The other day my boi called me up and said he was at his witz end. He said he was ready to cash in his chips and kill him self. Normally I would quickly encourage a person to go ahead do what they gotta do and quit wasting my time. But this was my dude and I have never heard him spit like this before. This sucka was dead serious about dying.
I told him I had a late engagement with an out of town guest and then I would be right thurrrr. I just in my 300m and dipped that way. When I got to his spot he eager to explain to me how he had lost his job of 13 years and how is girlfriend of 6 years who desperately wants 2 get married is driving him crazy. They argue about anything and very often. He feels no one is on his side when he needs help the most. I just kept sitting there thinking..... I hope he doesn't try to hug me and snot all over my new shirt....Yuck!!
Anyway, I sat them both down and talked to them for about 3 hours. It was some rocky times, but we made a break through. I felt like the black Dr. Phil. But it wasn't just me talking because I was learning too. I learned that the reason a man and woman argue is the total opposite of why friends "don't"!
I think its what Oprah calls an AH-Ha moment. Think about it- we don't attack our friends when they disagree with us or even talk about us because we respect them and they respect us. But when it comes to our mate- we want to change their views rather than accept them. I finally get that. If we treat the spouse/mate like a valued friend our respect level increases. Its not rocket science here, just common sense (which is not common). I guess if more people knew more about the languages of love- we would all be in better place. Then again Women are Crazy....or do men make them that way?
I am Ward.......
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