Every counselor needs a counselor

Sometimes it seems like adults never really graduate from high school, we simply get paid to work there. Walk back down memory lane and reflect on the dayz of everybody all up in your Kool-aid and concerned about your business like who you were dating, who you kissed and what grades you got. Fast forward to now and realize that everybody is all concerned about your business, who you may be interested in, and what time did you arrive at work. Humm, sounds like the typical situation for many a people.
I know what my counselor would say. If you don't like it leave. That is not a bad ideal for some, but others actually like their jobs, its just that they don't like being treated like a kid, remember we are adults now....
I must admit that one of favorite working sayings occurs when you get the generic memo sent to everyone but it is only intended for one specific person. I would always think, "Why don't you just tell the sucka you want to know and leave the rest of the good slaves...I mean workers, alone". I guess I understand that it is just a time saving tool that keeps you from repeating it to the next man.
My counselor told me today, that work is like a marriage. With that being said, I understand why people get divorced-lol! I get it, people get in their moods and don't want you in their office, some think you are playing hookie and others just try to make it to the end of the day doing the bare minimum. But would it not behoove everyone to treat your staff with the same courtesy that you would your clientele?
I sometimes expect perfection from imperfect people, but hey why not shoot for the moon, because even if I miss, at least I will be amongst the stars.
I think from my perspective, its important to always keep in mind the golden rule in all aspects of life, but especially at work. After all, every counselor needs a counselor....so I say thank you to you and your welcome from me.
I am your counselor....WaRd...

Is tipping my waiter A requirement

There are many debates in this world that may never be resolved, such is which is better; Coke or Pepsi, McDonald's or Burger King, My Dad or your Dad? Well keeping along these lines of thought, I have issues with tipping people who bring my food to me at the restaurants that I frequent. From the jump let me make this clear that these are my views based on my experiences so deal with it.
Anyway, I have heard many a person say something like " but she only gets $2.85 cent an hour and she is depending on your tip". That really urks me, because no one ever thinks about the boss getting cheap labor at my expense. I mean would we stand for that at our kids school? If teachers got $2.85 an hour and are dependant on our tips, how many teachers would stay and how long would this be allowed....Probably never because its STUPID!!!! Case in point, Just tonite I took my daughters out to Denny's for dinner. The food was decent but we needed extra items like napkins, silverware was missing and a few refills. No problem, I can live without the necessities of a meal, but what got me was when I walked up to pay for my meal, the cashier asked me a question she must have asked a million times judging from her mono-tone voice, "Was everything o.k. with your meal tonight?" I thought- should I be honest, after all this is just Denny's??? I just said it was great. I handed her my unexpected coupon and she peered at it for several moments as if to try make sure it was current. She calls for back up and then turns to me and say would you like to leave a tip on your card? I almost cussed, as I said "I left cash on the table".
Really, if anyone should be tipped I would think it should be he cook. I mean how hard is it to make that long walk from the window to my table with my food before it gets colder? But then again her boss does not pay her that much money and I am the one who encouraged her to choose that waitress profession. Seriously, I have a professional barbers license and I often get tipped for my work, but I don't expect it and I always give good customer service regardless. I treat each customer like he is the only patron I had all day. Is that asking to much for someone coming to me out of all the places in the world that could have been chosen.

I just wish people who choose to be in the field of customer service would just step their game up to at least pretending to care about the customer. I refuse to give my views of why I think restaurants have the mandatory gratuity on large parties.....the service really sucks then.....hummmmmmm

I am Ward and I ain't tipping poor service no more......

Is what I said what you heard

Isn't it funny how words are sometimes misunderstood. Over the past few days, I have this happen to me on more than one occasion. Perhaps I need to reevaluate my communication style.....nahhhh it can not be that because I am perfect---lol!!! I have to admit that when I do speak with people, I listen to more than just the words, I pay close attention to the facial features, body language and tone of the words being spoken. We have all have heard the saying that actions speak louder than words no doubt, but I really believe it.

I won't get into deep details on this topic, but I will say that if you go into a conversation with out your thinking cap on, you may hear what you want. In fact, I love those reality shows on VH1 and I can clearly see it there, where someone over hears his/her name and then run wild with what assume was said. Then again, they may just want TV time.

It is easier to see it in others but the key in seeing it in ourselves. This is my plan to handle my situations, I am gonna ask my listeners to repeat back in their words what they heard and kill the assumption monster. Heck its Monday again and I am feeling pretty darn good about life!!

