A smile.....

A smile costs nothing, but gives much- It takes but a moment, but the memory of it usually lasts forever. None are so rich that can get along without it- And none are so poor but that can be made rich by it. It enriches those who receive, without making poor those who give- It creates sunshine in the home, Fosters good will in business, And is the best antidote for trouble- And yet it cannot be begged, borrowed, or stolen, for it is of no value Unless it is given away. Some people are too busy to give you a smile- Give them one of yours- For Jah knows that no one needs a smile so badly As he or she who has no more smiles left to give. I am Ward

Some reasons the men folk get tired of women (only the crazy ones!!!)

"You see us as projects you can 'fix.'" Women see potential. They see rough edges, and they want to sand them off. This makes us crazy. We don't want to change unless we want to change. We have chosen our car, hair, friends, home and hobbies because we enjoy them. "Your expectations are set by Hollywood and sky high." They've been fed a fantasy about romance and passion for so long that when a REAL act of love comes down the pike, he notices that the tread on your tires is low and buys a new set, it hardly even registers. "You're always looking down the road." Women tend to think about the next major step in life. Men tend to think about the next major meal...There is a female drive to get answers to questions like, "What ARE we?", "Are we exclusive yet?", "Are we going to get married?" that makes it seem like they aren't enjoying the now and only worry about the future. Trust me, eye got this one a whole lot without effort on the other end-lol! . "You use your emotions as a weapon." I suppose it isn't your fault that during an important conversation about the future of our relationship you start crying, but surely you understand that this derails the ability to pursue the issue at hand. To make matters worse, you want us to have a long emotional response rather then few words or silence. "You like to play coy." This game where you pretend you don't care and secretly hope we chase you down is for teenagers. Enough said. "You have a complicated set of double standards." I could write a novel on this one. We only need look at the example of going dutch on a first date at lets say "the dairy queen". You offer to split the check, and if we let you, you hold it against us. Really? You demand, quite rightly, to be in on all important relationship decisions, yet when we take you out and ask, "What would you like to do tonight?" you are angry that we haven't taken charge of the situation. It's a confusing set of double standards and antiquated rules that make it very difficult for us to know which move is the right one. Some women want the perfect date but incapable of planning one themselves. . "You want us to change, and then lose respect for us when we do." I have a cousin that met and married a woman who wasn't thrilled that he is a rapper. She was a bit threatened by the attention he received and his time spent pursuing this. She told him, "I really wish you didn't rap," and because he loved her, he quit. Within a few months this woman was confiding to her friends, "I'm a little less attracted to him because he quit rapping, and just did what I asked. Now, he just hangs out at home." Of course eye am just saying this from the limited # of people eye have encountered, but I am sure you can testify that I am right suckers..... I am Ward......

I saw the WNBA champs put it down.....

So I bite the financial bullet and paid a $100 for my tix and saw how champions do what they does! It was so loud in there that I still can't hear today!! It was a good game. I don't think most men realize how good these women are. Heck, it was at least 6 dudish looking females that- were very tall and scary looking! Nonetheless, I had a great time and I had floor seats too! Saw some celebrities and plenty of gay women-lol! I am Ward...

Museum of Science and Technology in Chicago!!!!

Had a great time in Chicago with the family. Saw live chickens hatch (took an hour), walked inside a live tornado, saw a huge submarine, a train that was nice and shiny, and plenty of other great things. I highly recommend all families to check out the science and industry museum. I am Ward......

12 Jewels from John Wooden that touched my thinking skillls.....

1. Never mistake activity for achievement. 2. A coach is someone who can give correction without causing resentment. 3. Ability is a poor man’s wealth. 4. Adversity is the state in which man mostly easily becomes acquainted with himself, being especially free of admirers then. 5. Do not let what you cannot do interfere with what you can do. 6. I’d rather have a lot of talent and a little experience than a lot of experience and a little talent. 7. Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be. 8. It’s not so important who starts the game but who finishes it. 9. It isn’t what you do, but how you do it. 10. It’s what you learn after you know it all that counts. 11. Success comes from knowing that you did your best to become the best that you are capable of becoming. 12. Things turn out best for the people who make the best of the way things turn out. I am Ward.....

