Why women are always changing up their look...........

Have you ever noticed the millions of women out there with the nice weave, colored contacts and the perfect mac makeup? The funny thing is these women say they want a real man....what the fudge (WTF)??? Sounds like a double standard to me. See men usually wear the same hair style for years and maybe the same style of clothing too. But women, lol......yall flip clothes and hair style like Jay changes clothes!!!
So armed with this knowledge, I inquired of a female (that I found to be very logical and wise) as to why women are always changing it up? The response was basically this:
 ""Men are visual creatures and they like what they like. So sometimes men are attracted to women with long hair and some days they want the chick with the blonde wig on with stripper shoes. A woman who wants to keep her dudes eye, may want to swithch it up to please him according to my source. She even stated that some men will tell his chick that he tired of her look and she should make a change. Even though this truth has the tendency to hurt the woman's, at the end of the day she is glad 4 this honesty, because this will keep them together!""
I had to marinate on this briefly because, honestly I only looked at it from the male perspective. I just knew men are visual but only liked one look. For example, I enjoy a woman who keeps her hair nice and clothes fashionable and stay in shape. I prefer her not to drink like a fish or use foul language. But then again, it is cool to see a girl like Black China some times too! So I agree, men can be fickle at times too. So now, I am thinking what do women want? Is it just to be loved by the man who chooses her? Does she think the dude is almost what she wants and just needs a little enhancement from her????? Heck, most women get involved in realtionships thinking they want to change (help better) the dude and men tend to get married to his woman and hopes (falsely thinks) she will never change. Both are usually surprised lol!
My thoughts are these: Its important to please your mate, but its equally important to know thy self first.
I am Ward......

prisoner of love.....we can break free if we don't tire out......

So many people don’t trust in love

Some are afraid of death

Others don’t believe to be free

I guess I be that sucker who is a slave of love

Ya know a victim of death

Or a prisoner waiting to be freed….

Ya understand that I trust in love, I am its slave

4 I face my death, I am a victim

4 I wish for freedom,  I am a prisoner

I hate being loved yet can’t help but to love back

Waiting to die yet not wanting to end my life

Waiting to be free of torture

Yet cherishing this new life and culture

Now I know that what you do, I can’t follow

What you say does not make Ward’s day

4 my blood runs strong and pure as paradise water

I love you no more; it’s in the past behind a door

When I die, my death will not be for you

But because my time is due

I am no longer a prisoner, now set me free…..

Love is what is is and can’t be denied, it has strength and long since tried.

With a mind of his own. Jealous at times and speaks as it feels

I decided to fight you love. I will win. I got you….

I am Ward….

Women just don't know.......

I have sometimes  wondered  if women really grasp how simple men really are??? I mean, we really don’t ask for that much and feel that we give the everything that is needed while carrying the world on our backs.  Yet and still, society seems to only care about the role of the mother. I get the importance of being the life giver and the parent who spends the most time with the kid during the formative years, but please don’t forget about the man and his contributions or his needs too.

I put down a few areas men feel are important.

*When dating, creeping or interested in a brutha…..If you like us, let us know. If you don’t, let us go. This game where you pretend you don’t care and secretly hope we chase you down is for teenagers. You think men like the chase? Perhaps. You think we like guessing whether we’re wasting our time? Hummm

* We know that, at times, tact can be the only four-letter word that doesn’t describe us, but women need to rethink their reactions to male mind. Men lie and deal with people they have no interest in. The art of BS—and indulging others with their BS—is how we get through the day. But with you, lucky you, we want to forget all that. We want to tell you why your mother bothers us and how you can solve the problem with your high-maintenance friend. In a relationship, honesty is a young man’s mistake because the longer a man feels punished for it, the more he begins to censor himself. And that’s when you really need to worry-lol!

