Organization

Am I the only person who findz it hard to be organized-lol! I mean eye think I got too much life to live in a 24 hour day. I am taking on-line classes, trying to learn Rosetta stone, trying to stay on top on the hall assignments, teach the family and flip cars and if time allows, I getz me a napp!

This is what I am gonna do. I will start by taking baby steps by writing down a to do list and follow it carefully. As I get better I will increase the list and try and get faster and then sky is the limit! Really, I don't want to do too much, I just want to be able enjoy life a little more.

Tomorrow is the start of a good week. Ya feelz me!

I am Ward

a Person is what they dew....Knot what dey say!

The good book encourages us that it is best to let our yes mean yes and our no mean no: In others words, just do what you say you are gonna do. I can't begin to tell you how many times I have heard people say one thing and then claim they mean another. I guess its o.k. to do this wishy washy type of communication with someone you love, because they will more than likely 4-give you. However, on the the street if you are gambling and you call out the wrong cue ball shot or wrong number of the dice roll and say you meant another it could very well cost you your life.
I have had the privilege of working with many people who were ex-felons or under served in the community people and one thing that I truly learned is this........When you are trying to get somethings like services, money or assistance you have to say what you mean and mean what you say. There is no gray areas because people will dismiss you and move on 2 the next applicant. I think that is very true, because as humans we are quick to dismiss someone for some wrong or hurt if its real or imaged.
Personally I was accused of something as simple of not returning a phone call before. The person told me that I not only called, but I never cared about them. The funny thing is I called and the person basically said I was a liar. I knew I called them and could prove it, but then again, why was all that necessary in the first place? Its funny looking back now, because if some 1 shows you who they are.....believe them suckers-lol!
What about the people who are SUPER CHRISTIANS!!!! Should they be examples of doing right? Sure we all fall short and miss the mark of perfection but does that mean we can't be polite on a basic level? What we do shows what we are made of. For example, I saw two people who had not saw each other in over 20 years, you might think they would have some good questions to ask and reminisce. Nope, one person tried to be cordial and the other acted like one was just some kid of the street that didn't deserve the niceties of hello and how are you. I was so embarrassed because I was the one who was the catalyst! I have to learn that as I need to constantly make improvements of my character, I must also keep in mind that others may want to appear one way and be totally unaware of how they come off to others. We must learn to discern between what we want, what we need and how we should do/treat others! My wish today is that we can be clear on how we want us to perceive us because you only get one chance to make a first impression. At the end of the day...A person is what they do.....Knot what they say!
I am Ward....

What it is suckers

I am still determined to be cheerful and happy, in whatever situation I may be; for I have also learned from experience that the greater part of our happiness or misery depends upon our dispositions, and not upon our circumstances. I happen to feel that the degree of a person's intelligence is directly reflected by the number of conflicting attitudes she can bring to bear on the same topic. If you don't know, life will certainly show you.....
I am ward.....

Is kustomer service really that hard to teach?

I was in JCPenny today to get the ink tag thingy taken off my new jeans that was left on by the store employee. That happens sometimes, it no biggie-right? The ladies who assisted me were quite cordial and friendly which caused me to think that all the employees were this nice. Well, I decided to pick up another pair of jeans on the way and went to check out. I saw a line with one patron being checked out, so I got behind her and waited patiently! She picked up her bag and exited stage left..... and I walked up and placed my items on the counter and the (((Black employee))) looks behind her and shouts may I help the next person in line and then turns back and looks back at me with a smirk. I just slightly smiled and walked away to another cashier in the shoe department. I asked the next employee can you ring me up here? She said yes with a smile and handed me a coupon to boot! Yeah she was a white girl! I honestly didn't know that line was in sometime of order, because it was 4 cash registrars at the station with 3 customers, but her attitude was unprofessional to a high degree.

Well this encounter made me think of Delta Airlines spending all this money to retrain its staff about customer service. I mean how hard is it to say, I am sorry your flight is delayed, Or I don't know where you luggage is or how about Welcome to Delta Airlines. Its sad that we have to teach grown folk what the Bible has been said thousands of ago. Treat others how you want to be treated- love your neighbor- seek God's kingdom first and everything else will be added to you! But hey we just hard headed aint we?

