When men say that women have unrealistic expectations they mean that women expect men to do too much in order to be with them. Men are not going to compromise on EVERYTHING a woman decides she doesn't like or feels some kind of way about. The women that understand this usually have no problem keeping her a man.
You are never going to meet or marry some 1 that doesn't have something about them that you don't like or agree with. And that's cool!. The reason its so much easier for most men to get in relationships when they decide to settle down and actually make things work is because they do a couple of small things that allow a woman to be herself. The only come to her and request compromises on pertinent issues that have a direct impact on them (women give ultimatums on darn near everything-LOL) and they learn to ignore the things the woman does that he dislikes or finds a way to deal with it! Newsflash suckers, Men don't like everything about women. There are lost things that men just accept and deal with for the sake of make the relationship work. Some women would behoove themselves by doing the same dang thang!!!! Women, you can't take a stance on every issue and think your man is still gonna want you on his team. I feel sometimes women need to relax on the things y'all expect men to do to show you that he loves you and wants to be with you because a lot of y'all are on pace to be lonely with your ideas of men and relationships.
Sometimes we all have to pick our battles, because each argument/fight is a step toward irreparable relationship damage. I know some women will say that no matter when y'all do, whether its nagging or being submissive that you always get the short end of the stick. Perhaps, but its a little extreme, because women are made to be the man's compliment not his competition. I know some men are jerks but for those who try to do their God given assigned roles, its not good to keep changeling your dude.
I speak to so many women who keep expecting men to think like they think men should think. It doesn't work. How can a woman tell a man what he should feel or do? Really? I cringe when I hear a woman says "A real man would do this or that"..... Usually you will find these women are single or soon to be! I mean would a person be considered normal if she expects her cat to bark like a dog because she feels that is what a cat should do? Of course not, so why would it work on men.
I feel its best to treat your husband/man/boyfriend/lover with the same if not more respect than you would for your boss. If you would not argue or debate with your boss, then don't do it with your mate. You would have choose your words tactfully and open to understanding. It really works and its loving. I think when we get comfortable with others we can start to use words like "stupid-dumb-crazy" etc.
If women want a better relationship, I suggest really getting to know God first, then yourself followed by allowing your self to be found by your prince charming. Let go of your preconceived notions and just be natural.
I am Ward.................
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