There ain't no good black men left!

If I had a nickel for every-time I heard that statement, I am sure I would be a thousandaire by now-lol!Of course we all know that there are plenty of good men left in the world but something deeper is at work in the scheme of things. I mean really when you think about it, the Bible is where the ideal of marriage came to surface! That doesn't mean you have to be a christian to comprehend this simple logic but you do have to be aware of the paradigm shift that is affecting all of us!
So the story goes like this. God saw man was hard at work taking care of his responsibilities and noticed that he was lonely. He wisely said he was going to make a helper or compliment for man! This woman was to be a the Robin to this Batman (no homo) or the soldier that helps the man accomplish all the things he needs to get done in a day. Really the role of a supportive wife is a glorified position that if played correctly not only brings honor to God but helps that man to successfully handle anything that comes his way. Of course the woman should be easy to love and have deep respect for her man. That basically means that she keeps her tongue in check, keeps her heart pure, her house clean, an educator of the kids, her body tight and her mind spiritually secure! Proverbs Chapter 31 can give further insight into what good women already know.
With that being said, it is important to know that the Bible was written over 2000 years ago, but the author is still the same person. This means what he said then, still is as important to this day. However, what is different is how the world looks at relationships and expectations. From the many couples I have personally interviewed, I find that the women want the men to cater to them, chase them and respect them. I find that to be understandable, because a good woman is like an expensive vase. It has to be carefully dealt with as to not break or harm it because of its value and worth, but the vase shouldn't be on the edge of a table either. Women have to have self respect and act like you got senses too! The concern lies with the position of support. I mean its all good that the woman wants to know and be shown she is loved, but keep in mind her role is that of support!!! I honestly believe that great, not good, relationships start with a good woman.
A good woman will encourage her guy with a mild spirit and a big heart. Its true that many women can multitask better than men but does that mean she has to throw that all in the mans face? I think not. How many times does the employee know more than the boss and tries to let him know it? It usually results and a departure of the relationship. In other words, you gotta play your position, but your input is greatly appreciated. What a man really needs is a real helper. If he is falling short in an area, that's where the opportunity 4 the woman to shine! Example: Say the man is trying to pay the bills but is not very organized, how much better would it be for the woman to suggest they write the bills out on paper and pay them accordingly in a orderly way. Thus they worked together and both are happy!
Let me just get to my real point. Since the 70's more women have joined the work force than ever before and this has changed the family that most of the baby boomers are accustomed to. Back in the day, the woman was the cook, housekeeper and child educator. The man was the primary bread winner and disciplinarian and head of the house without question. Not saying its good or bad, but the roles were clearly defined, but now with the income changes we see more divorces. Tthey say ain't no good black men left, I say the men are not getting what the Bible says is a compliment. No one is perfect, but I think God knows what is best for all of us.
Most women I know can't cook or the husband cooks better, most like to yell and be heard and how many of them belittle their husbands with their words to friends and family. Its no wonder so many women are single or divorced.
Not everyone can be a compliment, for whatever reason, so they can always get a cat or two-lol!
I personally know several women who are great examples of what men want and they all have 1 thing in common. Meekness! Yelp, their dudes speak highly of them and others who see them immediately recognize it. Think about it, if your dude has never said to others that "this woman makes my life better-easier or fun" then you got issues. Trust me, its nothing more of a turn off than a woman with a sharp tongue, smart mouth and full of sarcasm. I do fault the guy who allows his woman to act like that because its a direct reflection on him and headship too.
No 2 relationships are the same, but at the end of the day, we all have a role to play, and if you think you doing yours then cuddles to you, but the rest of us need to talk to our mates and make changes.....

I am Ward....