Love without boarderz.....why couples can't get it or keep it right for long

Can we really love someone if they have to meet our expectations of what our version of love is? Should we consider ourselves in a relationship if we don't have trust? Is what is mine suppose to be split with my mate........ or is what is mine is just for me? Should someone have to say sorry for something that they don't mean because they don't think they were actually wrong in the first dabb gum place???? If the woman makes more $$$ than her dude, does that make him less deserving of her respect? These are some of the questions that if left unanswered will lead to a break down of the love that we respectfully call "our own"!
I find it ironically humorous that the beginning of all relationships we find ourselves on our best behaviors. We don't burp, fart, cuss are show an attitude during that 6 month front stage. We don't talk about our negatives little nuisances for fear of looking bad in the eyes of those whom we want to impress. When you get down to it, we actually treat our co-workers better than our family members:  isn't that an alarming thought? 
There is an old saying that says, We hurt the ones we love the most. This is done because we feel a certain comfort level with people we know love us. We sorta take their feelings for granted or as I like to call it....We tend to think that our loved one won't ever hurt or leave us, so we just do what ever and say Sorry later.
Men and women are totally different in their approaches to life, love and relationships but neither will never be mind readers of what the others are thinking. Both parties in the union deserve happiness and love but seldom know how to attain it after the honeymoon period is over. Its hard to love someone all over again, who has taken you for granted, compared you to their ex and falsely accused you of cheating. Someone how sorry just doesn't soothe hurt feelings. Love without boarders to me means accepting that in love and war All is not fair but it does happen. We have to learn to be good forgivers and students of love rather than false teachers of this art. We should keep in mind to never take our loved ones for granted. No matter how much someone loves you, everyone has their limits of feeling unappreciated. Remember to taste our words carefully before we spit them out into others ears. And finally, when we allow the wrong people in our homes/lives, stuff will always come up missing like : Joy, Peace, Love,Hope,Faith and finally your lover. I feel couples won't get it right until couples need to get back the basics of love!
Love suckers.......
I am Ward....