What is a friend?

Whodini said:
And if you ask me, you know, I couldn't be much help
Because A friend is somebody you judge for yourself
Some are ok, and they treat you real cool
But some mistake kindness for being a fool

We like to be with some, because they're funny
Others come around when they need some money
Some you grew up with, around the way
And you're still real close too this very day.....

I guess everyone has a unique perspective on what a Friend really is based on their on experiences and all may be correct! Personally I don't have many friends, I tend to have more acquaintances due to friend expectations that I can't ever begin to live up to-lol! It seems "passe" to expect a friend to do for you that you would do for them. Example, say you go over in the middle of the night and ask you homeboy for a place to stay because your furnace went out and he says cool, come on in family! But then next week your home boy comes to you and ask to borrow your new but slightly used car so he can make a job interview and you just don't want to because last time he wrecked your whip! Does that mean you are not his friend? Perhaps in his mind-lol! Perhaps you could offer to drive or brain storm. Humm I ponder??

I look at it like diss, Friends are special people. If you are a friend, it means you were chosen. You are not in someone's life by happenstance, or by accident of birth. You're in someone's life because he or she wants you there. So we gotta learn to love they good points and accept that less than pretty sides of being a work in progress! Sure we may get mad at them and take a break but in the end you have to have each others back. Its seems so common, for people to be so 1 and done with others. I know I am guilty of it. I lost a sorta cool friend of what I thought was a stupid topic. They got mad at me cuz i didn't think Lil Wayne and Nikki were the best rappers alive. I really didn't give a flying monkey's knee-cap as to the issue of a great rapper but they obviously did! I understand being a fan, but c'mon son we are not getting any of them royalty checks, so does it matter who is the greatest? Again to my ex-friend it Klearly did!

My oldest daughter asked me is my Dad- (((her grand dad))) considered her friend? I said, I guess so? So she then said, "why doesn't he ever come to our house and see my awards from school, or have lunch with me at school and meet my friends or just call me to see how I am doing"? Well, wasn't to much that I could say, considering he comes to town to see my sister and her family and doesn't even call her cell phone to say "I hate you midget". So I just said,"Sometimes we just have to be the bigger person and make lemonade out of lemons". I meant shake it off and keep on moving, but I am sure she was thinking just make lemonade-lol!. As I sit here at the computer, I don't know if my father is her friend, after all he is a busy man, so it is what it is-right? I know my kids been watching t.v. and seeing how some grand folks spoil the grand- grands and wondering whats up with them. I gotta scratch my head and figure something out to get they minds off this.....

Any-who, at the end of the day, we pick and chose, win and loose, but the real friends are always there and will always keep it real but loving. Proverbs 18:24 reads: There exist companions disposed to break one another to pieces, but there exists a friend sticking closer than a brother.....

I am Ward...