I think we can all agree that women pretty much jack up all the good relationships with all their so called "womenz intuition" and thangs but today, i think I can look at the person in the mirror and see what was unable to be seen before. I say this because reflecting back over the past few months, I had to opportunity to interact with a plethora of women. From co-workers to family and I find they all have one thing in common. They all "LIE" and some do it better than others! I guess it shouldn't surprise many men due to the fact that women wear make up, hair extensions, high heel shoes and stockings. All these things mask who you really are (or women may call it enhancements). I guess due to the simplicity of men, we are what you get from what you see, but that's too easy. Let me see how I can explain this another way. Men usually wear the same hair style, same shoes and drive the same car for ever. We like things to stay how they were because that is what we wanted so we got it (even you sucka). Now when it comes to relationships, after a time the woman comes out of her facade and shows her true colors. Her hair may be really short, she is short, she has bad skin and has one boob bigger than the other one, but now you expect the dude to still be attracted to you even though you were the exact same woman he vowed to never end up with lol! Come on ladies, I said men are simple on several occasions. If I were a gambling man, I would bet 90% of my coins that very few women would let a potential prisoner, I mean husband- actually see how you look and live on date number 2! The fact is that it usually takes about 6 months before you can relax around the opposite sex. This is what I learned to do and ask. Go to a trusted friend, former lover or brutally honest person you know and ask them to tell you straight up- How do they see you? How do you carry yourself and what do they suggest you modify about your person.... If marriage is in your future and you have been single for a while, giving up sex for a while won't fix you nor will blaming the dudes in your past. We all know each case is unique but we also know that we are more alike then different. I am Ward......

Ummm, look Dad- "I'm broke"!!!!

I was sitting here thanking about how much it sucks to have bad credit. Shoot many folk just file bankruptcy and deal with what may come. I mean it is better than killing yourself cause of too much debt right? I feel in most cases good people just make bad finiaincal decedsions and risks that just don’t pan out. I mean you can’t take a dude from the ghetto and give him 20 million bucks and not expect him go crazy. Do you know how long it takes to save up to buy a 14k gold tooth pick and diamond hub caps mannnnn????? Peep the list of some people who had money and lost money…… Mark Twain following the wild success of his writing unsuccessfully invested in a typesetting machine and biography of Pope Leo XIII. Both were epic fails, and Twain was forced to file for bankruptcy in 1894. Even Abraham Lincoln, aka “Honest Abe,” honestly went broke and filed for bankruptcy two times in his life from several failed businesses, and loans from family and friends. They DO run a background check on potential presidents, right? Rap group Run DMC filed for bankruptcy in 1993. Who knew?! We’re glad to see America’s favorite post-Heathcliff Huxtable TV dad (Now it TI and TINY), Rev Run, is living good these days though-lol! Before Mickey Mouse and the Magic Kingdom, Walt Disney had Laugh-O-Gram. The businesses popularity led Disney to find a financial backer, and as luck would have it they went broke! But not even living in his studio and eating beans from a can could save the studio After appearing in a Los Angeles Bankruptcy Court in 1963 Dorothy Dandridge confessed to reports that her fortune was gone, and all she had left in her name was a leased car and a rented house. Ouch… After getting his start on the stage, Sherman Hemsley moved to television in the role of George Jefferson on All in the Family and its spin-off, The Jeffersons. Despite the enormous success of the latter, which ran for 11 seasons on CBS -- and the fact that he continued to work steadily on television after The Jeffersons ended -- Hemsley filed for Chapter 13 in June 1999. He died with $50,000 in the bank… Mike Tyson,The former undisputed heavyweight champion of the world filed for Chapter 11 in August 2003, after having received nearly $300 million in ring earnings. Tyson “spent extravagantly on mansions, Bentley cars, jewelry, and even pet Bengal tigers while buying gifts for his lavish entourage (total idiot) It happens I am Ward

I am just thinking.....

*The other day, a man did not see me sitting around the corner and began to complain about black people being lazy. He went as far as saying how he blames President Lincoln for freeing the blacks and taking away their good jobs! Of course I had words with the man, but dang people this 2012 for most of us! *Why do people get mad when eye tell them that voting for a politician is not an option for me considering that the Bible say at Daniel 2:44....s *It never stops amazing me to hear when people are surprised to hear about the latest person to be found out as being Gay? Hollywood has lots of hidden secrets. *Why do we spend so much time looking for love, then find it and mess it up with our insecurities,jealously and actions? *I hate cigarette smoke,yet I see so many people puffing their lives away. I wonder why people start this nasty habit in the first place? *What happen to quality family time. Seems like life revolves around work, TV and clubbing? *Does having a college degree make us more attractive or smarter? *Isn't the Good Times theme song the best ever??? But why was the show named that when they was trapped in the ghetto,(but Thelma was/is fine) *Who is really surprised that Chris Brown and Rhianna are back together? *How do we really know if dogs can see in black and white and who cares? *I heard the greatest trick ever pulled off is Satan convincing the world that demons, vampires and zombies are cool. I am Ward....

Random pics from the other day

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Love your Daughters or the streets will.....

