Sundaze

So another month has come and gone! Yet I won't complain because this is the time of the year that I enjoy the most. I love the warm weather, the people who have been hidden all summer are all out (sometimes literally), but I must admit that I am not partial to them ginormous, buzzy sounding, black and yellow, gravity defying, fist pick carrying bumble beeZ! Other than that its summer time and the kids are free for a few months! Wait, perhaps that isn't necessary a good thing-lol!

My day started out with me hitting the snooze about 6 times and then a hot long shower, followed by a wonderful home made breakfast. Next I ironed clothes for the family and off to worship service we went! Then it was dinner time or should I say Golden Corral. The food wasn't the greatest today but I did not have to cook so it was all good. I then went over the family's house and picked up my nephews and watched a boot legg of Star Trek. I had fun just having mindless entertainment. Since I saw that movie before I was able to do some relationship research and was pleasantly surprised.

Did you know that couples start out all fascinated with the other and even admiring the differences of the other and then fast forward: that same couple wants the other to be like and think like them! I was like wow! That's probably a reason so much frustration exits in relationships. We are suppose to be different from each other....Anyway that is another blog. My point is this: Sunday was a good day for me and I look forward to many more. Today, I let the worries of tomorrow wait for me in the future and I just did me.

I am Ward

What I wish my boi Marlo knew about his woman....

After shooting that round ball with Marlo we often end up at Apple bee's getting them half priced appetizers and strawberry lemonade! I guess after all that testosterone being in one place we have to unwind and talk about whats really on our minds. In this particular instance Marlo told me how he hates going home at night until his wife goes to sleep. He has circled the block so much that a cop stopped him and asked him what he was doing? He told the cop honestly and the cop said I understand, I do the same thing with my wife!

See Marlo's wife isn't really feeling him right about now and he can't figure out what he is doing wrong. I mean he says he works hard, faithful and gives her little gifts of love as often as he can think of what to do. He thinks she may have found a new love interest via the Internet? He could be right, but silly men, we always thinks its another guy-lol!
This is what I wish Marlo knew about his woman....When Marlo responds to his woman in a way that acknowledges and prioritizes her rights, wishes and needs, she will feel respected. When Marlo's behavior takes into consideration her thoughts & feelings, she is sure to feel respected. Concrete and physical expressions of respect like flowers and remembering special dates are essential to fulfill his woman's need for love. When she feels respect it is much easier 4 her 2 give Marlo the appreciation that he deserves.

When Ms. Marlo acknowledges having received personal benefit and value from Marlo's actions, Marlo will feel appreciated. See appreciation is a natural reaction to being supported. When Marlo is appreciated he will know his effort is not wasted and is thus encouraging him to give more. When Marlo is appreciated he automatically is motivated to respect his woman all the more. He won't have to ride around the block wasting gas, he will be rushing home.

But then again this is what I wish I could say. Men don't tell other men what to do unless asked and even then we gotta be careful, because it would become like a cat with milk! Hey I am like Lebron James: I am just one brotha, I need help my dang self. Here's to you Marlo. By the way, I heard gas is cheap over on 38th and Germanchurch....lol...

I am Ward.

21 thangs that I realized about me.........

1. I have a low tolerance for stupidity.

2. I have to play basketball at least once per week to remain sane.

3. I would rather laugh than argue.

4. I don't like cold weather, snow or temperature below 70 degrees.

5. My favorite color is purple- means Royalty

6. I don't like waisting money ( I don't tip at dinner like Tiger Woods/Micheal Jordan)

7. I love foreign cars- they are faster, look better and last longer:)

8. I love dogs and hate cats:(

9. I never take NO as an answer from someone who can't give me a yes in the first place

10.I know what the "S" on superman's chest means!!

11.I am a pretty good dad even though I never wanted kids!

12.I can eat as much as I want and stay the same weight.

13.I am not a people person unless I like you.

14.I never trust working with a majority of women- they keep stuff going.

15.I can get away with anything.

16.I can make anybody laugh really hard!

17.Orange Juice makes my stomach upset.

18.I really enjoy reading-- especially the Bible.

19.I always wanted to be a thief when I was a child. Robin Hood type thing.

20.I still want to be a High School teacher. Wardy loves them bad kidz!

21. LOVE never fails....even after 6 years or more-lol!

I am Ward....

I know love is sometimes blind but she needs a seeN eye dawg

O.k. I was watching the Tyra Banks show today (Yes I said Tyra BankS) and these women was talking about how they don't need no stinking man and can have a baby by themselves. Well it was going smooth until they brought the Bible up. One lady said that in Genesis that the woman will crave her dude and he will dominate her. The other lady said that was curse! Lady 3 says women were made to keep man from being bored and not her! It was a funny show. I personally feel that two people really just want a person who gotz their back and show them good love.