My simple solution is this. Fire all the people who can't get on some simple act right and replace them with all the people who been down sized, let go for no reason or those who just ready to work and be productive members of society again. Give them the speech and treat em good and see what happens. I know in my case I would shop at Penny's more. Ya feelz me.

I am Ward.....

Some love fades away whiles others last 4 ever. You decide suckers.....

I am Ward.......

I am only a reflection of what the Mirror shows me...

My mirror is the world, or so says the child. How many times have we said the children are the future but failed to do anything to ensure that their future will be better. It never seems to amaze me how many times I see a kid riding in the back seat of a car while the driver is enjoying a cancer stick known as a cigarette!!!! I don't know if you have ever saw the lung of a smoker but I have and its a nasty looking creature that is black an sticky looking. I am all for freedom of choice, but totally against someone else trying to kill me and mine! Wouldn't it be wonderful if we all wore shirts like the one above, it could save all of us works in progress a great deal of time-stress-and gas $$$!

The mirror has always been clear when it comes to customer service, especially in restaurants and the wait staff. I expect bad customer service because on any job that I have had, I made sure to give the customer what they wanted, when they wanted and how they wanted it! So quite naturally, I expect that same when I go out as well- but somehow I don't always get that. I was talking to a trusted friend who stated they leave up to $5 tip for good service and a little less for bad service. I almost fell off my seat. I think $2 is plenty for walking my plate from the back to my table-lol! My psycho friend said her and her dude went to a resturant with a waiter who said he worked at his job for 23 years and was a very proper snooty type of black waiter who acted like he was doing you a favor by being your waiter. The restaurant took 20% off the bill up front. Her bill was $85 bucks plus the tip. (Personally I would have went to Rally's, but then again that is me).

My final reflection from the mirror comes from road rage. Really, what up with that? I was driving home a new used car the other day and a semi driver either didn't see me in the 3rd or faster lane or didn't care. He just jumped over in my lane and I would have crashed had I not slammed on the brakes and hope the car behind me would do the same. The trucker eventually got back over. I then passed him up quickly but didn't look at him because I was greatful to be alive- to write this freaking blog that you need to read-lol! The driver behind me gave that trucker a very dirty look, but he ain't even look at her! I just somehow keep thinking this ain't the first time that trucker has done that and won't be the last. I guess that's why they say we gotta drive for other people.

The love of man has obviously cooled off but somebody has got to be the salt of the earth and be my brothers keeper! Is it you sucka?
I am Ward..........

This so called Barber...........

The other day I was feeling like I needed to have a fresh hair cut and I wasn't in the mood to do it my self. So I thought for a moment, where should Wardy go????? Well I jumped in the van and rode down Arlington Ave and came across a small shop with a Barber standing in the door way as if he knew I was coming, but looking back now, I think that sucka was just waiting like a spider on the web looking 4 any sucka to get trapped. Saturday was my day I guess-lol!
I slowly got out of my ride and walking what seemed like the worlds longest mile to that door and the dude winked at me and said come on in homey, I got you! I should have ran then but I kept thinking about how good it would be to have a nice freaking fade. So I finished walking the green mile and got in his chair and that's when the fun really began. The shop smelled like old fish grease and fresh baby poop, but I got past this to find that this dude (so called Barber) must have had the sharpest clippers in the world. It felt like he had figured out a way to put cat finger nails on a stick and was scratching my brain to the point where either I cried a little or used the rest room on my self(I think it was both).
He gave me a scabb line. That occurs when some 1 cuts you and scabb over. Yeah it hurt, but I just sat there and took it like the "G" i bee! He spent 25 minutes trying get my line right! Everybody knows my line is crooked and been that way for years, but THIS man decided to make my line his personal mission in life to make it correct. I almost jumped out the chair and and tell the dude that he should go to McDonald's and start a new career, but I knew it was almost over......or so I thought.
Do you know after the torture, this sucka had the nerve to apply- what I am sure must be gasoline- around my head. I knew that would be painful, but when the smoke alarms went off from my head burning I almost lost it. I kept smelling burning bacon, but it was my freaking head. He hands me the mirror and stands back and smiles like he just painted the Mona Lisa of the ghetto or better yet like he was J.J. from good times and he just painted the picture for the bank-lol! I just looked at my smoking head and then back at him and said "Oh yeah that's the look"! Why did I lie? Oh yeah, he cut my brain cells away!!!!!
I learned a powerful lesson on this one. Run don't walk away from fat barbers with no clients standing in a door way with jelly stains on his smock humming the words to its a hard knock life. Ugggghhhhh where are my good barbers (besides me at- we need yall bros)
I am (still sore) Ward

