Angry People suck......

The other day I was at slow (supposedly fast food) food restaurant ordering a 2 piece chicken dinner. A man walked in, who had placed an order earlier, clearly upset because he thought it took to long for his freakin meal to come. This sucka threatened the employee, shoved him up against the wall and pimp slapped the scared old man!!! The angry dude then grabbed his hot wings and walked out of the restaurant and got in his hooptee and sped off!


I realize that all of us, including me get angry sometimes, because anger is as much a part of makeup as love, hope and anxiety are. I just happen to feel that controlled anger is a better situation. When I get angry, I find that I play some of my best basketball. I am more focused and intense and when I finish, it’s like a calm that comes over my body! But what I witnessed was straight from the dark side of anger! Seems that some people can get ticked off faster and more frequent than others thus allowing the anger to control them. Let’s just call that the incredible hulk feeling! This uncontrolled anger can get you in more trouble in a few moments that can take a life time to get out of. Heck, I was watching that old Spike Lee movie called “Do the right thing” and looking how the mob was forming around the white brother who accidently “grazed” the black brother’s new Air Jordan’s! It was just a movie, but very indicative of reality.

The sad thing about people giving in to anger today can result in others being harmed or even killed. Remember the young black male named Romeo Santana on the Steve Harvey show back in the day. He was shot in the back of the head by a guy who was told that Romeo had raped her. She was lying as it turned out, but she got the other guys hyped enough to go out and kill an innocent man. Truly sad and makes me wonder how many others have died from the same misfortune?

My dad once told me that he had to do jury duty on a case involving a man beating his girlfriend’s toddler to death because he wouldn’t stop crying. It really seemed to have hurt my Dad’s feelings to be a part of convicting a black male due to a double edged sword with the young child being killed too!

Seems like every where we look, someone is upset or being out of control. School killings, poor customer service anywhere, sports teams fighting each other and fans and police brutality has strongly increased!

I actually researched this anger epidemic and found that scientists admit that anger is poorly understood. They did say that “Anger Triggers” are unique to each person. The definition is “Something that frustrates or annoys someone. They can really be jump started with feelings of injustice, disrespect, being slighted or ignored. You know we all been there, but all handle it in our own way. I guess age, gender and culture are variables that help also. Some people get offended when you look at them and hang on to the anger for ever, while others never get upset and keep it moving. When I was a school teacher, I would see kids acting all kinds of foolishness and when their parents would come to the conference, I completely understood why it was what it was lol!!!! If little Jimmie was raised in a hostile house, why would I expect him to play nice with the other kids. I mean it is possible, but aren’t we all creatures of habit, doing what we know how to do? I am starting to feel that anger is like tainted water, once you have been exposed to it, you are more likely to be that way as an adult. If you don’t believe me, watch them prison shows and listen to how them suckers ended up there!

I went bowling last night and had to be cramped in betwixt several ghetto people that made me feel uncomfortable. I almost lost my composure and that would have lead to me losing the bowling game and you know we can’t have that! I think pressure at work, marriages, school and life are hurting people today, but I am confident that there is hope. I suggest adjusting your expectations, practice deep breathing, get a good hobby and exercise regularly like I try to and see what happens. I think the old term is called “Chill-laxing” Leave anger alone people, cause I gotta live in this world with your crazy self.

I am Ward.

If honesty is the best policy, shouldn't i keep it 100 with my hommies????