* We acknowledge the importance of couple time. We’d even go so far as to say that, in the best relationships, love that is asserted each day deepens and extends. Lost in this, however, is the belief that time spent enriching oneself also enriches partnerships. In other words, going on a male retreat weekend with the boys does not diminish the bond we share. Like women need the affirmation of their girl friends, guys need the companionship of other men. This kind of solo time will refresh us and we’ll come back with more for you.  I think my boi Brandonnnnn said “Men need me time”.  Its good to do things without your shadow sometimes. Doesn’t mean you will cheat or bad things, its just for us suckers…….

* It is sad to say that equality in our times means adopting the worst of both sexes: Men get more sexualized and women can be cruder. And while no fair-minded guy wants women to return to the 1950s sitcom (although coming home to a roast chicken and a stiff drink ain’t bad as a fantasy), neither do we want the elimination of the feminine as a virtue. Don’t be ashamed to hold on to those things that make you different from us, like how you care about smelling nice or reminding us of empathy. That isn’t regressive; it’s just beautiful. A woman should be a woman and let a man be a man!!!!

*It can seem, at times, that the world elevates the feminine over the masculine and that the lessons men can impart are outmoded or regarded as Neanderthal. But when a bully is picking on your son, your husband showing him how to throw a punch is not crazy is it? Or if your daughter has an athletic talent, his testosterone-fueled guidance may teach her more than just competitiveness. Honoring what men know based on their experiences is just as valuable to the young as the insights of women. Freely sharing his wisdom prevents issues later. Basically, what equipment she has is not better than mine, appreciation is key!

I am Ward……

Truth......

I am Ward.......

It doesn't matter what you wear to worship God, the Bible says come as you are........or is that common misconception for those who don't read the word?

The other day I have a rather lively discussion with my homeboy about how to dress for a job interview. He (let's call him Randon) stated how he could make any combo of clothing work for the job interview, especially jeans! Now its important that we keep in mind that I have had 100's of jobs and one of my favz was that of a career coach (helping people prepare for and find careers in a challenged job market). I entertained this gooobadegoup for a few moments until I realized he was quite serious. So eye switched gears and tried to make a clear point.
I inquired of Randon, if he was going to meet President Obama would he wear jeans? Do you know he said he would!!!! He went as far as trying to get others to chime in on his monolithic view point. Nobody agreed with the poor lad, but I give him props for standing firm in what he felt was correct. The conversation continued on for sometime until I made my tie in point, of the jeans in worship.
As a person who has been trying and falling down many a times on the path of being Christian, I can honestly say that RESPECT is the least you owe the GOD you claim to serve! Most people want to put their best on when going on a 1st date, job interview, funerals,wedding and going to Worship serve. I especially say Worship because all of the good things that we receive, it is only fitting that we can dress up to show the importance of the fact that you are alive and present.  Now I know some are going to say but the Bible says come as you are. But does it really say that? If you think so, then you are one of those lost souls who think Eve gave Adam an Apple to eat too! I looked up a random site on the internet and found that the statement "Come as you are" is not a Biblical statement and that many people erroneously quote it often to fit their needs and bring that almighty dollar to the church! Why else would that statement become so popular?

(((“Come as you are” is sometimes misunderstood and misapplied in today's church. Those churches which are identified with the Emerging/Emergent Church or Hipster movements, among others, sometimes take the grace of God and turn it into licentiousness (Jude 4) by teaching that it makes no difference how you live, as long as you believe. If you come to Christ in an illicit relationship, they say Christ will accept you just as you are and sanctify that relationship. If you come to Christ as someone who enjoys the night life, you can continue those things, and use them to “reach others for Christ.” This may be a popular message, but it directly contradicts Scripture which clearly says that these things from our past lives should be left behind and that our former friends will think us strange for doing so (1 Peter 4:3-4). Romans 13:13 commands us to walk honestly, or decently, no longer participating in the licentious lifestyle of the world. Galatians 5:13 says that we are called to liberty, but that we cannot use liberty “for an occasion to the flesh,” excusing our continued sins.)))...