My guy said that there izzzz such a things as "Stupid QuestionS"

I find it humorous sometimes how the smartest people you meet are the sometimes in the oddest places. Take my bootleg man Charles. He is very knowledgeable on a variety of topics as well as an excellent salesman. He has been at his location for about 3 years now and from what I can see he is in the game and obviously winning! Of course I don't have to visit him anymore because I know how to down load my own movies, but it can be time consuming so I popz in on him every so often.
Anywho Charles and I were conversing the other day about his client base and how diverse that population can be. He made me laugh when he stated that his Momz said their is no such thing as stupid question but he disagrees because people can see a movie case with a getting stabbed in the face with knife and then ask Him what kind of movie is it? He says sarcastically its a comedy! I had to laugh, because I think most just don't know what they want or how to get it so they react with questions. I understand both points. But the main thing I learned from Charles is this: At the end of the, you gotta feed your customer base what they want. Some come for the conversation and others just want to see what he has in stock for that day! Charles talks to them all one on one and keeps the order and fulfills their needs with a smile.
I am a self professed salesman myself and I find myself using his techniques when I get the (lets call them special questions) people who are extra inquisitive. I take my time explain why my prices are so cheap and keep it moving. I am a firm believer that the customer is NOT always right anymore, but has the right to be satisfied. That part is left up to the supplier of the goods, but a necessary option-ya feelz me.

I enjoy speaking with any 1 that has something to say that can allow my mental to grow but on the flip side, some 1 who does the opposite makes my brain hurt right there on side above the left ear-lol! Let me close with some questions that may be suspect and my answers to follow!)
*If I die would you remarry? (Sucka your dead why would you care)
*I love you= do you love me ( I say if you gotta ask???)
*Are you gonna eat that last piece of whatever? (What if I am not, its going in the trash)
*Does this outfit make me look fat? (Sucka you was fat after the 45th doughnut)
*Do you think my man is cheating on me? (Well he ain't been home in 3 days??)
*Why do people think a woman is a prostitute if she wears a very short and revealing outfit? (Cuz she dressed like a prostitute maybe?)
*How come my credit card was declined...(u do the math on this one)
*Why my dude only come over at 3 a.m. (again ,u do the math)
*Why does my 24 year son who still lives at home with two twin beds in his room, always have his guy friends spend the night? ( Cuz he is GAY!!!!)
*Why do women go thru they dude clothes and cell phone looking for evidence? (Cuz women are crazy and men didn't make them that way?
i am Ward....

