How couples can start to get it right without going left!!!!

One thing I alwayz find true about the male species is that we tend to be logical and look for solutions to make us feel better about what ever it is that we are going thru. I know personally, when I have things heavy on my mind or thinking about a major decision, I want to be alone and try to figure out my next move. On the rare occasion when I can't find the answers I need, I call on one of my guys that I respect and trust. We talk about the issues and kick around solutions. Before you know it, I feel good and my next move becomes my best move. Its pretty much how guys operate. We think, we react and we solve! Seems simply enough doesn't it?
Women on the other hand come str8ight outta left field with their approach to problem solving. Women first need to know its o.k. to be upset about an issue. Getting a quick fix is not what she is necessarily looking 4 at the moment. She wants to be heard and tends to feel better knowing someone who cares about her is standing by her, supporting her during this time. The woman may start to feel better even if the problem is doesn't go away. She feels less stressed and over whelmed about what ever was bothering her.
The ironic thing about the differences between the man and woman is that, we men, tend to think that after listening to our women babble about what was on their minds, that y'all actually want our problem solving skills lol. Then the dude gets all frustrated when the women rejects our help.
I mean I can dig how stupid men sound to a woman at times.
1) "Why you tripping on that situation now, its already over right?
2) "Don't get upset until you know for sure that it will happen"!
3). "Since it has already happended, there is nothing you can do about it now."

I don't think women find these comments loving or comforting, but to dude it just makes sense.....TO US!!!!
I learned that when men learn to relax and listen to his women without thinking that he has to solve the problems of the world, they both can relax and enjoy each other knowing they got each others back. Yeah its simple but I think it is a good starting point.
I am ward......