize them corsets look good on yall women, but you dang near need a bachelors degree in unnecessary clothing items, to take them off!!!! A brutha can get hand cramps trying 2 have sex!
4). O.k., we realize women love a good kiss but don't take advantage of us great kissing bruthas- by slobbing us down.  Don't suck our foreheads and leave us needing a dry towel or need to feel like we just had a dentist exam with your sticky tounge. I mean, I know Cherry Chap-stick is the bomb, but baby take it easy, like Tupac tried to tell you!
5). Women, do you like have man areola hair in your mouth???? Good, cuz we don't like it either. Sucka, thats what we do 2 yall. We ain't got no feelings there. So just stop it already!!!! Freaking Gross lol!!!
6). Stop bringing up your ex! We don't need to hear how much better we are than your ex, how nicer we are or what ever. It just makes us envision you with him or her (never know now a days). Just say how much you love us and be done with it.
7). Please don't try and get all extra sexy in the bedroom. We already like your sexy, so when you come home trying to be the good looking girl at your job, that you imagine we would cheat on you with, doesn't quite work. Just be you.

Finally, keep this fact  in mind. You can only have one struggle in life. You can't be broke and ugly, its not a good look!!!!!!!!!!

I am Ward......

Grand Mall Seizure (a GhetTo PerspeCTive)

I just can't do Ghetto shopping no more! O.k. check it because this is how it all went down Friday after work. I just put in my 40 for the week and I needed a cold Root Beer ( I never drank and never will) and a new sweater. So I decided that I won't go downtown or the Greenwood Mall out South by my house, so I decided that going to the Lafayette Square Mall.....(Bad Move). I entered from the Burlington Coat side to be quickly eye balled down by this big, more to love, 13 sandwich eating, extra hair on his belly and black taco meat on his chest, top flight security looking dude starring at me like I was gonna steal some of the well looked over products of his store. Still, I rise or should I say shopped the store anyway. Now I think about it, how many pregnant employees can you have working at one time. I moved on to walk around the mall to see what other ghetto sightings I could view. Didn't take long to run into the empty game room. They actually have air hockey and centipede in that piece. The ironic thing was they dollar changer didn't work but since I got hood skillz, I went to the pop machine in the back and put in my dollar and hit the return change lever and got 4 quarters and kept it 100-lol! Next stop in hoodville was Max 10. I had a few bags with me that the clerk told me I had to leave at the front desk and they gave me a ticket to retrieve my items back upon exiting???? Where dey do dat @.... I was offended. I looked around and decided that the slavery days were over or is it showing at the movies again????? I asked the clerk "Why did I have to check my bag", do you know she told me that it was because it helps customers to shop with out having to carry bags around? That is funny because I thought it was to prevent obvious stealing. I mean everything in the freaking store was suppose to be $10. I think if I was personally gonna risk jail time, it wouldn't be at Max 10, but that's just me. I nexed walked past Harold Penner's store and saw so many bright colors that I thought I was trapped in a rainbow. I decided to not go in that store and headed toward Shoppers World. I was surprised to see the armed security person who looked surprisingly like the rent a cop from Burlington's! I was able to quickly find mix matched shoes, poor quality shirts and plenty of clothes sprawled all over the floor. I think I understand why all the white businesses have secretly left that mall. In fact the whole mall reminds me of Gary Indiana for some odd abandoned reason....
The experience taught me two things. 1) I understand why so many people get shot at this Mall. Its dead out there. 2). Any Mall that has a big sign that says "Special Sale on Gold Teeth" is a Mall that I am pretty sure I won't be returning to again. Perhaps I don't like the fact that place is a ghetto cliche that cloak's itself as a public  necessity. Its a joke and I ain't laughing.
I am Ward....

Rushing to be used up by Hollywood....

If you are anything like me, then I am sure you know that anything you ever wanted is right in your grasp! Perhaps you wanted to be a ballerina, a lawyer, Doctor or comedian? Well what stopped you? Fear, time, family or life? Whatever it was you should be glad you are where you are now, doing what ever you are doing-believe me! Look at all the stars that you know or have heard of in HollyWeird. Very few, if any, go on to lead what we would consider normal lives (Even though I don't know of any).
As a student of the scriptures, I clearly see how Satan uses music and entertainment to desensitize our senses to what is really going on. Side point: I read recently of a 9 year old boy killing his grandmother because she turned off his PS4 game (call of Duty). They say the little boy was so use to killing people in the game, that he didn't realize the his grandmomz would not come back to life. I don't know if i believe that but I am not playing God in this life!
Back to Hollyweird. I love shows like Lifeafter, Unsung and Where are they now. I feel like I know these people I watched on the tube and movies. But, why do I always feel surprised and dumbfounded about the events that are told.  Remember Roger from "What's Happening" that sucker had a bad Cocaine problem as did Whitney Houston,Mike Tyson, Rick James, Solider Boy, Lavar Burton, Marcia Marcia Marcia- Brady, Old Dirty Bastard and so on. One thing they all have in common is they were rushing to be used up by Hollywood!
I don't see how anyone can carry burning wood and not get burned? Likewise, Hollywood has a lot of bad people there, waiting to use people up (let's just say its Satan's playground) and spit them out when they are not hot anymore. If I hear about another broke ball playa I think i might just throw up on my wife! How the freak did Mike Tyson blow 400 Million bones??????? I won't even go no further on that subject. Heck Ray Charles got strung out on Heroin and that sucka was blind. So I am wondering what makes so many of us want to leave the lives we lead now to be someone we are not! Are we fame whores or do we just want to live life to the fullest?
I met a old man the other day and he had such a calm look on his face that I had to inquire what brought this feeling of relaxation to his person. He looked at me and flashed a wide kool-aide smile and slowly said he was too blessed to be stressed. He been beaten up before, filed bankruptcy twice in his life, lost 3 kids to death and been divorced by his high school sweetheart and homeless for 4 years before. But now he realized that loving God has shown his true happiness and hope for the future. I actually believe this man was happy. He doesn't need coke, drank or women either. Amazing I tell you!
Like I said, I am not a judge, so if you want to be famous in this life, then do what you have to! I think I am gonna stick to telling jokes to my kids.
I am Ward....