What Ward Wonders Part -Trey/ useless facts

*Why do people work at restaurants and have an attitude with the customers?
*Why is that people can go to McDonalds and still have 2 stare at the menu (it hasn't changed since 1956)
*How come when you put on your turn signal to merge to the next lane, other cars speed up.
*Why do women always hug each other, but when guys hug -we uhhh, I mean they are deemed GAY! What up with that?
*How come in a deck of cards the King of Hearts is the only dude with no mustache?
*Did you know a lighting bolt is 5 times hotter than the surface of the sun!
*How come most women lipsticks contains fish scales....yuck!
**Why do dog owners let they dogs lick them and kiss them on the face, don't they know what dogs do with they mouths?
*Why does Goofy stand erect while Pluto remains on all fours? They're both dogs darn it!
*Why do they call it taking a dump? Shouldn't it be leaving a dump?
*Why do banks leave the door wide open but the pens chained to the counter?
*If an orange is orange, why isn't a lime called a green or a lemon called a yellow?
*Why does your gynecologist leave the room when you undress?
*Why do toasters always have a setting on them which burns your toast to a horrible crisp no one would eat?
*If the professor on Gilligan's Island can make a radio out of a coconut, why can't he fix a hole in a boat?
*Why do they call it a TV "set" when you only get one?
*Who closes the door when the bus driver gets off?
*When you perform a head count, do Siamese twins count as one or two?
*So you can wear a bikini in public but not underwear?
*Why are his-and-her presents always for her?
*Why do people point to their wrist when asking for the time, but people don't point to their crotch when they ask where the bathroom is?
*If a husband dies, the wife is called a widow. If a child's parents die, the child is called an orphan. Why isn't there a word for a parent that loses a child?
*Why is it called alcoholics anonymous when the first thing you do is stand up and say "hi, my name's Bob. I'm an alcoholic"?
*Why is it that when someone tells you that there's billions of stars in the universe, you believe them. But if they tell you there's wet paint somewhere you have to touch it?
*Did you ever notice that if you blow in a dogs face it goes mad, yet when you take him on a car ride he sticks his head straight out the window?
*Can a man get raped by a woman? Would she go to jail?
*The sentence "The quick brown fox jumps over a lazy dog." uses every letter of the alphabet!
*The elephant is one of the few mammals that can't jump!
*America once issued a 5-cent bill!
*Chewing gum while peeling onions will keep you from crying!
*In Kentucky, it's the law that a person must take a bath once a year.
*In Singapore, it is illegal to chew gum.
*Fingernails grow nearly 4 times faster than toenails!
*A person uses approximately fifty-seven sheets of toilet paper each day!
*Apples are more efficient than caffeine in keeping people awake in the mornings!
*Why do I always end with ....I am Ward?
I am Ward

Whazzup with the weak brothers of 2day?

The other day I reflected about relationships in a blog. I really wanted to say quite a bit more on that topic but felt it wasn't the time nor place. What did pop up was- a rather interesting discussion with my homeboy about his problems with his old lady. I admit I was taken back a bit due to the nature of the situation! Wonna hear it.....hear it goes!
My guy friend has this extremely jealous lady in his life. She doesn't trust him to the point of calling human resources at his job to see if he is really there. They paid $500 for a lie detector test to see if he was cheating (he passed) and she doesn't want him to look at w omen's sports like basketball and track and field because the women dress too scantily and he may lust after them, accordingly to her!

Hold on, it gets worse! He has to spend all of his breaks and free time talking with her on the phone to reassure her that he isn't talking to another woman! I called my boy once and he deleted the simple message before "SHE" could review it, and do you know she called me personally and asked me what did I say to her man on his voice mail!!!! I was like o.k. this woman is certifiable! I am not even gonna tell you about the time she said she found another woman's blond hair on the soap after his shower. That one made me laugh!
On to dude number 2! This dude is actually married to his old lady and she methodically runs this man's life! She don't mind str8ight checking him in front of a crowd or in private. He allows her to treat him bad and takes it all in stride. (I know the world sometimes views meekness as a weakness, but as men we still gotta lead as our God given responsibility-right????). I honestly think his wife does not like-respect-love or want him. Its more like a toleration situation until when ever or what ever. I find it unfortunate that these scenario's are real and that these are my boys, but it is what it is!
What is Wardee's point today? Simple! Remember my man Adam from the Bible- of course u do sucka, now read on. Consider this perspective: If Adam would have went to God and said the woman that you lovingly gave me ate from that tree you COMMANDED me not to touch, now what is gonna happen? God could have said no problem little hommie, I tried to told yall that death would follow with disobedience, but I am gonna get you a new dip to be down with on "Team Adam", ya feelz me?" Maybe he wouldn't have said those exact words, but U get my point. In case you don't peep this: The two brothers mentioned above are in unique but very real situations. I just want them to wake up or should I say "BUCK up" and lead like the Mandingo Warriorz I know they are! Their actions are affecting many other people and they don't even know it. One think all humans have in common is that we all follow others actions whether we know it or not! If it works for him/her, why can't i do it also- if not better? Sometimes we copy the bad actions too!
Being a pioneer is never easy because you don't have the blue print to follow, which means the men have to try harder-be smarter and do what we do! Look them females dead in the eye and tell em how you feel about them and what you need from them and what the consequences of their actions or lack there of. Again, it won't be easy especially since they aren't reading the blog, but sucker at least you are.....
I am Ward......

