The anatomy of the break up!!!

After talking to several single women, I realize that all have several things in common. The obvious is that they are single and the other two are they wish they would have done things differently while together and how trust was a major issue in the situation. Studies have shown that 2nd  marriages have a higher divorce rate than 1st time marriages. That's mainly due to people having been through stupid or stressful things sooo many times that they refuse to relive the craziness again, like a bad episode of the movie "Ground Hog Day".
So when I say people wish they had done things differently, its because separation can some times bring about appreciation. For example, did the couple really have to argue about all the little things that begin the nag at the relationship. Perhaps the couple could have/should have spent more time enjoying each others company. I have heard that many times the things that bring a couple together are the same things break them apart, once the actions stopped (walking in the park, going to dinner and movies or affection). I find that it is not too difficult to recognize your relationship is in danger, stop the toxic behaviors and move forward positively in the future.  We all know the warning signs but we don't always follow thru.
I also feel when you stop trusting your mate is when you have a decision to make. You can go on being unhappily happy for years while calling yourself Christian. Funny thing is Christians are expected to do better, but sometimes are the biggest hypocrites in the world. The anatomy of the break up begins when communication breaks down. When a couple stops learning and growing with each other and transition into abusive speech and actions, the real problems begin. I see couples with separate bank accounts living as one, couples who have zero trust but stay together, and couples who don't know what a real relationship is about. Any-who, its sad that most relationships end with the other person being blind sided (often by choice). If love is a part of ones character, then it would behoove them to get they ish together before they are doing the forbidden dance called the "LOOOK who single now game!
I am Ward....