peace AND security........

I am ward...

5 random things on my mind.....

1. Why do men argue with women? Just listen and be supportive, its much easier!
2. Why do people at your job walk by each other as if they are invisible. Just say Hi sometimes!
3. If people are unhappy at their place of worship, why do they stay? Read your Bible and find where the truth is being taught. Seek www.jw.org
4. Why is basketball the only sport a person can foul out of? Football is controlled violence, kick out them suckers to the curb?
5. Why does the price of stamps keep going up but my mail doesn't get here any faster?
6. Is it better to be emotional or logical?
7. Can we find our soul mate in the city we grew up in or should we travel the globe to find our true love?
8. What is so appealing about shows like Empire and Scandal? The actors on Empire don't even look believable in real life. I don't need to know about someone sexual interests. Scandal shows a powerful and educated black woman who has to date a married man because she can't find one of her own! Great show! Would the show be good if the president was black creeping with a white woman?
9. Should Cops really pull people over for speeding or would their time be better spent getting drug dealers off the street?
10. Why do people keep buying Jordan shoes when they have no money in the bank. 

I am Ward...

Does breaking up mean the couple is no longer a couple??????

Looking at this from the male point of view, I would say a relationship is dead after some harsh words between two people and ending up with "I hate you and hope you die"! Well guess what I learned from some co-workers last week?
I was told that when a woman says all those things that means she just wants the man to chase her or at the very least have a cooling off period. I almost fell of my seat after hearing that illogical reasoning! I mean, does that work in your job too? If the boss says clock and don't bother clocking in tomorrow. Could he just want me to work harder or show him that I really love my job? Ummmm, Wardy thinks NOT!!!! So why the heck would you expect this from the person whom you are suppose love more than anyone else in the world....................it doesn't !!!!!
A man will treat his woman much better if she acts like his help mate rather than his dictator. If he is wrong in his actions, consider telling him that those actions hurt your feelings and give him a change to correct the matter under peaceful conditions. Somehow I don't think the strong arm technique is very effective in the 2015!
I am also amazed at the way couples crash and burn. Relationships often start out with the guy chasing the woman and her finally giving in and then chasing him because he wants to get the heck away from her now, lol! I asked a recent dumpeee what happened to her relationship. She told me that she was busy with her job, college and her young son and apparently not giving her dude of 5 years, enough time & attention. Seems like he found another chick who filled his void. The dumpeee said she confronted the man stealing chick and told her if she comes around her dude again that "She would lay her down where she stands" (never heard that before).
Hummm, I thought to myself, this dude won't change his game, rather he will adapt to her detective skills. When a dude doesn't want you no more, he will find many a ways to show you until you get it. Similarly, a dude will not commit to a woman until he is ready to leave all of the other potential conquests alone.
I will say this again, from a male perspective, if we break up, we are no longer under the rules of couple-ness! There is no cooling off period. You free to date and and so is he. So its better to stay mad and together than giving some one a hall pass that they can't use, because they will. No two people in any union are perfect but they are human. So don't expect a cat to bark like a dog, nor a fish to walk like a bird and don't expect a dude to think you are still his only interest if you tell him you all are no longer a couple.
I am Ward........

Love and Customer Service both have it in common.....just ask SuperBrotherMan......

