Why is love so hard.....

Last time I checked there were millions of books on love and happiness, yet the number of people choosing to stay single or get divorced is sky rocketing.I personally feel that the sexes don't know how to play their respective roles. Heck relationships are hard enough, Even though God is perfect... he choose to be a single parent and his son turned out pretty darn good if I say so! I know its hard to guard your heart and give what you think is needed from your mate, but still not giving everything you know you should.
Some couples think the other should be a freaking mind reader. "after all this time you should know this or that about me" while the other person i s thinking " You don't even freaking know your self, how the #(#*$#$@ am I suppose to know you????" Even with the best of couples, its hard to use logic during a heated argument because when emotions are high, reasoning tends to be low. I suggest envisioning your self in situations and you handling it well, and in time when the situation arises (and it will) then play the role you practiced. Of course, your mate can tick you off faster than anybody else because they know your weak points and what buttons to push.
I don't try and fool myself, I know we are in the last days of this world- so these things are 2 be expected. I firmly believe we all know what we need to do, its just that we are stubborn. I mean is it really that hard, to realize that we are either part of the problem or part of the solution? After all, the same things that bring couples together are the same things that break couples apart. Again the question is "Why is love so hard", I think we because we make it that way. Men and women have options like never before. Sex is everywhere along with willing partners. Trust is a thing of the past and mistakes are often the source of frustration for couples. Until we start to do these two things, you ain't got a chance.
Men: learn to love your woman as you love yourself and don't get overly angry with her. Tell her and show her how much you love her with words and actions.
Women:learn to have deep respect for your man. Don't talk bad about him in public or in front of the kids. Build him up to others and show him that you are a support not a hindrance.
I am Ward......