Now I don't want to get to deep and off subject, but eye will say this. Jesus didn't want to be made a King when asked while he was on Earth did he? He said his kingdom was no part of this world. Did you also notice that Jesus didn't have to act like a hip hopster or be accused of being an out dated thinker because he chose to respect GOD. I clearly understand the benefits of change but the God we serve is still the same. He only asks that we give him our best because he gave us his best (Jesus died for our sins). So is dressing up to serve him too much to ask?  True every man/woman don't have the best of clothing, but what ever your best is, wear it proudly. Recall the poor lady who only had 2 cents for her worship offering? She gave her all and her best and was blessed by God himself! If you disagree, by all means continue to dress like the world does at a nice strip club or dinner outing with co-workers you don't even like- if that works for you. But if you ever wake up and realize that the church is loosing it grip on parishioners because they don't have God's spirit, then I hope you learn to adapt to the void, while you are trapped in eternal darkness suckers. 
In closing, we all have to make the truth our own! So many stories in the Bible speak of how others were unable to follow the leadership of the Elders and how well it DIDN'T turn out. Change is good, but God has a plan. You can get with this or you can get dealt with on that.....
I am Ward.......

 

               

ATL 2013 the ReMixxxxx

I Am Ward......

Shout out to all the determined Players.....This is one for yalll.......

 

Recently a Louisiana minister was preaching at his Church, when he was shot to death! (http://usnews.nbcnews.com/_news/2013/09/30/20761921-pastor-shot-during-sermon-had-contact-with-gunmans-wife-cops) The minister (Ronald Harris) was shot by (Woodrow Karey) The shooter walked right up to the victim and shot him once in the chest and then another at point blank range to ensure he was dead. The man then fled and later turned himself into the authorities along with his two weapons. Come to find out that man’s wife was having an affair with the minister according to the recently found text messages that were exchanged between the cheating couple. I find no delight in death nor cheating but I decided to write down some steps for the man/woman who is bent on cheating. If these steps do nothing else for you, at least have comfort in knowing that you may not get shot but you increase your chances of staying alive. The game just got real out there…….

Cheater Rule # 1)

When cheating always cheat above/better than your current mate. (I am not going to explain the obvious suckers so keep up). For example, if you are dating/married to a $45K year working person, don’t date the fry cook at Burger King even if you can have it your way! If you situation is found out (and it will) you must be able to maintain your lifestyle. Its not a good look to go from a Mercedes S430 with the AMG kit to the Yugo GT with a flame pin strip. So go after someone who can benefit you somehow after you return to your senses.

Cheater Rule #2

The cheater must always keep it 100 with the side piece. She/He must know how to act in public when they see you out with the family. (NO eye contact or conversation and definitely no acting a fool). The side piece must know what the main piece looks like, work schedule, car driven and any tendencies to prevent unforeseen situations. This honesty will also build a closeness between the two cheaters that is invaluable if the three some should have to ever meet!

Cheater Rule #3

Never do 4 side pieces that you have not already done for the main lover. When it comes out, you can never EVER repair the damage with a Kobe Bryant (4 million dollar ring) sacrifice. By all means, give the side pieces little tokens of your appreciation of your situation like sharing your body, car sometimes and lunch or dinner her or there but that’s about it! Don’t say you love them either unless it’s the last resort!

Cheater Rule #4

Leaving any type of paper trail is a definite No--No suckA! This is includes but not limited to: Emails, texts, letters, cards, messages thru friends,pictures,etc. Ask the ex-mayor- Kwame Kilpatrick of Detroit or the minister who recently shot and killed from the 1st paragraph. At some point, some recently caught feelings will turn to hurt/rage and anything you say CAN AND WILL BE USED AGAINST YOU. You must learn to express your feelings in other ways other than the dangerous paper trail. Think about it, why didn’t Harriet Tubman leave notes for everybody to meet at the underground rail road when trying to escape from slavery. Cause she didn’t want to get caught silly!!!!

I you gotta cheat, please be aware of ALL your possible outcomes and the trail of hurt that you will leave behind. Heck, I been there before and  really loved  my chick, but I got out before it got 2 bad ( I think-lol). But in the end, we gotta own whatever we do as if  we got the receipt.

I am ward…..