LOVE TKO SUCKERZ........

I listened to Teddy Pendergrass singing on the radio today and got inspired to write today's entry! Let me give you a taste of what the song said 1st.......

Lookin' back over my years
I guessed, I've shedded some tears
Told myself time and time again
This time I'm gonna win

But another fight, things ain't right
I'm losin' again
Takes a fool to lose twice
And start all over again

Tried to take control of the love
Love took control of me
'Cause you lose all thoughts, sense of time
And have a change of mind

Takin' the bumps and the bruises
Of all the things of a two-time loser
Just tryin' to hold on, faith is gone
It's just another sad song

{{{Back to the blog}}}. Talking to some friends today, the topic was men with drawing from their mates, removing their affections or not being loving enough. I clearly think men don't want to disrespect or neglect his woman, because after all, women were made to be man's loving compliment right? Let's break down this topic like this.....When men start to get fed up with their mates, his attraction starts to ween. Now that doesn't mean he doesn't find her attractive or loving, rather he starts to ask if the little things are out weighing the big things he enjoys. The loss of attraction can happen in 2 ways. We suppress our true-ness in an attempt to please our mate or we try to get them to be like us (or think like us). Guess what happens next???? We sabotage the relationship, then we have that deer in head lights look on our faces.
If we succeed in changing our partner we can actually get some short term needs fulfilled but when the passion starts to leave your situation, you may start to feel like what the fudge happened to this sucka? Peep this: If a dude keeps telling his woman don't get all bent outta shape over nothing" -So, the woman starts to repress how she is feeling about at the time to please ole boi, then he feels good but she doesn't!!!! As time goes on, this couple will start to be, ooh let's say, not as close and loving, with each passing day. I see this trend happening until their is no love left between the two.
The point is this: Many times our good intentions will have us trying to help someone we love see the wrong in their actions by telling them how "WE" wouldn't have done this or that, speaking on how other couples handle their relationships.This line of communication turns off your dude and then he starts to sing the song mentioned about.
 How much better would it be if we expressed our hopes, dreams and desires to our mate in a way that is easier to accept. For example, "It hurts my feelings when you stay out late and don't call me". The person hears your words as non-threatening and seeks to gain cool points by showing they can do as you ask not out of fear....................................................................................................... but LOVE suckers......
Oh well, if you get it , then you get it. If not then I guess its another love TKO...
I am Ward.....