Relationships are like hourglass sand timers. If you don’t switch things up, the sand will run out and it’ll be over. I mean when you think about it, why are so many beautiful black women single (especially when marriage is what they desire?) I have complied a few things that can help change that situation!
Cook - The new trend with women these days seems to be that a lot of them either can’t cook or they don’t cook for their man. The saying “The way to a man’s heart is through is stomach” is one of the few sayings that is actually true. Cooking is such a basic survival skill I’m baffled by ANYONE who says they can’t cook. It’s not rocket science here people. If you can put together a banging booty meal at least 2 times a month, I’m telling you…your man isn’t leaving you.
Cater to him – When you had a rough day we’re expected to rub your feet, get you dinner and generally sit around and listen through your gripe fest. Is it too much to ask that when we come home from a hard day and have a headache that you come over and take care of us? I’m not saying this has to be a one-to-one thing, but every once in a while it makes a man feel good to be able to come relax and not have to worry about anything because his girl is going to take care of him. Think about it. Women always have a laundry list of things their man should be doing for them…but how many of them can truly list things they do to take care of their man (That don’t involve sex).
Learn about his hobby and engage in it with him – If your man loves football, learn about football. That doesn’t mean asking him to teach you about it or asking 50 million questions in the middle of the game. Go to the library or Google or your father/uncles/brothers and learn from them. You don’t have to love it or even like it but you have to pretend. Heck, we do it all the time with you. We don’t like shopping with you, dealing with your emotional outbursts or half the stuff we do with you…but we pretend-lol. A little reciprocity would be nice. Learning from someone else other than him shows that you care. We have to show we care about things you do all the time so it only makes sense that you return the favor. Trust me, you show some form of interest in what he is doing and it’ll be easier to get him to take a break from it.
Hit the gym - It might seem trivial but the truth is your looks matter. As a matter of fact, any man that says he doesn’t care about his woman’s looks needs to have his sexuality checked. Men want the trophy wife/girlfriend. If your man is going to the gym and working out and you’re not, just go ahead and start preparing yourself for the break up. Look, your psuedo tofu-only diet might make you drop some weight but its not getting you in shape. When your man goes to the gym, he sees women that are either working out with their man or just working out for themselves. Immediately he thinks “why doesn’t my girl do that?” All it takes is one friendly conversation with a single lady who is working out at the gym for your man to start thinking “Dang, why am I not sleeping with this chick?” Beside that it also shows that you actually care about your own health. A woman that is working out now is more likely to keep that up after she’s pumped out some kids. That’s a huge plus to a man.
There’s a recurring theme with the things I mentioned. If you don’t cook or cater to your man or hit the gym, some other woman will. Men attract the most women when they are in a relationship. Other women are gunning for your man and if you aren’t bringing anything to the table you will lose him. It’s a myth that men are afraid of commitment. Most men don’t mind commitment when it comes to a woman that handles her business. Men are just overly cautious about commitment because the whole purpose of being in a relationship with a woman is to eventually get married. So if a woman isn’t really bringing much to the table now, why the freak would he want to commit long term to that? We recognize and appreciate women who hold it down. All men have that one friend that is deeply committed to his great girlfriend/wife. We clown him excessively for being whipped but we would NEVER try to get him to break up with her because we all know she’s good for him. When we come over to watch the game, she’s there wearing a jersey, cooking food and handing out beers. Or she can kick his but in Wii and in essence makes all her man’s friends jealous that he has such a great woman while their girl is bringing nothing. Why does she do that? Because she knows if she doesn’t do it, some other woman will be.
Now I’m sure some woman will hit back with “Oh there’s things yall need to do too” and that’s true. However, there’s two things with that. First off, some women have a knack for dealing with men they know they shouldn’t. If you’re going for the “thug type” then don’t trip when it doesn’t work out. You know when a man isn’t a good match for you, but you convince yourself that you can change him. Let me be very clear with this: You Can’t!!! Stop wasting your time and trying. Secondly, while good men out there do need to stay up on their game, the numbers work way better in our favor. There are more women than men so if a man messes up with a good woman, he still has a good chance of finding another good woman. I’m not condoning a man’s errors, I’m just acknowledging that the field is much smaller for women. Due to this women have to make themselves irreplaceable. Most women have dated good guys but it doesn’t work out because they don’t put in work into it (Or they dated someone they knew they shouldn’t have…which is another topic). You can’t have a list of criteria of what a man should do and then expect the only thing you have to do is give up the vajayjay. You’ve been trying that way for a minute and it hasn’t work. Don’t you think its about time to switch it up?
I am Ward.....
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