With that being said, a real live woman I know, has had this torch for her dude for years. The ironic thing is- that she was his woman- but he wasn't her man??? No matter how mean this dude is to the girl in question she still is there hoping for the best.
Now is that love- if love is not reciprocated? Hummm, I would say there are some issues that require immediate attention. I find myself struggling with how a man can call a woman the "B" word and she still sits there and talk to him like that is her name. How can a man treat you like a second class citizen and you stay with him. Perhaps the women on the Tyra show did have a point!!!! In Steve Harvey's book (Act like a lady...Think like a Man) he said something that I really agree with. He said on page 78, A woman who commands respect is a keeper; a woman who lets men get away with disrespecting her is a throwback. And my friend wonders why she is single????

My home girl is said to be over this dude now, but she keeps talking about the good TIME they had back in 1974. I mean come on lady, get a seeing eye dawg. You ain't over him and he was never that into you. After 16 years of dating, if he ain't wife you up---I hate to say it,but you wasn't the one, two or twelve. He is getting married soon to his dream girl, I just hope you are alright. You can't get back the time you invested in him. Learn from this and move on or keep your toes crossed and hopefully he may change and come back to YOU........not

I am Ward...

I'm just saying....

O.k we all know that the media is the catalyst that dictates what the conversation will be about around the water cooler-right? It seems that the hot topic now is Micheal Vic, the man who was sentenced to jail for bank rolling a dog fighting situation, returning to the NFL. He was once the highest paid player in the NFL ($200 million contract) and did I mention he is a brotha who loves dogs??

I look at it like diss...the man served his time, he washed dishes in a prison for twelve cents an hour and was a model prisoner. And if memory serves me correctly, the reason you serve time is to get some rehabilitation and then return to society. How many other celebrities have severed time and returned back to a normal life? Kloe Kardishan and Nicole Richie had DUI charges and and got out in less than an hour and back to business as usual. Them suckers could have killed either me, you or our family members. Vick bank rolled dog fighting and did almost 2 years. I guess he would have been better off driving drunk- at least he would have received less time-lol!

Take Mel Gibson, that bama had a national break down and crussed errr body and they mama out. He still in the news as being he man. Hummm, I'm just saying..... things looking a little monolytical to me. Is it a color thing or should this man not be allowed to do what he does? Any sports fan knows that athletes don't really have time to track their money, they go peoplez for that. They gotta be focused on being healthy and running them plays. Vic is no saint, but he was the example for other Negros who got money. Reel Talk- dog fighting-chicken fighting- an boxing- been going on for years and Vic didn't introduce any of them, some other people did....

What is my point you ponder: Lets leave the past in the past and get some equality and justice and let imperfect people live perfectly peaceful.....

I am tha dog loving Ward.......

A Prince amongst Kingz

Today I want to give a shout out to one of the greatest musical brain childs of our generation! Sucka who else could it be other than Prince. You see the picture 2 tha right, so don't be acting brand new! Remember back in the day when Prince and Micheal Jackson were battling to see who was the .....ummm Man! MJ had just dropped Thriller and it was straight blowing up all over the world and Prince came out with a series of movies, such as Purple Rain and Under the Blue Moon. It became a contest to see which one of them would be the first to crack up from fame, overdose from drugs or turn out to be on the down low. The ironic thing is that Micheal and His entire family were Jehovah's Witnesses and with the exception of his Moms everybody either got disfellowshipped or walked away from the religion. (((Now))) Prince is a Jehovah witness and we all know who ended up being the crazy one-lol!

I recall back in high school when a hommie took me out for a spin in his new BMW ( that started my love affair with foreign cars) and he played if I was your girl- friend by Prince and he explained the words. I was like that dude is deep and been a fan ever since. Dude taught him self how to play 17 instruments by the time he was 19. Think about it, he doesn't need other artist to help sell his music, he is his own man. I love: When doves cry, purple rain, little red corvette, raspberry beret, controversy, darling Nikki, I want to be your lover, 1999, I want to be your lover, I would Die 4 U, lets go crazy, kiss and I feel for you ( yeah he wrote it and sang it then gave it to Chaka Khan). Dude is just all that when it comes to music. Sure he wears heels but he is a freaking tall midget, he gotta do something!

I can go on about all his music but I think my point is clear. The boy got skills and since he is mixed/mulatto- he got that cross over coin in his pockets. I hope he continues to make them hits for years to come. Hey he didn't rape no kids (MJ) He didn't have sex with and marry under age girls (R.Kelly) and he ain't been to Jail ( Ron Isley) and he's still alive, so lets hear it for Brother Prince Roger Nelson.

I be Ward............

My ministers clothes don't define who I am.........You do sucka!