Being Nice

Is it me or have you noticed that companies are really big on customer service but not so much when it comes to internal customers???? Case in point: I recently helped and older customer find her destination and then turned and saw another person who works for my company walk past me as if I were an criminal he couldn't bare to look at. I was under the view point that were should always be cordial but especially to those of the family......right?
I began to look closer at this and realized that many co-workers walk past other staff and look away or at the ground. Hummmm, but why? Is is it like this everywhere? I am sure Google doesn't run this way nor does SouthWest Airlines.....

I Am Ward.....

Men get tired......

Men get tired of being strong
Men get tired of outside pressures
Men get tired of holding the pain inside
Men get tired of being looked down upon by you
Men get tired of getting N2 constant arguments w/ U
Men get tired of going through unnecessary changes
Men get tired of people trying to take advantage of us
Men get tired of your mood swings and jealousy
Men get tired of being used for $$$$
Men get tired of you not knowing "YOU"

No Matter how strong you are,
men get tired sometimes!
Ladies,
That is where you as a women, wife or lover has the power that the creator on put in you to lift up, build up and refuel the man in your life. On the other hand, if you think what you are doing is working......Good luck with that?

I am warD....

Things girls do to gross out guys........

"One time, this girl asked me if she could pop my zit. It's ok to pop her own-but asking to pop mine? What's wrong with her?" - George, 30

 "I'd asked my live-in girlfriend to take a shower with me, thinking we'd have some good sudsy sex. But then she peed in the shower! She told me she did it to save water, but I'm sorry, that is not a legit excuse." - Ian, 27

"I dated this girl who'd always bite her nails. That's fine-bad habit, whatever-but then she'd try to kiss me afterward!" - Cody, 20

"Once I walked into a chick's apartment and saw a sink full of red water with a pair of underwear floating there. I've been traumatized ever since." - Kevin, 25

"I usually enjoy giving my girlfriend foot massages. But one time she asked for one, and her feet were covered in callouses. Forget the Ped-egg-only sandpaper could have softened those rough puppies." -Stephen, 34

"My ex had long, curly black hair that I loved, but sometimes she would gnaw on it like a stick of gum. She didn't seem to mind that the strands were coated with dirt and hair products, but I certainly didn't want to kiss her after she was licking her locks!" - Ryan, 30

"Late one night, my fiancée got out of bed to go to the bathroom and let one riiiiip on her way there. I'd been sound asleep, but it was so loud that it woke me up-it sounded like a bomb exploded. And it smelled awful!" - Matt, 26

"One day, while my girlfriend had her period, she asked me if I'd watch her put in her tampon, since I'd asked her a question about tampons a few weeks earlier. I quickly refused. A few hours later, she called me into her room, and there she was with no pants on, pointing to the string dangling out of her vagina. I was seriously disgusted." - Chandler, 21

"I'd been dating this woman for a few months, and I really liked her. One Friday night, I invited her over for drinks at my place. After a few strong cocktails, we started hooking up. Then, as she was going down on me, she threw up on my package." - Jon, 27

"My girl and I met at home for a lunchtime quickie. She went to the bathroom first and then we hopped into bed and got things going. I was all excited and flipped her over for some doggy-style action, but then I saw a piece of toilet paper stuck in her butt...she'd obviously gone number two. And yes, it had some *remnants* on it. Needless to say, I got soft instantly." - Jonathan, 26

I am ward.....

The family that borrows $$$$ from each other.....will always cause issues......

As I look back over the years that I have been on my own, I have always had friends, family and users requesting me to loan them some of my coins because they caught the Chinese disease known as" FUNZ are Lowwww". I mean I don't see nothing wrong ( in my R.Kelly voice) with helping out a friend in need but eye find as I get older, that if you help someone when they are in trouble, they will remember you the next time they get in trouble.
It seems like people get caught up in repeating the same old cycles of repetition. For example, stealing from Mookie to pay Marquitta and living pay check to pay check isn't the best look especially when you want my change. Come to think about it, when you ask a bank for money, they come back with a myriad of questions that require answers for consideration.
O.k. back to the family.  They come up with all kind of excuses why they can't pay you back or why you should trust them when no one else would. Well, Wardy came up with a great ideal on money loaning moving 4ward. I simply say NO! I think someone being in a compromising  situation is an excellent opportunity for them to use strengths they didn't know they had to get out of it! I know, you can thank me later.....
Some may consider it mean, but I don't think I should have to feel sorry for child molesters, drug addicts or people who are broke due to their own errors. If you need a loan, get a cash advance, if you need a car, go to Enterprise and if you need clothes, go to Goodwill suckers.... I wouldn't say- I work hard for my $$$ -but I would say it is my money to do what I want. I was once told by a relative that I think I am all that because eye have nice house. Really???? I guess that can be a bad thing........NOT!
Advice: Know better and do better! Work hard and do what u can until you can do what you love. Make payment arrrangements and keep your eyez simple.
NO MASSSSS
I am Ward....