My mama use say, anyone can do bad by themselves! She was referring to no good partners out there,) and there is plenty of them out here for the choosing)! Ironically, many people (mainly women) who say they don't want no scrubbb, but I don't see to many in actual bad situations doing anything to change it! It is one thing to recognize the negativity,senselessness, cheating, abuse and often unhappiness that come from being involved with the wrong dang person, but its something very different situation when you take charge and make positive changes in your own freakin lives!!!! Wardy just can't understand why so many people allow so much pain and heart ache in your situation and world. WTF????
If I didn't know better, I would think that women are determined to go through some type of drama when it comes to their love lives. Many times women put in a lot of time and energy into a wrong man for the sake of having the privilege of saying "I got a Man"! You sometimes get so freakin caught up in his craziness, that you never seem to make happiness and contentment part of YOUR own mantra! Heck, some even begin to accept his craziness as the new normal or something you deserve? Really people????
Peep game, we all know that brutha who ain't all about the right, but still you hang in there, don't you! (YOU KNOW WHO U ARE) Several years go by and he will be still blowing your coins, while not being totally honest and you are a looking like the NEW FOOL- if you think he has your interest at heart, {{but I understand if you do sister girl!}} On rare occasions, your man's mama will drop some science on you and say her son ain't no good for you, if she really likes you! This should be your sign to*** RUN FOREST RUN***, but we know you're special and you "da only 1 who can change him N2 what GOD hasn't done yet"!! What do you do then? Of course U go on compromising your morals, integrity and self respect because you are afraid of being alone, looking stupid or dealing with a touch of low self esteem. Fear not my interested reader, Wardy got some simple advice: First off, Grown women very well know that the only changing of a man that you can do.... is to change your choice of men and not the men individually!!! I mean how are you gonna let a good man find you if you are busy trying to work with a bad apple??? If a man ain't got his ish 2 gether when you meet him and he trying to swim, "Don't Save Him Cuz He don't want 2 be saved (sing it with me). Let the brutha drown........
I find 3 reasons why women stay with this crazy type of relationship. 1). They got kids 2) finances 3) Loneliness. These are understandable things but so is having a baby with no insurance but somehow it gets done suckers..
What about the women who get the dude who finally starts talking about marriage, but only after he gets his $$$ right! I so disagree with this because if you know this is the woman you can't live with out, why not stand right before GOD and your family and have a simple wedding (something in your budget) and move forward. Consider this, you need a car and you want a new Mercedes but you work at Wendy's. It might behoove you to get a hooptie and move up to fry manager and then think about a better car later! O.k., say you foolishly agree to live with your mane until he get his weight up ($$$), but then you may realize that he starts to get comfortable with marriage like benefits with the option to string this thing out until her gets tired of you, meet somebody new or just leave. I have a home girl who dated a man for 16 years only to have him leave her and marry his new flame in 88 days-Real Talk! See when you play the living together before marriage game, you run the risk of "not being new no more". You won't get no flowers no more, you won't get trips to lunch and you definitely can't play the with holding SEX game because you know your best SINGLE friend like him anyway.
O.k, let me wrap this blog up like this. If a woman wants a good relationship with the man who is worth her, she has to value her self and show it. Walk with confidence, be open about your needs and be able to bring something to the table that he wants and by all means....be the woman of God that is a loving support partner that the man won't leave your T-Bone steak to go to Burger King even if he can have it his way. Its your choice about how you handle your business, but keep in mind, we see you and if we don't say it, we calling you stupid behind your back. I am just saying...........
I am Ward......
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