Yesterday I participated in a work shop readiness program at the YMCA (where I work) and noticed that the speaker looked quite familiar. I then made the connection that we had worked 2geather at other training centers. We began to talk about the usual topics of who we both knew in common and the direction of the trainings and what my role would be. As we continued conversing, she mentioned she is on a board focusing on family and relationships. I immediately became interested and asked what did I have to join. She gave me the contact data and then began to elaborate on the things that has enhanced her own marriage of 14 years!
I was quite refreshing to hear her say how her husband became intimidated with her earning more $$$ than her and how her attitude fluctuated with her sudden windfall. She mentioned that she lived with separate bank accounts and how that was no good. The communication became about my money vs. your money. The husband got to the point that he started doing fewer activities with her whenever she requested him. She didn't understand this action but it later became clear that his actions was a direct reaction to her autonomy!
My co-worker went on to explain that once she started searching for God in her relationship, that she realized her role in the relationship. She said that she found it refreshing to hear her the "woman" was designed to be a compliment of the man and how important her position was to the family arrangement. Her face lite up with excitement as she said she has learned to "embrace her role as Queen"! I must admit I felt her energy too (or was it the drink she wasted on my leg?). She stated that knowing how God holds the man responsible for the direction of the family and its needs. Armed with this data, she realized that she was giving her positive energy to her job and less to her best human friend/her husband. Once she started making her King feel like her was the most important person in the world to her, her reciprocated and she never felt that much love in her life. She said he is far from perfect but they are in this thing forever!
It is more to this story, but it was a feel good situation for me because I love it when I see happy couples that are really happy couples! I am not referring to the couples that put up the front for the public, but the real deal. I know personally, I been through waaaay to much in my short life to later find that you don't marry the person you can live with-rather the person you can't live with out-lol! So when I see others who are trying, then I get a little excited to! All I would like to add to this story is this. "A woman is Man's compliment and by God's wisdom he knows what works." If done accordingly to what "he" says, I assure you only good things will result. Likewise, not having a 3 fold cord with him will......well you smart enough to read this, so you are smart enough to know what the impending results will be other wise.
Finally wardy says the real act of marriage takes place in the heart, not in the ballroom or Kingdom Hall or synagogue. It's a choice you make, not just on your wedding day, but over and over again, and that choice is reflected in the way you treat your husband or wife." I am a work in progess......
I am wARd......
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