I really didn’t think about it until last night when I had the opportunity to spend time with my youngest of 2 daughters (Kierra). We often spend time with her older sister (Kobe) but on this particular day Kierra wasn’t feeling well and requested to stay home on my day off. I was like cool! She slept in until about 10 a.m., at which time she got up and took her shower and I guess you can call it- getting dressed (she picked out an outfit that had 1980 calling her collect to request their look back). We then read our daily Bible text and watched one of the millions of reality shows on the tube; I think it was Divorce Court! She asked why the couples didn’t love each other anymore. I told her because one or both of them choose not to do things Jehovah’s way and this is the result! We then had a coloring contest, which she won! We talked about school and what her goals where for the year and how she has been doing thus far. It was actually a great conversation, because we spoke as concerned family members towards each other. I spoke to her about my job and joys and lows of working in the real world. She asked about all the people who use the strong language at my job-lol! I explained to her that some people don’t know any other way to express themselves any other way. She laughed and said she has never heard me cuss and I said hopefully you won’t ever have unless she starts dating!! I started to realize that fathers have a real impact on their kids, but especially their daughters. Our daughters need you to feel and understand what it truly means to be protected by a loving caring male figure. She needs to feel the security, that love and patience from us. We are the first male interaction and the most important one they may ever have in their entire lives. It is up to us/men to let them know her worth. Her mother will teach her how to be a woman (or should), but men will set the bar for the type of treatment they accept. Our daughters will look to us for guidance and will listen to us more than their mothers! If you don’t want to accept the responsibility, then we/you are going against what the Bible says at 1Timothy 5:8 (look it up suckers). A lot of Black families are missing that male household figure. Whether it is some part of a twisted agenda, a dispute between the parents, whatever, Fathers should not be absent from their children’s lives. A father and a daughter is a bond that is hard to separate. Not loving her while she’s young will have her seeking out the wrong attention, believing that sex is equivalent to being loved. We see the stories of women running to multiple men. There is a lack of self-love there for whatever reason. Most of the time it is because the right men aren’t present, that why I was so fortunate that we had this one on one time alone to remind myself! Perhaps it wasn’t as deep as I am making it out to be but for many young women, this is important…… I am not one for excuses and I believe there is nothing that should EVER keep you away from your daughters but we need to make a way out of no way because they really need us. If you create one, you are responsible him or her, but my dream is to see a time when all fathers love their daughters as much as I love mine and take time to talk to them about nothing- that actually means something- rather than waiting until there is a problem- with no solutions I am Ward……

Do Men Prefer Independent Women or the Damsel in Distress?

Love and happiness seems to be just an old popular song doesn’t it? If I had a dollar 4 every time I heard a person speak about how they can’t find a mate. It’s really ironic because this world has over 7 billion people on her at any given moment, so why can’t two (or 3 people) find each other and happiness??? Could it be that love don’t live here anymore or could it be that the type of women who actually get married have a certain something special about them??? First, the mind has got to be correct! Men need to be respected and needed by his woman. He is more than likely her protector and provider and willing to die for her if need be. But he has to know she is down for him. Being down -means being easy to love in every sense of the words. What man really wants to deal with a know it all, in your face argumentative woman all the time. I was told by one woman that since she owns the house and the dude lives with her that she basically calls the shots. I feel her dude will truly never commit to her because he has to fight to be head of the house. I personally feel that its unnatural for women to lead the man considering she is his helper/compliment, but each couple has gotta do what works for them! Here is a brief player’s guide to getting married to the man you want or love! 1. Birds of a feather flock together. If your so called “Friends” hate your dude (whether his is right or wrong/good or bad) and you are still cool with them, then it’s no way you can please both parties. Besides, you are the person who tells your friends about your dude. He will leave you and the friends will never let you forget his faults while looking past their own! 2. Men love a woman who has a mild spirit. She wants to please her dude with her beauty, smarts and wise decision making skills. A real woman makes her value known to her potential mate by being assertive (getting things done) and without having a mouth piece. Mild women win their men without words. 3. Allow the man to find you. How long are women gonna keep trying to get a man and make him into what you want him to be. Its hard enough to try and change ur self. If he ain’t all that, why not walk away now and prepare for your soul mate. 4. Know yourself and work on issues while you single. Get your cooking skills and house hold skills on point. Learn how to save money and do things for yourself around the house so U can be a real helper when the time comes. 5. Study about relationships of successful couples and copy what they do that you really appreciate. Love is not 4 everyone. Some of yall need to be single and have several cats’ foe life. Because until you realize that you have a limited amount of time on this Earth, I feel you are single for a reason. I am Ward……