I am Ward

This particular Day

Today is raining and I feel less than satisfied. I am thinking about moving. Moving far far far away (not like Shrek....that is too far). Very rarely I get in those moods where I let life get me down. I can feel it when it starts to creep into my world, but still I can not always fight it off.

There are a lot of issues in the world that are of far more importance than I, but that does not make the pain hurt any less. At these times, I understand how the man who trained for so long to make it to the Olympics only to get hurt or come in last place. I emphasize with woman who marries prince charming only to find out she really got the frog named Harold! I understand the man who quit his boring job to work for the competitor only to find that he made a bad bad mistake.

Life is not always a bowl of cherries, but rehab is for quitters--right? Don't worry to much for me, I say, because I know how to uplift myself. I will read the scriptures, go out for a walk, shoot some jump shots at the YMCA and drink some hot coco! Hey I am feeling better already.

If you ever had a day that was just blazay blazay for no reason, then you feel my pain. I want to tell you like I would tell me, Its gonna be alright, you have gotten through worse situations than these. Keep your head up and don't let go. Loving you as myself.

I am Ward...

How to cheat proof your relationship

Ladies I am well aware that many times your man is slipping in his game. He doesn't send you flowers any more, if ever. And his emotional attachment consists of you two bumping into each other as you are rushing past each other in hall way while heading out to work. Men I feel your pain too! Your woman can't, don't or shouldn't cook for you, she naggs you about everything but she calls it motivational speeches. Well, what is a couple to do in this very sticky situation.

Fear not my faithful readers, Wardy has got the solutions for that tazz!! Ladies, I am gonna give you the business first. This is what you need to do and do it fast before your dude up and leaves you for the next fresh fish. Spice up your relationship by thinking out side the box. By now you are so predictable that your man can get away with murder and come home and still blame you for everything that went wrong in the world that day and know good and well he is the Devil's assistance. Anyway back to the advice......Women make the man notice you without saying a word. When he comes home make sure you are in front of the television watching the latest episode of SNAPPED and comment on it out loud. Next ask him which knife does he suggest for cutting cleanly through leather. Then send your send yourself flowers and thank him for thinking of you. Finally, do things that is out of the ordinary like laugh in your sleep, and comment on how wonderful it is to see happy couples. He will get the point. If not then hit him up side the head in his sleep. He will start to notice you.....

Fellas, This is what you all need to do. Accept that women today are not necessarily gung ho about being in subjection to an imperfect man Bibically. So we need to first earn their trust and love by our positive actions. Don't get it twisted, we can still firm but always tactful. Now when and if this fails go to the extreme. Take her out on the town and spend big money, limo, opera and nice dinner. Then bring her home to a nice hot bubble bath with roses leading to the bed where she will find a new lacy out fit. But don't touch her that night. Just let her sleep. Then out the blue come home and beat it up on your lunch break and everytime she looks at you. She will be scard of what you may do, but with excitement. Keep her guessing with little signs of love. A card here or there and buy her a new out fit. Send her 5 treats in one week just because. Believe me if you are sexing your girl every 5 minutes, believe me the last thing she is thinking about when she is out is cheating.

Look-- you gotta do what you think is right, but keep this is mind. The couples that have the most longevity are those that have unpredictability. If you don't know if your mate is gonna hit you upside the head with a skillet or hug you then you got excitement. Strange but it works.

I am Ward

Sorta look but do not touch

LOL!! I have 2 give it up to the brothers who do not take ""NO"" for an answer when the on the hunt for the fine sista's. Case in point, I have noticed lately just how doggish men can be when they see a beautiful woman. I mean short of the tongue wagging like Michael Jordan going in for the high flying dunk with 12 seconds on the clock and his team is down by one!!! I don't think he would miss that shot, nor would that less than attractive brotha on the prowl.

I went to my favorite dollar store with my co-worker the other day and she had on some nice boots with heels. I guess it may have been too much for the men at the spot. One dude got out his truck and starting rubbing his chin as he was smiling that sugar daddy smile and shaking his head and licking his lips. He didn't know if I was her man and obviously did not care. I ain't madd at him because the squeaky wheel gets the oil, right?

Later that night I was studying for my PHR certification and my partner was getting alot of attention from the security person. He went so far as telling her how beautiful she was and plenty of other game. There was quite an age difference there, but that did not stop this man either. I think the attention was unwanted judging by her reaction.

