The Marriage counselor and Wardz wisdumbb

Today at Orientation I basically worked on proper holds and take down techniques of aggressive individuals. It was quite intensive because the entire class had to get on the floor and hold down others. It was real combat but a necessary precaution that had to be learned in order for us to be effective in what it is that we do! I would suggest that if my work mates are gonna be this close to others face that they should invest in severals cases or truck loads of altoids. Heck, let me buy them as my gift from me to them....
Well as class went on a late comer snuck in the back of the class and took a seat beside the Wardster. As she later introduced herself and said she had her Masters degree in Marriage and Family Counseling, I knew I had to speak with her about my favorite topic.......Marriage.
Turns out that ole girl (Lets called her Sydnee) really knows her stuff about couples. We vibed for at least 2 hours because I have a lot of questions and she had all the answers. One thing that she emphasised is that couples need to learn to communicate in ways that both are able to understand. It seems that couples tend to think the other person should suddenly become a mind reader and know what the other wants. It usually doesn't work out to well with this type of expectations lol! I personally think that when we first meet someone we are enthralled with the differences of the other person, but soon enough we start to dislike that our mates don't think like we do. We start with the "Why did he/she do or say this or that?" Why do we do that. Are we not individuals who intelligent enough to have our our view points? Guess not otherwise why would we argue so much?
The counselor also told me that people come in to the office and say things like "Fix him" or she has to try to not seem like she is on the woman's side. It does make sense that when emotions are high enough for you to go seek professional help then you want immediate gratification ASAP!
Today, just really made me think about how frustrated people are today. We are moaning and groaning and just getting run down with all the distractions that affect us day by day. Really couples just want peace at the end of the day but don't know how to achieve that elusive goal. We experiment with emotions on those we love, by being mean to loved one and not speaking for days or weeks on end. We go to bed angry and wake up the same way. It seems we are giving our positive energy and actions to those at the job who could careless about us. In the words of Rodney King....Why can't we all just get a good counselor or something like that?
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