I love seeing the freedom of expression that people show on the you-tube site! I have to chuckle at some things and cringe at others. Nevertheless, it is the realness that keeps me checking from time to time. In fact one of the more interesting viewings occurred when I saw these ministers tring 2 reach the young people. One minister came out dressed like a "pimp" from the 70's. He actually wore a white rabbit fur full length coat, feather in the hat, stack shoes and a lime green dress shirt from Saturday Night Fever. He wore this down the isle up into the pulpit where he proceeded to use the "B" word in reference to women. He and he co-preacher both performed this act as the Sunday service. They said it was done to reach the young people. They felt that in order to get more youth interested in religion, you must show them that you can relate to them.

This is not an uncommon view from many today that I encounter. I see people rapping about Jesus, wearing multiple iced out crosses, and coming to worship in the same clothes that they would wear to the club, I think they call this coming as you R-lol! Don't get it twisted- you gotta wear what you have.Imagine going on a job interview for a executive position or going to meet with President Obama- you would wear a nice suit, shirt or pant suit. Likewise, when you are going to worship the most high in the universe, wouldn't it behoove you to take a few minutes to show greater respect 4 the giver of life. Leave your jeans and booty shorts at home.........

I gave this some reflection time and came up with the following. The Bible WAS written thousands of years ago and inspired of God- who has not changed... nor his word. I see the readers have though??? With that being said of the scriptures, the people mentioned within its pages were not followers of popular trends, they did not follow local traditions to help honest hearted ones to find the truth, rather they used sound reasoning by letting the word speak for it self.

Returning to the hip-hop ministers, I am unsure what the plan to keep its 'new members' who like hearing women degraded and men being seen as street figures. I just don't think if Jesus were here he would not implore this course of action! Last time I checked, the best advice you can give anyone is a good example! How many people remember the saying be like Mike!!

I leave you with this, Read the word ur self before going to any place of worship ( that way you will know if you are being properly fed) and "don't let what you can not do interfere with what you can do (John Wooden)

I be waRD.....

If you want a good relationship I suggest you read the following.....

This is what you must do papi if you want your stuff to not stink so much!!Read the following questions and answer them honestly with your significant other. Relax, anyone can do this* if you are married, dating, thinking about marriage or in a relationship. Just do it suckers.......

1. Describe what you want to have in your relationship.

2. What would it take for you to be satisfied with your mate?

3. What would it take for your mate to be satisfied with you?

4. What do you want for your relationship and what are you willing to do to get er done?

5. In what way do you think you could be an excellent complement each other?

6.What are your needs?

7. Is your partner aware of what your needs are and have you told them?

8. What is your definition of love and what does the scriptures say Love is?

Warning: Reading and understanding this blog may result in women landing a NBA player or at least a dude with a job and men may get a super model or at least a woman with her own hair and a job!

Now I have given you much to be pensive about. So get to it and live long and prosper....

I am not Spock, but I am Ward......

The truth about woman......exposed

Whodini (the rap group white people) once said "some say its an art, some say its a shame- that you'd give me your body before your name"! I guess its just the game women play when -they want to play it. So many things we men folk don't understand about the opposite sex like why women keep old clothes in the back of the closet and talkN about you are going to wear them again once you loose weight. HA! From a logical stand point, why can't you just loose weight and then reward yourself with something new instead of returning to the out dated clothing??? Nahh, that makes to much sense. Also, taking diet pills makes yall moody and mean. I suggest the YMCA, Curves or Lifetime fitness!! Next, we don't understand why yall don't like certain things about your body when we even notice or complain about it. Its like all your magazine articles focus on little imperfections that the perfect air brushed woman doesn't have. So when we, your dudes, give you a compliment, yall be like "you don't mean it....I am fat or I am have fat thighs or anything else silly". Most men agree that women seem to compare themselves with thier past figures with the present. You aging if you keep living. Deal with it suckerettes......Hugggggh.
What about not being ready to forgive you yet? Women can walk around holding a grudge until they feel its time to forgive the innocent male! Whats up with that? Don't get it twisted I understand when someone gets hurt and they need time to regroup, but this prolonged self healing time gives the idiot male time to reflect on the many things you mucked up in his life. Remember the time you scratched up my Acura or lost your wedding ring that I had to replace or lost the mortgage money....Sorry I went to that place my shrink told me to avoid, but I am back.
O.k.if this doesn't prove that women are....lets just say different from men what about this. I got 3 reasons why men are forced to leave women.
1).Overwhelmed! If a man is constantly dealing with all the emotions you throw at him/us and it sometimes gets to us. The man is usually the source of support and masculinity in the relationship but we can only take so much silly stuff. Just having real talk! Just tell the guy, this is how I am feeling and I want you just to listen. We can do that. Our problem occurs when we try to do what we think you want.

