It makes sense to me

*Always root for the home team
*If you think you might get arrested.....fix your hair
*Never leave your cell phone laying around....
*Don't fry chicken naked
*Don't test out a big word in public
*If you win the lotto, quit your job
*They don't wear a lot of African stuff in Africa.
*Stand next to a fat person, it makes you look smaller
*If someone shows you who they are.....believe them...

I am Ward.....

eye kizzed a girl and I liked

The windy city has a lot of surprises for those who live there and those who are just passing through. I spent some time up there recently and kicked it with my cousins. We met up with some other locals there and had a mini-blast. I heard this song at the spot called "I kissed a girl and I liked it". How fitting, lol!

Anyway- all I can say is that I am going back to shy this week-end. I think I left something that way. I get clumsy like dat sometimes.......

I am WARd....

Eye am steeeel learning

Today was another job club course at work. It was cool because it was the third one in less than two weeks. We also have 40 people in that small class room. It started it as usual, ya know people not knowing what to expect and not ready to talk or share. But my job is to break the ice and get the crowd talking. I must say- I think I am pretty good at it and my partner is very good at doing what he does. Its really a balancing act that works.

I guess my Ah-Ha moment occurred when I was speaking to the class and I was told that having a felony keeps some people from working! Some have been looking for work for over a year and and willing to take any job- but have been unsuccessful. I did not want to seem extra hard, but I recall thinking in my mind- that an obstacle is an opportunity placed in your way to force you to utilize skills that you did not realize you have in order to make a way out of no way.

So this is what I did at lunch- I went 2 Popeye's Chicken and got a two piece and fries and spoke with the manager at length about what type of work I do and how I could help him make and save money by working with my people. To make a long story short-- The manager told me he would hire 8 people that I send over to him on the spot. It was a double edged sworded message for me. I was perturbed that it was that easy to get a job and wondering why my people had not been to this spot and countless others in the area?

I had to then learn that everybody is not at the same spot in life as I am or others. My life experiences have that "I don't know" is not an answer but "Let me find out and get back to you" izz!! Also failing to plan is a plan for failure. I could go on, but my point is this.....If you want to be the best at something take advantage of your resources and read up on it, study it(the Internet, people who help you, your youth and determination to never quit). Failure is not an option for me, but again, I understand that until "U" get to the point of realizing that if you don't go get it you wont get it, then you can't get it. I guess I love the challenge and enjoy the rewards of my hard work even more. Ya feelz me?

I aM ThA WarD....

Can old habits be that hard to change

Well I am back to work- fresh off a much needed vacation. Needless to say- I went back to the grind and found that sometimes the very people that we try to assist actually resist the help. I understand that we can't make people see the future that we want them to have because it must be something that they want for themselves. I look at it like this, if we are thirsty and standing in a dark room and some one offers us two glasses of liquid to drink- one has mudd and water as the mixture and the other is pure water- then we may choose the wrong drink. However, when we are brought into the light, hopefully we will make better choices.

Today, I was told by people with no jobs, that the free food they were getting was wack, one person stated that they don't feel its necessary to take the steps that my company deems vital in order to get help. One person even went so far as saying that they could get a job by themselves and have been unsuccessful for 2 years and still looking.

I heard that to keep repeating the same action over time and time again and expect a different out come is crazy. Yet, that is what happens in society. Can old habits be that hard to change? It would seem for some people, but others who push forward and are determined the outcomes is different. I know personally, I have to give 100% to those who want my help and let the others "Do Them".

I respect all the social workers out there because you are the foot soldiers who care when other who should obviously don't. I love you mannn!


I am Ward..

I get it

The other day my boi called me up and said he was at his witz end. He said he was ready to cash in his chips and kill him self. Normally I would quickly encourage a person to go ahead do what they gotta do and quit wasting my time. But this was my dude and I have never heard him spit like this before. This sucka was dead serious about dying.
I told him I had a late engagement with an out of town guest and then I would be right thurrrr. I just in my 300m and dipped that way. When I got to his spot he eager to explain to me how he had lost his job of 13 years and how is girlfriend of 6 years who desperately wants 2 get married is driving him crazy. They argue about anything and very often. He feels no one is on his side when he needs help the most. I just kept sitting there thinking..... I hope he doesn't try to hug me and snot all over my new shirt....Yuck!!
Anyway, I sat them both down and talked to them for about 3 hours. It was some rocky times, but we made a break through. I felt like the black Dr. Phil. But it wasn't just me talking because I was learning too. I learned that the reason a man and woman argue is the total opposite of why friends "don't"!
I think its what Oprah calls an AH-Ha moment. Think about it- we don't attack our friends when they disagree with us or even talk about us because we respect them and they respect us. But when it comes to our mate- we want to change their views rather than accept them. I finally get that. If we treat the spouse/mate like a valued friend our respect level increases. Its not rocket science here, just common sense (which is not common). I guess if more people knew more about the languages of love- we would all be in better place. Then again Women are Crazy....or do men make them that way?

I am Ward.......

smile

My perception is my reality

Well I survived another 4th of July non celebration! However, I did stay with some of my relatives for the holiday and boy was it an eye opener for me. Have you ever stayed with someone else who ideal of clean did not exactly mirror yours? I won't get to deep because I don't want to start a family feud over this blog. I will say this, I enjoy a long hot shower anytime, but when you look in the tub and see black gunky stuff and hair every where- well lets just say "my perception is my reality".

I had to keep telling my self that everybody does not clean house like I do. Not that I am all that, but hey I don't mind an occasional visitor dropping by to see me. The kitchen had old food stuck on several plates just lying everywhere and crumbs on the floor. The bathroom toilets looked like a very clean nasty truck stop (2 put it nicely).

I was so turned off but I did not want my disdain for the lack of cleanliness to show on my face, so I spent quite a bit of time out on the town, I did not realize that ants are so fascinating. I watched some for 3 hours to avoid going back to that house. This is what I found out. I do not believe these folks are in denial, they are just comfortable living in their skin. If they like it 4 them, then I love it 4 them. I have a new found appreciation for my home and car. I just feel more at peace in a clean environment. I understand when life keeps you busy, but please remember the 8 second rule.......

I am Ward......

Another Holla Day

Today I thought about my friend. My friend is actually more than a friend. Its more like an extension of my self. I wonder what my friend will do on the holla day and what am I gonna do. Its a three day week-end and I need it 2. I also wanted to let my friend know that it is gonna be alright and to take it one day at a time.

If I learned anything today, I learned that everybody needs a support group in these hard times. So my hope is that everybody do what they gotta do and don't worry....be happy even if you do look like a combination of Obama and Hillary -lol!! I am just saying sometimes you have to be a friend without anyone asking it of us....


eYe aM WaRd.....