Love your Daughters or the streets will.....

I really didn’t think about it until last night when I had the opportunity to spend time with my youngest of 2 daughters (Kierra). We often spend time with her older sister (Kobe) but on this particular day Kierra wasn’t feeling well and requested to stay home on my day off. I was like cool! She slept in until about 10 a.m., at which time she got up and took her shower and I guess you can call it- getting dressed (she picked out an outfit that had 1980 calling her collect to request their look back). We then read our daily Bible text and watched one of the millions of reality shows on the tube; I think it was Divorce Court! She asked why the couples didn’t love each other anymore. I told her because one or both of them choose not to do things Jehovah’s way and this is the result! We then had a coloring contest, which she won! We talked about school and what her goals where for the year and how she has been doing thus far. It was actually a great conversation, because we spoke as concerned family members towards each other. I spoke to her about my job and joys and lows of working in the real world. She asked about all the people who use the strong language at my job-lol! I explained to her that some people don’t know any other way to express themselves any other way. She laughed and said she has never heard me cuss and I said hopefully you won’t ever have unless she starts dating!! I started to realize that fathers have a real impact on their kids, but especially their daughters. Our daughters need you to feel and understand what it truly means to be protected by a loving caring male figure. She needs to feel the security, that love and patience from us. We are the first male interaction and the most important one they may ever have in their entire lives. It is up to us/men to let them know her worth. Her mother will teach her how to be a woman (or should), but men will set the bar for the type of treatment they accept. Our daughters will look to us for guidance and will listen to us more than their mothers! If you don’t want to accept the responsibility, then we/you are going against what the Bible says at 1Timothy 5:8 (look it up suckers). A lot of Black families are missing that male household figure. Whether it is some part of a twisted agenda, a dispute between the parents, whatever, Fathers should not be absent from their children’s lives. A father and a daughter is a bond that is hard to separate. Not loving her while she’s young will have her seeking out the wrong attention, believing that sex is equivalent to being loved. We see the stories of women running to multiple men. There is a lack of self-love there for whatever reason. Most of the time it is because the right men aren’t present, that why I was so fortunate that we had this one on one time alone to remind myself! Perhaps it wasn’t as deep as I am making it out to be but for many young women, this is important…… I am not one for excuses and I believe there is nothing that should EVER keep you away from your daughters but we need to make a way out of no way because they really need us. If you create one, you are responsible him or her, but my dream is to see a time when all fathers love their daughters as much as I love mine and take time to talk to them about nothing- that actually means something- rather than waiting until there is a problem- with no solutions I am Ward……