2). Yall always trying to fix us. Umm we are cool the way we R! Sure some of us might need an occasional adjustment but never a complete make over. I heard one woman told her dude to take speech classes and change his friends! Now that what I call a lifestyle change. What about the woman who never asks her dude what he likes or wants from the relationship cause she knows he just wants her to talk 24/7ths! Blah blah blah. Ahhhh the joy of a nagging voice! Men need 4 basic things. ( see up coming blog for answers of google Dave Chappelle)

3) Not believing in yo' dude. Women are so pre-programmed to think the guy is lying about dang near errry thing that he has to lie to get her to believe the truth. If he has a picture in the house, that means he is lost in love, if he is 5 minutes late from work-he is cheating. And what if he breaks the golden rule and mentions a comment the girl from work said...he must desire her? Women are so wise to men shenanigans....

Men are simple creatures. Please stop trying 2 complex up the situation with your intuition and don't be mad cause I had to expose your craziness. You know who you are....then again.....lol!

I am ward.....

Who Knew????? Old meets newness

So another Friday night has come and gone, but B4 it ended I made my way over to AMC to watch a movie. I go every now and then to see how normal folk view movies-lol! I had to decide between the black flick or the sci-fi. Obvious I went with the Star Trek movie (hence the pics). Of course it was packed, but since I was in Greenwood, I was cool with going solo! Odd thing about that is this other black guy arrived around the time I did and after he fumbled around with his funds, he came and stood by me, like we was a couple. I was like**Blank to the knoll. I stepped slightly to the left and he did too. I eventually lost him, but he came in the theater looking like he was looking for his date (me I guess) I turned my head and slid lower in my seat as he slowly passed by looking like Professor Klump Jr.
Back to the movie....It is the 11Th installment of the Star Trek movies and 43 years since the first t.v. show aired. JJ Abrams directed a winner with this one. They made Dr.Spok human and even gave that sucka a love interest (a sista???) and a dual role. The action was great and I never knew what was coming next. This movie is not only believable, but all generations will find it funny and serious at the same time. It ran about 2.5 hours and I still wanted more! Black people will be surprised that Tyler Perry has a major roll in this Micky Flicky too. WHO KNEW????? All I can say is WOW!
In addition, this summer will have some hot new movies that just keep getting better. Look out for Transformers 2, G.I.Joe,Terminator and a few more. I am actually excited about moviez for this season.
By the way, I saw Professor Klump Jr. when I was leaving and he had popcorn droppings all over his Bibb and butter on his lips. He had that never to look at me like " Where was you at, I was looking for you". I just shook my head still satisfied with my movie selection. Check it out, or see your boi for $4.95...I'll hollar...
I be Ward.......

Why does luv fade

So you found the luv of your life and you moved in with them and was feeling pretty good about this situation. I can dig it, you got a partner who laughs at your jokes, accompanies you with errands, splits your bills with you and they even have your back when others turn away. Wow, who would have ever imagined that you could have been this fortunate to have a real life dream come true! I understand the common expectations of love, attention and support but what happens if these feelings fade...
Usually it doesn't take a couple long to find out that the mate you have has not shown you all the sides of his being.
Let us say you move in with someone (skip marriage)and find out that your versions of clean has severe variations. If you are like me, you might think that your home and car is an extension of you, the person. Therefore you vacuum, wash clothes/dishes and tidy up daily. But your mate may think that cleaning involves spraying some Lysol in the room and turning their underwear to the other side is all that is needed. This might become a problem one day. (I knew this girl from College who would regularly iron dirty jeans with mustard and jelly stains on them....but she was fine so who really cared?)
However, when love starts to fade in the relationship new trends develop. He or she may take up new hobbies or interests that don't involve you! That's right sucka you need to open your eyes. If your mate is going to work all kinds of strange hours and then working late, might be a problem. If your mate is hitting the clubs up and taking suggestive pics with someone other than you- might be a problem. If you and your mate don't talk about issues of importance to one or both of you.....you will have a problem.
Trust me, there is no magic love machine, you don't put in a quarter and out drops a can of "act right"! You gotta put in time, communication and effort. People are complex, broken beings therefore, previous hurts, fears or losses can impede our determination to trust and be truthful in relationships. I have learned that we do have the capacity and ability to change and grow back into love and trust.

I had always heard that marriage/relationships are hard work, but who wants to work hard all the time. I thought deeply about that questions over the years and came up with this. People who are happy in relationships do what unhappy people won't do. They know when to encourage their mate, they know when to shut up and let certain things pass by and happy people are good communicators and forgivers. Think back how many times you went toe to toe with your mate over something about nothing. Didn't Neo make a song about this people.

All I am saying is that no couples are perfect, but if you got issues, talk about them and solve them as a couple. If you solve it on your own, how can your mate benefit from the solution process? It ain't easy to get your luv back, but its cheaper to keep her......
I am wArD.....