As each day of my life seems to go by faster than the last, I find myself learning more about things I thought I knew everything about. Up until yesterday, I thought falling in love was as natural as teaching customer service to someone for the first time. Turns out Wardy was dead wrong (as I often am lately)! A young lady told me that he dude always told her he wanted her thick and nice (which she said she was) because that is what he liked! She was like "Cool, I can do that for my dude". Problem is.... she forgot that a body not in motion, is a body at rest! She must have forgot that in order 2 maintain that thickness and sexiness requires a little hard work and some attention to what you eat! Turns out that ole gurl is no longer that thick princess that was once adored by her dude because she is now that lazy chick who is more worried about her weave than she is about what her dude thinks. Of course men think all women find more faults with themselves then  we ever could anyway but the few things we say we like is crucial from our vantage point!
I find that women tend to have a long list of things that their ideal man should be like, which is cool and all---But this allows for yall to make allowences that men can't. For example, if you have a list of 20 things and you meet a dude who only possesses 13 of them, then yall start to rationalize your needs verse wants. "Do you really need a dude with all his teeth? So he doesn't work at the post office, but a McDonald's check beats have no check most of the time!!! Who cares if he doesn't have a car, he has two bus passes and I like to be seen out in public with him.......................Men don't have this luxury. We have a usual list of about 4 things and if one of them isn't there, ummm we out this peace!! A man's list may be as simple as 1). Light skinned 2) Nice body 3)Great cook and 4) Spiritural.
O.k. so man meets woman that is Yellow like Keisha Cole with the body of Serena Williams and can cook like she work at Sweetie Pies but she worships the devil on the weekend. Trust me, there is no allowances from the dude. He chucking up them deuce fangaz with the quickness! With that being said, my point is simple. The above woman who feels her dude isn't into her like he once was is probably correct. But wouldn't it behoove her to spend more time working on her fitness and less time worrying about what he said?  Let's face it, men are visual creatures and we like what we like. Maybe from a female perspective, she is thinking he should love her for her- no matter how much weight she gains, no matter how short her hair gets or how many things she now argues with him about- that she never did in the past.  I think my dog shouldn't bark at 2 a.m. if he hears a strange noise because I am trying to sleep, but it doesn't always work out that way. Men may also think, "what if I suddenly didn't do my secular job like I did when my boss first hired me, would I keep my job for long?" Hummmm, Wardy thinks not!  But who am I?????

Similar to customer service. I thought customer service was something that could be easily taught, but I found out that it has to be something inside a person that makes them want to be helpful or have integrity. Seems like most people in love and business are more concerned about speaking rather than listening. If someone says they don't want the widget with pink fuzz on it, why try to make them purchase it anyway. Find out what they want and give them that and keep your customer/partner happy.
Love and customer service both have it in common: You have to work at to get it and keep it.
I am Ward.....

Unrealistic expectations and the negative effects on your relationship.............

When men say that women have unrealistic expectations they mean that women expect men to do too much in order to be with them. Men are not going to compromise on EVERYTHING a woman decides she doesn't like or feels some kind of way about. The women that understand this usually have no problem keeping her a man.
You are never going to meet or marry some 1 that doesn't have something about them that you don't like or agree with. And that's cool!. The reason its so much easier for most men to get in relationships when they decide to settle down and actually make things work is because they do a couple of small things that allow a woman to be herself. The only come to her and request compromises on pertinent issues that have a direct impact on them (women give ultimatums on darn near everything-LOL) and they learn to ignore the things the woman does that he dislikes or finds a way to deal with it! Newsflash suckers, Men don't like everything about women. There are lost things that men just accept and deal with for the sake of make the relationship work. Some women would behoove themselves by doing the same dang thang!!!! Women, you can't take a stance on every issue and think your man is still gonna want you on his team. I feel sometimes women need to relax on the things y'all expect men to do to show you that he loves you and wants to be with you because a lot of y'all are on pace to be lonely with your ideas of men and relationships.
Sometimes we all have to pick our battles, because each argument/fight is a step toward irreparable relationship damage. I know some women will say that no matter when y'all do, whether its nagging or being submissive that you always get the short end of the stick. Perhaps, but its a little extreme, because women are made to be the man's compliment not his competition. I know some men are jerks but for those who try to do their God given assigned roles, its not good to keep changeling your dude.
I speak to so many women who keep expecting men to think like they think men should think. It doesn't work. How can a woman tell a man what he should feel or do? Really? I cringe when I hear a woman says "A real man would do this or that"..... Usually you will find these women are single or soon to be! I mean would a person be considered normal if she expects her cat to bark like a dog because she feels that is what a cat should do? Of course not, so why would it work on men.
I feel its best to treat your husband/man/boyfriend/lover with the same if not more respect than you would for your boss. If you would not argue or debate with your boss, then don't do it with your mate. You would have choose your words tactfully and open to understanding. It really works and its loving. I think when we get comfortable with others we can start to use words like "stupid-dumb-crazy" etc.
If women want a better relationship, I suggest really getting to know God first, then yourself followed by allowing your self to be found by your prince charming. Let go of your preconceived notions and just be natural.
I am Ward.................

