Married vs. acting married

From this writer's vantage point, there are 4 major events in one's life and in this order. 1). Your dedication to God 2).Your marriage to your soul mate 3). The purchase of your home 4)The purchase of your automobile! All these are crucial moves that the prudent person will carefully weigh out prior to implantation. In this blog I am feeling Door number 2!
Lets face it, there is no marriage manual on what is perfect or a step by step guide 2 this thing. Sure the Bible has some basic instructions, but we as humans are still imperfect at the end of the day! We know that men and women are different- thus the attraction, but who can predict what things will go down in a marriage and how much can you take or forgive.
Couples argue in silence for weeks or months on end, stop being intimate, cheat, lie and deny, yet they stay together for the kids, money or the economy! Just another case of Married vs. acting married! I say acting because on the outside looking in, people think the grass is always greener on the other side, because they mainly see what is shown by the couples. But if you really want to know if the couple that intrigues you is happy look for a few signs. Does the couple wear wedding rings, are there pictures at work, do they spend time together as a family, what positive things do the couple say about the other? Of course its not the only way to find out but just look out for it.
Can someone say I am happy with my mate when they are independent of that person? Sure you got their last name but that's about it! When you love someone, its a feeling that is almost euphoric to the couple. Not perfect but willing to solve issues and spend quality time. I recall this woman I dated who was my twinn. We could act silly, sing every song we knew together, have deep conversations and really-really enjoy each other! What happened you wonder: I Was 2 dang good to her!
Back 2 the issue: Acting married is just that an act. You can't fake it. Either you are or you aren't. The real question is how do you preserve your relationship. Simple response: Open honest and regular communication with a three fold cord! Easier said than done- right?
I am Ward...