Men Who cant discipline their kids....

How is it that I happen to have 2 friends who are not allowed to spank their own kids. Doesn't the good book speak of sparring the rod and spoiling the crumb snatcher? One dude said his wife yells and cusses him out on the regular but turns around and lets her teen age son talk to her like she his kid. The Father gets mad at the son's treatment of mom, who in turns threatens to call the authorities if he touches the son. She doesn't believe in her son getting touched and especially by her husband.
My my my what a tangled web we weave when we don't put leather to that butt! I am learning in my counseling sessions that I can't force my views on other folk, but I wish my kids would ever talk side ways to me or their momz? The law says a parent can whoop they kids but but can't leave a mark on them. I am stupid, some parents go to far, but the key is to never discipline when angry. Calm down and think about the punishment and be consistent with punishments. In other words, don't beat them silly for stealing your money and then be cool with them fighting in school.

When I was a kid, I got beat when I was wrong but loved when I did good. Gots to have that balance. In the case of my dudes mentioned, both of them are not the head of the relationships. There are some women out there who want to be the man. But the good book says the man is the head of woman as God is the head of Jesus, but some modern money making sisters don't want to hear that- thus allowing the roles to be reversed. Its also the dude faults to because a leader has to know how to lead with love other wise when you look back you may notice no one is following you. A man has to make wise decisions and look out for his family's best interests. I would encourage the men to reevaluate their definitions of Father/Dad. Its a wonderful position to have well adjusted children but not many can say that. In my personal life, I try to look at things from all perspectives and make the best decision I can and stick to it. I am far from perfect but I am not afraid to discipline my kids when they are wrong. Its my right and expectation, just like I provide food, shelter and biblical training. I can't be that dude who does less.
I am Ward....