As a man, Eye can certainly relate to things being done in a logical format. Perhaps that is why Jehovah created the woman as a man's compliment- rather than his leader! With that being said, I recently spoke to a few good men about being in bad situations, which surprisingly seemed similar. Both men complained that their women absolutely did not respect them. The men presented their views in an easy to follow path. They were tired of arguing almost daily about stupid things (in their opinion). They felt the women did not support them in the way the once did and the double standards women impose (my favorite).
I know a lot of women would immediately think that the men are the problem, but for the two I spoke with, I believe they are not! Take the arguing aspect first up! A person usually argues with their mate to regain control of a situation. This is invariable a given when logic runs smack into emotions. If you looked at the majority of happy couples, you will notice that they settle problems quickly and with compromise. Wise women know how to get what they want from their men by speaking in a loving tone and at the appropriate time. Its not always easy, but well worth the results.
Next up, support! How can a woman support her man? I think the easiest response would be by doing what he asks of you. Example you ask? If he states that you both need to save money for a major purchase and one of the cut backs would be not getting Starbucks. So if the female knows the "what" and the "why" for said action and reasons that she will continue to frequent Starbucks but purchase flavored tea rather than the triple hot, extra hot, double shot latte, that you usually get! That is not supporting your dude. The man needs to know he can count on his woman in small things and big things. Men don't like it having to doubt the person who is suppose to have his back. Again, I find that happiest couples are the one's who do what they know their mate want/need not because they were requested but because they want to out of love!
Finally, the double standards. I personally hate it when someone says one thing and then later change the scenario up and say that they meant to say something else. Men are not mind readers of the what you meant to say nature. We know what you said not what you meant sucka! I realize a person can make a mistake from time to time, but when something becomes a pattern, I feel comfortable thinking that you have been lied to! Wardy often says, Corner someone with the truth of what they stated and watch them wiggle out or at least try to! Another double standard is when a woman can play fight with their dude or talk about him and its all good. But let the tables turn around and its now being called mean and insensitive. I understand that women are the weaker vessel but after you can argue your man down for 3 hours about why he missed an exit on the highway or why he complimented his co-worker and not you, makes you less tolerant.
I am a hopeless romantic myself (walking on the beach, kissing my mate, snuggling while watching Netflix, taking selfies and having deep conversations about real life stuff) but if I am not on the same page with my mate, I can't do all those things I enjoy because the closeness is missing. What women need to keep in mind, is that men have only a few requirements from relationships to remain happy and if one or especially 2 are missing you got issues. Women tend to have a plethora of things they want and can live with several of them lacking. For example, he doesn't have a job or doesn't flush the toilet or put his dirty underwear in the hamper, that's cool with yall-lol! Again, if the man finds his woman doesn't want to give him sex or constantly goes against his wishes or can't cook etc...... You get me point.
I am happy for sucesscuful couples but it makes you wonder, why do so many people call it quits every darn day.....
I am WarD.....
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