I could be all wrong, maybe these women enjoyed the attention but just did not admit it. Perhaps in someway it made them feel sexy. I do understand women want attention from the man they want it from, but then again, when you put the goods on display, all eyes can see the prize to. It doesn't mean a man has got to treat you like a piece of meat either. But some food to chew on is this. If a man had a pair of low cut jeans on with lace underwear showcasing his testicles, would you women look? LOL,..you just might so quit lying....The terrible curse of being attractive!!!!

All I know is Dem Persistent Brothaz either get the women or leave the door wide open for the shy brothers......like me

I am Ward

The good I wish is the bad that I do not do

I sometimes toss and turn with the myriad of stories that I encounter in my daily life. For example, a man who moved a lot of weight (Sold Drugs) as his profession ends up getting caught and goes to jail. Turns out he is a righteous dude- friendly, articulate and very giving in nature. Should I hate the fact that he chose that decision for his life or should I just accept that he was a savvy business man who chose a profession that is not legal?

I understand many of the bad choices that good people have made over the course of their lives. I do not condone wrong or even judge it, The Bible makes it pretty clear about consequences of our actions. I just have a sour taste in my mouth when I ponder that facts that the role models our youth look up to do not always have the best intentions.

What about the man who beats his wife (or vice versa) in private, yet he is a prominent figure in the community, work or his place of worship? What is the rationale behind that? Is it stress, jealousy, or ignorance? I don't know, but this type of action has been going on for years.

My favorite is the couple who get married with such high expectations for the future and end up being the family that prays? Life is what it is, but sometimes we make it worse with our own "SKILL ABILITIES". I have an old fried named Paul who was a fine man, but often struggled to do what was right. He even said he had to pummel himself at times to keep on that path. To all those Paul's out there-- I say this-- Know that the good that you wish and the bad that you do is just an obstacle that allows you to use skills that you did not even know that you had. Keep your headz up!!!!

I am WarD...

Minds

Small minds talk about other people.....


Average minds talk about people and things



Great MINDS talk about Ideals and implement change.....


I am Ward....

Fear of the cat lady

Shadows on the wall
Noises down the hall
Life doesn't frighten me at all
Bad dogs barking loud
Big ghosts in a cloud
Cat lady doesn't frighten me at at all

Mean Old Mother Goose
Lions on the loose
They don't frighten me at all
Dragons breathing flame
On my computer screen
That cat lady doesn't frighten me at all

I go Boo
Make them shoo
I make fun
Way they all run
I won't cry
So they fly
I just smile
They all go buck wild
Cat lady doesn't frighten me at all

Tough guys in a fight
Plenty of stars in da night
Watch late night tv, I am oh so bored
Yall know who I be,dat dude known as Ward.....

Inspiration for me

I had to sit down and talk to myself about what I truly want for my future. I feel that I have so many options that I can really explore, but don't want to be bogged down trying to stick my finger in every pot that life has to extend. My biggest worldly aspiration would be publishing my much anticipated novel....Women R crazy or do men make them that way? I feel not only will that project allow me to leave a finical legacy to my great grand kids, but I honestly feel that this information will give many couples much needed hope! I have had the opportunity to meet a plethora of fine individuals who have given me much to ponder on my favorite topic of love. I just want keep learning and sharing! I also know that in order to have the best product, I have to be on top of my game, always-more research and deep thoughtz...
In order for me to do this, I have to get my focus on. I am going to look in 2 self publishing and Internet publishing to jump start this. Looking back over my life, I did not have the greatest support cast of encouragement nor was I surrounded by a family of go getters. I was always told that a man is suppose to work hard and provide money for his family. There was seldom talk of being loving, going to the park with the kids or finding solutions to why couples are so unhappy.
I am touched with the knowledge of nothing changing unless something changes! I also had to realize that many people are satisfied just getting by doing the minimum or what I call the SAFE AUTO approach to life. I can dig it if flipping burgers for the rest of your life is your thing, but I just want you to be motivated to be crew chief one day -just to strecth out of your comfort zone. Look at it like this, if you don't then, the sucka standing next to you will be your boss and then you can say, I am smarter than him, why is he in charge?
If this book situation tanks, I am sure this comedy dream won't let me down. Lord knows I have gathered enough information from my many jobs to share a funny story or 1,200!!
Anyway, I am inspired to do this dang thing, either you with me or against me. I want to thank my best friend for showing me who you are because now I believe you....Smile....
I am ward

Suzuki fever......

