Today I was sitting here listening to Cyndi Lauper singing true colors and really listened to the words. I definitely appreciated how she said this world can make you crazy and how your true colors are beautiful like a rainbow. With that being said, I thought about how painful death is to all of us. I lost my Mom to it, perhaps you lost your daughter or even your grand parents. This harsh reality has roots grounded for all us is differently. No two people grieve the same way, nor should they. Still I wanted to put some coping advice out that helps me and I hope that maybe it may reach you or someone you may know as well.
Some times death can happen suddenly and at other times, you may have dealt with long illnesses and both are factors that affect reaction. I learned this view to be true to me-Repressing your feelings can be harmful both physically and emotionally. Its far healthier 2 release your grief. Check out Wardy suggestions below suckers.
1). Talk about your feelings to a true companion who will listen patiently and sympathetically. This is a start, but not an end all. Just let them words flow..
2. Accept its o.k. to grieve. Give way to tears and let the lump go down your throat. you don't have to make excuses for crying in front of someone. Shoot they know how much that loved one meant to you! Sometimes, tears may just start to flow unexpectedly, but don't let that slow your healing down, the Bible says Jesus gave way to tears on occasion too!
3. Stop/Don't blame your self for not doing something different. Perhaps you feel u shouldn't have let your loved one go on the faithful trip, or maybe you should have had a different physician or what ever? Realize that no matter how much we love another person, we cannot control his/her life, nor can we prevent time and unforeseen occurrences form happening to any of us. Besides, no doubt your motives were not bad. You didn't intend to cause harm. You did what you felt was the right decision and acted accordingly.
4. Learn to deal with your anger positively. You may want to blame the police, the lawyer, the system or the Doctor's office, but after talking to a friend, try vigorous exercises when you get angry as a helpful release. Its o.k. to be upset, but not o.k. to act foolish-ya feelz me?
5. Throw your burdens on our heavenly Father and allow him to sustain you! This isn't easy but well worth the effort. Heck he created the universe, I am sure he can deal with your issues-lol!
6. I found it comforting to learn that one day soon, there will be no more death and sadness. The feelings of death pains will soon be forgotten. I look 4ward to day. I know with my experience I felt so helpless and lost. Its a terrible feeling that I wish on no man.
7. Remember you are gonna have good days and some not so good days. Just laugh when you can, cry when you must and pray during the other times. You will get through this cuz you come to far to turn back now.
To those of you who lost onez in I am truly sorry for you misfortune. I won't say I know how you feel, but I hope these suggestions are of some comfort and maybe help.
I am Ward....
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