There ain't no good black men left!

If I had a nickel for every-time I heard that statement, I am sure I would be a thousandaire by now-lol!Of course we all know that there are plenty of good men left in the world but something deeper is at work in the scheme of things. I mean really when you think about it, the Bible is where the ideal of marriage came to surface! That doesn't mean you have to be a christian to comprehend this simple logic but you do have to be aware of the paradigm shift that is affecting all of us!
So the story goes like this. God saw man was hard at work taking care of his responsibilities and noticed that he was lonely. He wisely said he was going to make a helper or compliment for man! This woman was to be a the Robin to this Batman (no homo) or the soldier that helps the man accomplish all the things he needs to get done in a day. Really the role of a supportive wife is a glorified position that if played correctly not only brings honor to God but helps that man to successfully handle anything that comes his way. Of course the woman should be easy to love and have deep respect for her man. That basically means that she keeps her tongue in check, keeps her heart pure, her house clean, an educator of the kids, her body tight and her mind spiritually secure! Proverbs Chapter 31 can give further insight into what good women already know.
With that being said, it is important to know that the Bible was written over 2000 years ago, but the author is still the same person. This means what he said then, still is as important to this day. However, what is different is how the world looks at relationships and expectations. From the many couples I have personally interviewed, I find that the women want the men to cater to them, chase them and respect them. I find that to be understandable, because a good woman is like an expensive vase. It has to be carefully dealt with as to not break or harm it because of its value and worth, but the vase shouldn't be on the edge of a table either. Women have to have self respect and act like you got senses too! The concern lies with the position of support. I mean its all good that the woman wants to know and be shown she is loved, but keep in mind her role is that of support!!! I honestly believe that great, not good, relationships start with a good woman.
A good woman will encourage her guy with a mild spirit and a big heart. Its true that many women can multitask better than men but does that mean she has to throw that all in the mans face? I think not. How many times does the employee know more than the boss and tries to let him know it? It usually results and a departure of the relationship. In other words, you gotta play your position, but your input is greatly appreciated. What a man really needs is a real helper. If he is falling short in an area, that's where the opportunity 4 the woman to shine! Example: Say the man is trying to pay the bills but is not very organized, how much better would it be for the woman to suggest they write the bills out on paper and pay them accordingly in a orderly way. Thus they worked together and both are happy!
Let me just get to my real point. Since the 70's more women have joined the work force than ever before and this has changed the family that most of the baby boomers are accustomed to. Back in the day, the woman was the cook, housekeeper and child educator. The man was the primary bread winner and disciplinarian and head of the house without question. Not saying its good or bad, but the roles were clearly defined, but now with the income changes we see more divorces. Tthey say ain't no good black men left, I say the men are not getting what the Bible says is a compliment. No one is perfect, but I think God knows what is best for all of us.
Most women I know can't cook or the husband cooks better, most like to yell and be heard and how many of them belittle their husbands with their words to friends and family. Its no wonder so many women are single or divorced.
Not everyone can be a compliment, for whatever reason, so they can always get a cat or two-lol!
I personally know several women who are great examples of what men want and they all have 1 thing in common. Meekness! Yelp, their dudes speak highly of them and others who see them immediately recognize it. Think about it, if your dude has never said to others that "this woman makes my life better-easier or fun" then you got issues. Trust me, its nothing more of a turn off than a woman with a sharp tongue, smart mouth and full of sarcasm. I do fault the guy who allows his woman to act like that because its a direct reflection on him and headship too.
No 2 relationships are the same, but at the end of the day, we all have a role to play, and if you think you doing yours then cuddles to you, but the rest of us need to talk to our mates and make changes.....

I am Ward....