Some days go by faster than others. Sometimes I find myself pensive and in learning mode. Other times I realize how thankful I am for the things and people I have in my life. I guess today I am thinking about my future. I have decided it is time for me to get another motorcycle! I found the one I want and I must obey my inner motorcycle child. Sometimes I am timid about riding again because there are two kinds of riders. People who have fallen and people who will fall.
Oh well, I guess I better be careful huh? Check out the picture of the bike I just ordered!!!! U like don't you!

I am da Ward....

Will Smith and His Perspective On Marriage

Will Smith, the big Hollywood super stud, has finally revealed his secrets to a successful marriage: He gets busy with whomever he wants, as long as he tells his wife about it.
Perhaps that is the reason this black man has no problem with his ball and chain.
Smith, who earlier admitted that divorce wasn’t an option, told Reveal that “Our perspective is, you don’t avoid what’s natural and you’re going to be attracted to people.
“And if it came down to it, then one would say to the other: ‘Look, I need to have sex with somebody. Now, I’m not going to if you don’t approve of it’.”
Smith suggested that his marriage would survive a permitted affair because of his and wife Jada’s honesty.
He commented: “In our marriage vows, we didn’t say ‘forsaking all others’. We said ‘you will never hear I did something afterwards’. Because if that happens the relationship is destroyed.”
What does this say about black marriage? Well, there are a lot of folks who are honest about it. Black men say they don’t want to get married because that whole “don’t cheat” clause makes it hard for them to deny their male urges. Men who are honest about these urges are attacked for being dogs and lose half their assets in divorce, as well as future earnings due to spousal and child support. That makes marriage a bad deal for many men.
But here’s a secret ladies: the man who seems like he’s not a dog, claims that he will never cheat on you and always seems to want to “do the right thing”, is probably a lot more like Will Smith than you think.
“Women don’t give it to men the right way,” says one black attorney who doesn’t want to be identified. “Men want multiple women. So, if a man doesn’t get married, he’s dogged out. But then when he does get married and gets with another woman every now and then, he is considered a monster. It’s hard to make the balance, which is why marriage is too confusing for me.”
Perhaps this opens the door for a discussion on what it takes for marriage to work. Some have advocated for renewable marriage contracts or perhaps co-parenting relationships that allow for the rearing of children without tying the knot. Either way, there needs to be a conversation, since black men are walking away from the alter, and white married men are not only getting divorced at a rate exceeding 50%, but the ones who stay married are the biggest supporters of online pornography.
I am not Will Smith, but Ward....

Bad Customer service is killing me

I met a friend for lunch today and the first thing they said was did you have another bad customer service encounter. I had to chuckle because that is exactly what happened the previous day. Let me share the story with you, I assure you this one will not be to bad. I recall sitting at work when the sudden urge to get a piece of Pecan pie overwhelmed your boy. Keep in mind, I wanted PECAN pie. I went across the hall from my office and asked my co-worker if they wanted to ride out to Popeye's to get my fix-fixed. (that was slick how I said that, wasn't it-lol)
So we arrive at the spot ten minutes later and it was only one other patron in front of me so I knew this would be quick and easy, or so I thought. After being ignored for 8.5 minutes the young lady looking out the window to her left, asked could she take my order or either she was talking to herself, but I am gonna assume it was me?? I first asked about the 99 cent menu because a leg and biscuit could have hit the spot since I was in there. The young lady told me numbers that I decided I would pass on and stick to the pecan pie plan (that is alliteration again). Then I said I would like to order two pieces of pecan pie and a lemon mi range. The lady said you want the apple pie that is on sale two for a dollar? I restated PECAN. The lady sent back to her manager and said "I" want the apple pie and she can't find the button on the registry. Again I said what I wanted and she said oh o.k. but we don't have lemon and I said but it on your menu, then her manager chimed in and said we have not sold lemon pie her in over a year. I replied, I would like to have what ever that picture of the yellow pie is above your head. The manager said that picture is old and I should get over it!!! I said cool, paid for my pecan pies and left. Sure I could have left, but why should I let a slight case of ghetto cutomerserviceness (new word) deter my mission for satisfaction. Of course, I won't be going back, but this is life at slow....I mean fast food restaurants. Sometimes we just gotta laugh at this and other times we just gotta blog about it. Guess which one I choose?
I am the one who choose both options WarD.....