2 BE honest means to be truthful and free of fraud. Honesty requires you to be fair in dealing with others—straightforward, honorable, not deceptive or misleading. An honest person is a person of integrity. Being always trustworthy, he will never cheat his fellowman. All of us would like to be treated that way, would we not?  In speaking with my female hommiez, we debated about honesty when it comes to good friends. The particulars are not really important-what is important is that she was asked her opinion by a good friend. She gave her perspectives, but she didn't really give the response that was 100. I feel she gave the politically correct answer, but is that really being honest with your peoples?
Of course I am not judging her, I am really checking myself. I am sure that many of us do that very same thing to protect our friends and families relationship. I mean, if you really answer someone's question with the truth it could really mess them up. Case in point: If your cousin is complaining to you that her dude seems to have feminine tendencies, but she is sure he is not gay. So she ask you do you think he is gay? You can be honest and say what you really feel or you say that you are sure he loves her very much. That is my dilemma, seems like people are so consumed with being liked or loved that they forgo honesty.
I know that old saying of "You can't handle the truth" is real for most of us. I think it is better to be straight up with everyone, but you can say it in a loving way. Heck, you can tell someone their baby is ugly, by simply saying "He look just like his Daddy", yall feel me on that. What about if someone wants you to eat thier nasty looking food, Wardy says, I just finished eating and feeling stuffed, but if i wasn't, I would have loved to have tried your dish! LOL, I have done that for real.
I believe in being honesty and tactful, but when you ask my views, eye can listen and agree or give you the realness. As for my hommie, I think he being 100 is the best thing she can do, but not how you think. I suggest, saying "I am not as close to the situation as you are and not having all the intel that you have, it is clearly better that you tell me how you feel and what you should do and I, as your friend, will support you". Yeah that's what eye would do!
I am Ward

6 Thangs you AINT know about Ward!

• I am a really good cook (I always ask good cooks how they created that meal)
• Can make a variety of people laugh daily (Black-White-Kids-Old Folk, etc)
• Have gone "years" with out speaking to people who irrate me **once**, esp family
• I am a State of Indiana licensed Notary Public (yes, I charge so don't ask)
• I have my Professional Barber License 2
• I have owned and sold over 300 cars using Craigslist
• My favorite dog is the Rott or is it the American Pit Bull?
• Love shooting and hitting the 3 point  jump shotz from the top of the key (str8ght butter)
• Ward doesn't get jealous....ever!
• Getting better at speaking Spanish (but who can't now a daze)
• I love light skinned black women and (Hispanic women tooooooo!)
• Addicted to foreign cars (black on black- 1st choice)
• Use about 100 tubes of chap-stic yearly (gotta stay soft sucka)
• Have a low tolerence for ghetto people, especially in the work environment
• Love to see women with good fashion sense
• Would love to have a radio show one day
• Currently reading "The magic of thinking BIG" and "Dealing with People you can't Stand"
• Need to keep my hair trimmed weekly because it grows so freaking fast
• My nephews are my closest male friends
• I once married the same woman twice... in another life
• I can always get something for free or a discount anywhere
• I have never had a drink or drug in my life
• My kids think I am funny and love to talk to me about live (sure that will change soon)
• I get choked up reading stories of Witnesses who over came great odds to serve Jah
• My favorite soul food spot is Dusties in Matterson Illinois
• I enjoy public speaking, especially to large crowds
• If I like a car, I will tint the windows 5% black all the way around
• I love mini vans. They are so practical
• I love long hair on women!
• Admire women who allow their dude to be the dude in the relationship
• Love doing Stand up comedy (Thanks Work 1, for all the material)
• Don't like Chinese food because I use to be a janitor (enough said)
• Really want to go on a world tour before I expire
• Like the fact that I am not prejudice. Its so stupid
• I learned a lot about relationships from watching Martin
• Working on being more patient with things that make no sense to me
• Fav quote is "if that's your real name

I am Ward Suckers......

Is life suppose 2 bee equally fair and should it be?

Recently I assisted someone with getting their dream car (because thatz what I does sucka) and listening to their questions of anticipation and obvious fear of getting the best deal, I began to ponder about how much inequality exits in the world today. Ok, let’s look at the car and home ownership business. Let’s walk 2 people from birth to ready to the ready to purchase state. They both are born in Methodist Hospital, grow up and attend public schools in Indianapolis and then both attend Ball State after graduating from high school. Both major in the same field and obtain the exact same degree. Now they both are applying at the same places for auto and homes. Now this is where it gets exciting!



