Have you noticed that the people you love the most, the people who are closest to you- are the ones you hurt the most???? How easy it is for us to be nice to a complete stranger, yet when it comes to the ones we love, we will not hesitate to give them a whiplash, cut them off when they are talking or just straight loud talk them!
Questions like these keep popping into my mind time and again lately. Makes me wonder why do we do this? Is it that we take our loved ones for granted, or is it because we feel that they will not judge us? Could it be possible it is a sign of frustration, not with others - but rather with us? Perhaps we have very high expectation in life and look for high Returns on our Investments of love? If the return is not high, we get agitated and make them live to regret their failing to meet our expectations. It is true is it not? I mean, we know what they like and we learn how to not give it 2 them.
Speaking of truth - that according to me is the other reason we hurt others. We do not have the courage and strength to accept the truth being imparted out by our dear ones. So what do we do....REACT!! Do we even think how difficult it must be for them to even come to us with the facts? Naah, that isn't as important as our own preconceived ideals or points of view!
The saying goes that the only constant in life is change and so here we are acting as change agents trying desperately to bring about change in the ways of the ones we love. Why simply because according to us they do not act in a way which is conformed and meets our lofty standards. In the bargain we are destroying the individual, as well as the relationship. We simply would not dare do this to a stranger.
I know it is easy for me to be misunderstood, by someone reading this article. But that is exactly what I am trying to relate, as another possible reason of causing hurt. Misunderstandings as we know are nothing but our failure, to see the other side of the mountain. We act like a horse with blinkers and see only one side of the story. It might also be due to our conditioning, which has left an impression on our minds making us stinky hard boiled eggs.
There are many things in life that I don't know and may never know the answers to but I feel confident knowing where to look. Still it is human to have doubts or questions, but the methodology is what makes the learning palatable- does it not? My point is this: When emotions are high-reasoning is low.
I am Ward.......
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