Please take advantage of me......I don't mind

Men have a tendency to recant all of the things that we do for others when our frustrations reach a certain boiling point. I am no different, but at least I can say that I am self aware of some of my weaknesses. With that being said, let me list some struggles that I have been thru in my life and how it leads up to today.
I grew up in a two parent house hold to a father with an 8th grade education and mother who was a high school graduate. My sister and I were obviously first time college students and graduates. Those are clearly milestones for us and the family but it wasn't always easy nor did it happen over night! In fact I stopped going to college 3 times before finally getting my Bachelor's degree in Organizational Management and Business. I can say the journey along the way cost me a lot of time and taught me many life lessons that I have been fortunate to share with my own children.
I had to learn the hard way to never burn bridges, to stop making excuses and clear the way for results, to do what a man has to (regardless of age) and to seek and serve the true God to find real happiness. I can recall working 3 jobs while taking night classes at college along with being a single ACTIVE parent to my 2 young daughters. My girls mother was active in their lives too, but she was in college full time as well, so that just meant I had to try harder on my end.
I wouldn't say that I am what some people call "a success" but I can say that I am content with how things have turned out thus far. One thing that I can say is I am proud of is that I learned to make a way out of no-way. I didn't have the option of relying on my parents when I was out on my own. I had bills like the next man along with a broken down Honda. Heck, at one time I had up to 4 cash advances from those high interest payday loan companies. I was basically robbing Peter to pay Paul, but I was doing it legit. Trust me, I had options to get money from other resources- but I choose not to venture down those paths. Instead, I kept my head up and a smile on my face daily and nobody ever knew my struggles.
At this moment, I don't have those past struggles, but I am finding that I still relive my struggles thru the lenses of other people's viewpoints simply because I know them. I am a firm believer in helping out my fellow man (esp considering how many people are senselessly dying) but I am not good with being taken advantage of.  Matthew 10:36 mentions how a man's enemy will be members of your household, and I know the Bible to be 100. From my perspective, a family has to work together in all aspects of life. One person should not have to do mostly everything in order for the home to run well. If there a true leader in the home, then the directions come from that person unless its not running well. I know that a dirty house doesn't clean it self, food doesn't magically appear in the refrigerator (even though it magically disappears from the refrigerator), and bills are paid easier when agreements to pay them are fulfilled by the people living in said home. Take for example of my trips to Florida to visit my homeboy Dr. William E. Newsome. When I visited this dude, you better believe I realized that I had "FREE" place to live and I wanted to show my love for his kindness. I got up every morning and cleaned his house and cooked breakfast and made my presence appreciated in any way I could. I wanted him to know that this wasn't a hit or miss thing to show my attempt at saying "Hey I did something to be happy". Dr. Newsome told me that he was so impressed that I treated his home like it was my own, that I was welcomed anytime I wanted to visit. Dude gave me the keys to his new Escalade and his gas card and I will never forget that. Lesson for me you ask: If I stayed in Florida at a hotel, it would have cost me quite a bit of change and not to mention the car rental.
Back to the quoted scripture, if you come to my home, know that I worked hard for everything I have attained ( Thanks to Jah). Notice how I do things and follow my example. Its better to work with me than against me. Consider how that would work at your job (the not following rules aspect) and see how long you remain employed. I guess it goes back to parenting styles that determines how our kids turn out. I know my kids are not perfect, but you better believe when they stay with me or have sleep overs at their friends homes, they clean up their rooms daily, vacuum, take out trash, clean the tables and counters and help with the outside and anything else that needs to be done. Please see Proverbs 22:6 to see why its important to teach your kids at a very young age. Did I mention my kids are 14 and 16? I can't afford to take care of grown healthy people and for go things that I enjoy doing. I no longer need to worked 3 jobs, because I was handling my business and would expect nothing less from my kids moving forward if the situation called for it. In fact, when I was living with my parents, as a high school student, I not only did regular chores and kept the home clean, I had to pay $$ towards the food I ate and the bills of the house. It wasn't no free ride for me or my sister.  It taught me responsibility and appreciation for my living situation, I mean who can live anywhere for under $400 per month in this economy of today? That financial lesson helped me when I struggled as a young adult, because I knew what was expected from the real world. Being young often means youth and energy to get things done. I don't expect others to follow my broken paths, but I do expect my team or individuals to be strong, for all members who are with me or asking for my help. There should be no renegotiation of the house rules or others benefiting of my hard work accomplishments while I get nothing in return.  But I guess that is asking for too much in 2016, so PLEASE TAKE ADVANTAGE OF ME.........I DON"T MIND! Nevertheless, I got a plan to get back on track, because I don't have time to be frustrated arguing viewpoints and hearing excuses of what other people have to get done thus being unable to to follow my rules. Birds of a feather flock together and need to be together from my perspective.  I am not mad, just ready to complete what I started for me and allow others to continue the path they have chosen without me!
I am WarD.....