Is it me or do you hate it when men treat their daughters differently compared to the treatment of their sons. Boys are told to go out and get as many women as they can cause its cool. Shoot look at Hugh Hefner, that Bama is 80+ years old and has at least 4 dymes with him at all times and nobody complains. Women are termed.....well lets just say some not so nice words by society for having more than one lover. Also, if she only dates men who have money then of course she is a gold digger!!
Well its no wonder that double standards are so common place in society. We perpetuate this behavior from a young age.
I think women are better known to be the ones who change their minds and expect men to be alright with it. Its not alright, but it is expected by the men who are half way aware of this sudden change up possibility. I can't tell you how many times we started out going to the grocery store to get some milk and ended up at the mall catching the 70% off sale at forever 22!
Women have a tendency to allow emotions to rule their thought process. It doesn't matter if they told you "Yes I will do this or that" because she has now changed her mind. So as the male he has to deal with it. My boy Larry said he has this girl who likes to kiss him all the time and get him all hot and bothered and then suddenly stop. I told him, I think her pay off is the kiss. His pay off is intimacy. In this instance- you have a winner and a loser. This will leave one partner frustrated either way if the other gives in. I guess for a guy that is like going out to a great restaurant and ordering all his favorite foods and then when the food arrives, the waiter suddenly takes all the food away. But the waiter can always say I am sorry and everything will be alright right---NOT!
Everyone has the right to change his or her mind, but don't think the other party won't have a reaction of your action. Sometimes people are counting on your YES to actually mean yes. I guess it boils down to what people will think of you when they hear your name based off of the actions and choices you make. I am going to eat now, or maybe I am not I am not sure....SOrry!
Ward
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Gender - being a woman - has nothing to do with changing your mind often. Making a decision is a skill, which can be learned the same way you learn math or writing. If someone is not taught how to make a decision, or is actively discouraged from making decisions, they will not make effective ones or will change their mind often.
If you ask "why do some people change their mind often" the answer could be one of a couple things. We make decisions based on information, and there are rarely straight answers for why we should do one thing or another.
Decisions change because the decision was based on information that changed; the decision was based on emotion and the emotion changed; the decision was based on information which weighed very only slightly in favor of one decision or another, and the person is trying to determine which of the two answers are best.
That is why when you sign contracts you should be sure, because you (we) can't be trusted to let your YES mean YES and your NO mean NO! Sure things change but if you want to flip flop because something else has changed, perhaps you may want a career as a politician!
OUCH!
if you don't understand someone's decison making style then you are doomed to be frustrated. i find that some don't mind WHEN the NO turns to a YES, it's when the YES turns to a NO, that it becomes a problem... (let me clear my throat)
Like I stated in the blog, this is my views, which are not always the best choice for you. I think when emotions are high-reasoning ability is low. I agree with changing your mind if the circumstances change, but I also think that the mind changer has the responsibility to inform the other person of the changes and the reasons. Perhaps the innocent one can adapt to the new information as well and help keep the original plans. Hey opposites attract so " Y can't we all just get along".....oh yeah Women are Krazeeeee-lol!
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