Shouldn’t everything be fair at this point? Of course, we are assuming that both were responsible with their finances and did the right thing (so delete that thought). The fact of the matter is, both will be treated very different based on race, gender and timing for starters. I guarantee you that everybody in your neighborhood has very different house and car payments. I won’t say that it is right or wrong, but I will acknowledge that it happens. So again, my original question arises, “Is life suppose to be fair and should it be? The simple answer most would give may be yes! Then again, if all were fair, where would the competition to do better come from, where is the competitive advantage to make one customer go to one place over another? I think on some levels, customers like know they got a better deal than some other sucka? Think about how many people like walking around with the fake Prada or Gucci bag smiling as someone thinks it is the expensive one. Heck I been known to rock some J’s that were not purchased from foot locker and no one ever questioned me.



Nevertheless, our creator fortunately doesn’t subscribe to this idealistic view of better than-less than malarkey because of the intense ramifications of its effects on the masses. I have to chuckle to myself when I see people spending all their money on a car while living in their mama’s basement, just 2 keep up appearances. The ironic thing is, most people don’t know you probably could careless about what you drive or where you live and those who do know you are presumably thinking you are living outside you means and waiting for you to fall!



At the end of the day, life isn’t fair and those of us who realize that tend to work that to our advantage. Some chose to be taken for a fool, while others learn to get in where they fit in and reverse work the system to their advantage. Ya know, lie about income, degrees, and living arrangements and so on. I do think life should and will be fair for one day
'soon', but for now, a sucka is being born every day.

I am Ward…..

Why MJ should learn to be non-biased and shut the.....well just stay a retired fan!!

 Michael Jordan never played against LeBron James but that has not stopped the two from going one-on-one over how to determine greatness on the basketball court.
Jordan, widely hailed as the best player of all-time and who turned 50 on Sunday, believes it is all about championship rings, while James, 28, thinks that view is a little too simplistic.
The debate has been the chief talking point of reporters and players in the run-up to the National Basketball Association's (NBA) All-Star game in Houston on Sunday.
In an interview on NBA-TV to be aired Monday, Jordan took a swipe at James, saying his one championship could not compare with the five won by Los Angeles Lakers guard Kobe Bryant.
"If you had to pick between the two, that would be a tough choice, but five beats one every time I look at it, and not that he (James) won't get five, he may get more than that, but five is bigger than one."
James, a nine-time All-Star and three-time NBA Most Valuable Player, told reporters covering Sunday's All-Star game that was just Jordan's opinion.
"At the end of the day, rings don't always define someone's career," said James. "If that's the case, I would sit up and here and say (Bill) Russell over Jordan. But I wouldn't.
"Russell has 11 rings and Jordan has six. Or I would take (seven-time NBA champion) Robert Horry over Kobe. I wouldn't do that."
I like how mature LeBron is handling these words from MJ considering his words tend to carry so much weight in the worlds eyes. I think MJ should just say both Kobe and LeBron are great talents that the world has to watch and wish them much successs in their careers, like a real legend would say. MJ is one the the geatest players I ever saw play, but his words are assinin in my views. We need to squash beefz and encourage others to greatness.
I am Ward.....(go Heat!)

Ward Wonders Why Black Women End up Not finding a MaN?

 

