Every woman plays the fool for love but learn to put an expiration on that *%@ish

I find that in dating world, the longer a couple waits to jump the broom, the quicker they separate/divorce. I can't tell you how many times I spoken to dozens of women who dating men for several years with a few common out comes. 1). The guys leaves her for another chick and wife's her up quickly 2). If the dude finally settles down with the woman, he gets a divorce within 24 months of the union 3). The couple arguges about silly issues until the point of growing apart.
The question that needs to be considered is "WHY" do women stay with men for years as his girl friend or live in lover? The couples functions like they are married, with the freedom for one them (usually the male) to stay out late, club or cheat and still have a safe place to return to! Studies have shown that it takes 6 months to know someone well enough to get married, yet many couples choose to date for 10-15 years to really make sure they are doing the right thing-lol! When you think about it, when we start a new job, the training usually last about 4 weeks or less and the rest is on the job learning. I guess when it comes to choosing a marriage partner it takes longer so the couples must have premarital sex (fornication), have kids out of wedlock, sign leases or buy homes and cars like a couple, but never make an official commitment but still consider themselves a christian couple.
I am not insensitive about the feelings that women catch for men, because women love harder and deeper than men in most cases, however, does that mean you gotta be a fool for love? Perhaps someone gets lonely for physical attention, need help splitting that monthly rent or just afraid of being alone with themselves.  I complied a few reasons I feel everybody plays the fool 4 love.....

 1. LIVE  YOUR LIFE THROUGH YOUR MAN –  Women who let a man control the relationship eventually feel cheated and angry.   “Be the best you can be in your own right.”   You need to take a stand for things in your life, and in the relationship that you want.   Don’t wrap your whole life around his!

2. SETTLING FOR A MAN – Desperate women settle for any man. Don’t settle for anyone less than you deserve.  It may take longer to find the right guy but you won’t be stuck with a bum.   Don’t act desperate, good men can smell the desperation a mile away.  Just be confident, be yourself and believe that the right man will come along – the Bible says the man finds the woman right?
3.  CONFUSING PASSION FOR LOVE -  Too many women have sex out of a feeling of emptiness or hunger for approval.  The result:  No bueno suckers!  Sex before marriage can make you feel worthless.  Wait and choose a partner you’ve gotten to like as a person.   Men actually like women MORE if they withhold sex  because they deem you “marriage material.”  No man wants to get involved in a serious relationship with an “easy” woman.
4.  DON’T LIVE TOGETHER BEFORE MARRIAGE:  Yeah, this sounds old school, outdated and… crazy.  But studies repeatedly show that couples who live together before marriage are one-third more likely to break up within 3 years.  Get to know his family, friends and him. Then get married if it feels right, usually between 6 months to 12 months.  Make a commitment of marriage,  do it, then move in… don’t move in without the marriage suckers.
5.  EXPECTING TOO MUCH FROM A MAN:  Women with low self=esteem expect marriage to bring total fulfillment.  But they’re doomed to disappointment when Prince Charming doesn’t meet expectations.  Choose a compatible mate, not a dude you think will solve your problems.   Ask any married woman – happily or not – men can not, and do not, solve all your problems.
6. HAVING A BABY FOR THE WRONG REASON: Women who have a child to fix a broken relationship often become trapped with a man they should have neva got with cuz his sex game was tight!  Make an intelligent decision about having a child.  You have the power over you own body.  Do NOT have a baby just to keep a man in a relationship with you. This will also make him resent you and won't make him faithful to you
7.  HAVING LOW  STANDARDS! -  Over the years women’s standards and requirements have lowered.  Men know that and have taken advantage of it.   Many woman don’t require anything of a man. So many standards have been lowered by women that now a man doesn’t have to climb over a very high bar to get to her. So now you have more men who can get away with more things with more women without any repercussions.   Don’t accept less than you deserve – but some women think dating a dude for 7 + years is a good example and somehow acceptable.
8.  NOT LOVING YOURSELF – If you love yourself and are happy in your own skin, you will be attractive to men.  Take time for yourself.  Decided what you want in life, picture your perfect life – and then go out and get it!   There is no reason in today’s world for a woman not to love herself or to get the help she needs in learning HOW to love herself.   You are special, treat yourself right!   Love yourself first, men will follow. Read Proverbs chapter 31 and find out real women roll.

My point is this. There is no perfect people left on this Earth at this time, but we do have the ability to make better decisions about our lives. We have to realize how hard it is for us to change ourselves so how we gonna change someone else? Women have to realize their worth and position. If a man loves you like he loves him self, he will show you he loves you as well as tell you. Finally, I hope women finally learn that men will only do what you allow us to do. Hummmmmmmm.
I am Ward........