First Loves and Second Divorces.....

Couples are known to love each other, fight each other and eventually leave each other. I say the latter part because most people don't always stay with their first lovez---- for what ever reasons they usually just don't? The thing that perplexes me is why we never let the memories of our first love subside?? I'm willing to venture as far as saying that the first relationship very well defines what type of qualities you will want in a man or woman!
In this writers opinion, when you first start dating everything is new and exciting with expectations being non-existent to very very low! So if your mate was mild tempered, attentive, loving and big on communication that you probably dated me!Men tend to want a woman like Momz, ya know cared about him no matter what he did. She could cook and clean and still keep it tight! Seriously, there are no classes that we take on dating in Jr.High/High School, we just go by trial and error and of course we can always listen to our friends unproven advice (most of our friends had no mate but plenty of advice). My Nephew (Evan) once told me that he met the perfect woman who is in the 12th grade! Poor misguided soul!!
Think about this, so many people end up in divorce court and never had that plan from the beginning, but yet it is a very real reality isn't it? Again return to that first love. They knew we were imperfect and loved us anyway, in fact they sometimes only saw the good in us and encouraged us to heights we know we never would have attained otherwise. Fast 4 ward back to the "sucka" U with now. You may argue over money, communication, house hold duties and anything else to get the fire fueled. Perhaps it has something to do with life showing you that everything that glitters isn't always "fake gold".
The only comparison I can give to the first love is--my kids ( I have 2) because they get mad and fuss and fight as well, but are friends again the next 10 minutes and rarely bring up the silly arguments again. Kids are innocent and just want to have fun. I read that kids laugh some 600 times per day and adults laugh about 10 times per day. Hummmm perhaps it is just a coincidence-lol! Why can't we be like that?
Of course there are always exceptions to the first love rule, because some women have been beaten, mistreated and pushed to limits. Some men have been scared to death seeing women at night for the first time with that green stuff on their face and the Aunt Jemima wrap on yallz head and that god awful moo-moo (where do you all get that stuff from).
My point is to keep in mind the things that you initially enjoyed about dating and try to reincorporate those things in 2 your current situation if its not too late! Keep the innocence about your self and your expectations. Learn to be meek and work on the fruitages of the spirit(love,joy,peace,long suffering,kindness,goodness,faith, mildness and self control) you might just be happier.
So far, we are incapable of returning to the past but we can focus on our gift (the Present-lol!)and sometimes you find your first love again and who knows what can happen then suckers!

I be Ward