Single, beautiful, available, uh, maybe not, but most black women are not married. According to a recent study eye found researching the webb, black women have the highest chance of remaining unmarried, compared to white women,( but that is secondary-just true). The study also said there are 42% of black women who are currently unmarried, compared to 21% of white women. What gives in a man not wanting to marry one of the most beautiful treasures on Earth (Could it be that women are Krazy and men don't make them that way)? There could be a number of reasons, but the media actually plays a huge part, as well as the thinking of the black experience.
1. THE MEDIA-  the media plays a part in most black women not being married? First, let’s look at how black women are often portrayed on television shows, music videos, the news, commercials and in movies. When it comes to television, most black women do not take any crap from other black people that they are around and people of other cultures. Most of the time, a black woman is given a part on a reality television shower sitcom, where she is indirectly being taken advantage of. We, the viewers see the end result and interpret it as the black woman being bitter, and/or angry. Don’t get me wrong, in today’s society, most people will do anything for a dollar and it has nothing to do with race or gender. Most of the time, black women are portrayed as being angry. Sometimes a black woman may be angry, after all, for years, she has watched the United States and the world take her for granted and has still had to bear children, often times in a single family unit. I have a friend who actually was a professional boxer who did work!!!
2. SETTLING FOR LESS – A woman of any race can get married, as long as she finds the right person. However, many black women have the tendency to settle for less. Instead of setting positive goals for finding a suitable husband or partner, women often look for the wrong traits in a man (how he looks, how much money it looks like he has—most of the time he is broke, or ends up broke because he was borrowing that boss money the whole time). A black woman may not take out the time to ask if he would make a good father, is he going to leave me as soon as I get pregnant, does he have other children? (and if so is he a good father to them?) A lot of times a black woman will stick with the first man who shows her attention and he may be no good for her, but he may stick around and not ask to marry her right away and most frequently not marry her at all. How many times have we heard someone say, "Aint no good men out there"!
3. HEARTBREAK HOTEL- Let’s face it once any woman gets her heart broken, she is not going to want to be in a serious and committed relationship. Most of time when women are hurt or done wrong time and time and again by men, they do not want to marry them. This may lead to any woman, wandered to a same sex relationship, or just dating around. Once a black woman has been hurt, she takes on the same role that many other women do in 2013, the role of either being celibate (which is extremely hard) or just “doing her” dating whoever, whenever! Tisk tisk tisk......
4. STICKING WITH THE BABY’S FATHER OR SOMEONE ELSE`S BABY`S FATHER — This one is so real from my perspective. I have a lot of friends who have dated someone who is a father to many kids. I say, run for the HILLS! Do not turn back either! Many times, once a man is the father of more than four kids and he is over 30,the chances of him getting married to you or any woman is like the chances of you hitting the Power ball jackpot twice in a week. Not saying ppl can't or don't change, but I’m telling you right now, there’s a whole lot of people who need Jesus. (Including myself). Being in a relationship with your baby’s father after having baby #1, #2 and #3 with him and still no ring is just plain crazy and a waist of time. He does not want to get married and will stall as long as he can 141,000,400 Miller lites cans later into the future. Having a baby with anyone who after one year or two hasn’t mentioned marriage, avoids the topic, or asks to change the subject means that they aren’t ready and they don’t wants to marry you yet. (or at all, better ask to be on the safe side).
5. TIRED OF WISHY WASHY WOMEN- Lets be real with ourselves, if you believe in a higher power, then you very well know that the woman was created to be a compliment for the man. Defininiton, can include to help, assist and make easier! I can't tell you how many sistas/white ones also- that speak about how "ain't no man gonna run them and how they ain't her daddy", yet and still these are the very ones who are single and will never-ever-ever get married. True, some don't want to be married, but then again, isn't that the purpose of dating? To get married????? Some women use sex as a weapon. Men were created with a stronger sex drive compared to most females and women sometimes will use sex to get love (bad move). Perhaps if a woman read and followed Proverbs Chapter 31, we may find fewer posts of sadness  on Facebook and more names in the marriage documents. The wishy washy woman also wants to challenge the man and take his role, while her life is in shambles. Again, what would happen if both parties played their roles?

N closing, many sistas who desire to be married, I say men are failing you a lot of times, but I honestly believe it begins with a good woman, supporting and encouraging her man- Not challenging him on her leadership skills. I don't think you would challenge your boss at work, so why do it with your husband? A man loves woman who is assertive (able to get things done) and not aggressive (taking over the man's role). In the world we live in now, we can get our burger done the way we like it, so why not our love live. Point: if you don't do what you man needs done 1) Then he don't need you 2) He WILL replace you 3). Not following your man's lead is disrespectful to the creator of marriage, because he is the one that said you are to listen to your man (1 Cor. 11:3),  but some strong know it all women will have a loop hole for that too-lol!
........................................................................I am Ward......................................

things dat make ya go hummmmmmm

Eye am Ward....

what a Woman wantZ & What a MaN NEEDZ.......