I can't Shake it off

They say every 7 years that people change. Views on life, fairness or hot topics in general. Could it be from our maturity, change of friends or maybe life it self has given some free advice! Nevertheless, I am sure that I have some new life changes for my life. I have accepted that young people ( I won't say kids, but very tempted) are the major reason for poor customer service in fast food joints. They have been known to have a careless attitude about their jobs and quick to want a tip. That's another whole nother story about how I feel about tipping for someone to bring my food from the back to the front, lol.

Any who, I want to share a recent experience that I had a local fast food spot. I don't want to put a negative light on companies but...........no I am going to call out the place. Its Steak N Shake!!!! There I said it and it felt good! I was downtown Indianapolis at the mall. I knew it was the time to get the half priced drinks (including shakes), so I headed on down the yellow brick road to partake. I ordered the burger/fries combo and a heath and vanilla shake (which I split with the wifey). The burger was extra greasy as usual and the fries were skimped over, so I was already feeling some kind of way about the meal thus far.

Didn't want to stay there for ever so I tried to hurry up when the wifey started to look intently at her half of the shake with a slight look of disgust and sadness. I inquired what was wrong. She said look in here at my shake. I hesitated for a moment and thought is it a finger- a roach wing  or worse! It was worse. It was a bunch of  small pubic hairs. It look like someone cleaned out their brush and hid it in our shake. I then dug around my shake and found the other half. Immediately my throat began to feel scratchy and I wanted to earl!!!!

 

We called the manager over and explained what happened. The manager (in his early 20's) comes over and ask me was it my hair, jokingly. I told him it wasn't, as I was looking at him and noticed his curly fro hawk, which was missing the required hair net. But the look on his face I realized who made the shake! I didn't say nothing because I wanted to know his solution. The manager asked me if we wanted 2 new shakes. I was like...REALLY??? No I am good. He then said, no problem, I will take it off your bill! I was thinking he was going to comp the entire meal of $12, but he said he was comping the SHAKE!!!!!

 

I said no problem, as we got up and walked out and left the bill on the table. I have never been so disappointed with a restaurant in such a while. I don't think I will ever be able to get a shake anywhere else ever again. They are think and you just never know. I am sure others are safe but I just cannot foresee it in my future.

 

I did some additional research and found that fast food spots everywhere* have unmentioned  issues that the general public is clueless about, but since it’s not my goal to gross anyone out further, I will just encourage everyone to pray before eating out lol!

 

I am Ward.....

Life and death....................

 
True Story from this week in time.
Two 18-month-old twins drowned after their mother tried to fend off a bee and let go of their stroller, which rolled into a canal, Arizona police said.
Alexis Keslar was walking with her twin sons, Silas and Eli Keslar, along a canal in Yuma on Friday when she tried to repel a bee, police in Yuma said.
“The stroller rolled away from her into the canal, with the boys belted in the seat,” police said Monday.
Keslar went into the canal and tried to rescue her sons, authorities said, but was hampered by the steep sides of the canal, the depth of the water and the force of the current. The current washed the stroller away.
After Keslar got out of the canal, she called for help, police said.
The irrigation district that manages the canal slowed the flow of water and reduced the water level to help emergency workers find the boys, authorities said. After more than an hour of searching, the toddlers were found and flown to a hospital, where they were pronounced dead.
“No parent should ever have to lose a child, you know, let alone both of them at the same time,” family friend Marlene Gleim told CNN affiliate KYMA. “That’s what really, really is heartbreaking to me, because those little boys were, you know, meant so much to so many people.”
Authorities say the paths along Yuma canals are popular for joggers and bicyclists, but they can be dangerous.
“Many people typically do not comprehend how swift the current in these canals are and how deep the water can be,” Yuma police said. “They also do not realize how difficult it is to climb back up many of the canal embankments.”
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