It ain't hard to figure out, but for those of us who need a little extra help to break down this thang called Love......I got you and (in my jammie foxx voice) & I am ready to go! Peep this. A woman would like to be married to a stable man, a good provider and a loving father to any children that may bless the union (heck even them bad #%&@ step kids). A woman would/often likez it if a man has a unique personality, being able to be strong enough and grown up enough and separate enough from her to take her as she as from time to time.  (Please believeeeee- that moodiness is a hard pill for a brother to swallow). Taking a woman doesn't mean dominating or controlling them, (God never intended it to be that way). Taking a woman has nothing to do with being a bully or a jerk because if a man really takes a woman it is only because the woman is woman enough to want the pleasure and intimacy of it while not loosing her identity in the freaking process-lol! Women tend to love it when a man is so taken with them and his own passion the he gets completely absorbed in himself and her in the moment. Its crazy to men, but it seems that the woman loves her dude to kiss her gently, with his/our strength, and so deeply confident that she/yall can bump against him and not push him over. The happy woman knows where she is, she knows the dude she loves and she is very happy if this works!...............................................................................................................................................What about the Man? What do MEN want? I mean do women really get us or do we gotta keep on teaching yall with yall flaws and all and missing puzzle pieces-lol!!!!! MEN want to be married to a woman who is TRUSTWORTHY, respectful, open and a loving mother to the kids. Men want the woman to fit thier leadership style whole heartedly. Men want a woman to take them/us too! Again ((taking)) doesn't mean some kind of empty exploitation of us, nor does it mean a cheezy act in which she does something she doesn't really want to do-like have boring sex with us! She must be comfortable and confident in her desire for the dude! It means that she is so taken with the dude and her own passion that she gets absorbed in 2 herself, us and the freaking moment at the same dang time! Men like to be able to bump against her too and not push her over. The man wants his piece to be a rock of support, a pillar of loveliness and a positive source of encouragement for her King! Men want what Women want.......................LOVE
.I am Ward

2013 chicago auto show from Wardz view point.....

I am ward.......

Is the World full of pseudo hustlers.....

I can't front (old skool termz) I am guilty of trying to catch somebody slippin from time to time. Heck, if it works, the streets say you gotta werk it right? Case N point, I once parked in a parking garage and didn't bring enough cash to exit as planned. I remember telling the ticket taker how I was visiting my sick Aunt and how he should cut me a break. The dude hesitantly obliged but ironically when I was parked in there again I ran across the same dude! When I got to the window, he did a double take and had the nerve to ask me if I was visiting me sick Aunt again? That was his little way of saying "I know you played me once and it shall not happen again". Lol, I had to laugh because game recognize game! With that being said, I realize on a dang near daily basis that people can come up with some vainglorious lies to get what they want. I heard people say things like they don't remember doing certain things like where they currently live, how long they been on their job to not even remembering that they are freaking married! I can respect the hustle, but I can't help sometimes thinking to myself, "Does this person think I am this dumb or is this really his best attempt at getting what they are after"? I began to really ponder on these points and had to realize a few simple facts. Number 1, when people want something, they will let few things stand in their way. I have had family members fight over the last hot dog! I mean for real, one cousin shot the other 1! (I really hope that was a ball park hot dog). Number 2,  when emotions are HIGH, I assure you, REASONING is low.  This would probably explain when I get lied to on the regular by customers to family because thats just the way it is. Not saying I want to change the game, rather just accepting that the game is real. .......... I am Ward.....

Taking care of a woman is a challenging job. This is especially true if you are her dude and trying to figure out what she wants. Man and woman are a different species with different needs. How can we hope to care for each other in the way that we would like to? The truth is that it is impossible. Misunderstandings are going to surface suckers. You cannot avoid stepping on each other's toes. The only thing you can do is to be as considerate as possible and apologize when you have wronged that woman. Its hard getting use to the emotional rants, the double talking and the jealousy. OMG, you can live with them but you shouldn't kill them....lol! ..................................I am WaRD......