7 Things U ain't know about Ward or how I feels about it..........

1. When I sleep, I never snore.
2. I often counsel 3-4 people per week about life.
3. I am the only person I know who has never drank or smoked anything.
4. I tend to 2 beee logical and have a very low tolerance for stupidity.
5. Basketball is the greatest sport ever!!!
6. Communication is paramount to our relationship, especially yes or no responses.
7. I am a really good dancer, but seldom show my skillz.
8. If I have to argue with someone, I subconsciously with draw from them.
9. I enjoy reading, because the more I read, the more I realize what I don't know.
10. There is nothing that I can't do or learn.
11. I don't believe in failure, rather learning experiences.
12. I am huge Miami Heat Fan. They all play good ball!
13. I enjoy spending time with my kids.....they keep me laughing.
14. After taking a class about lying, I find that people lie all the time.
15. My sister and brother in law refuses to call me "Ward": Thus we never see each other.
16. My father and I have not spoken in years.......and I so cool with that!
17. I look for coupons for everything. I found a dollar tree coupon once!
18. I love doing stand up comedy because I am hilarious.
19. I think Instagram is full of truth (and silliness)
20. I would like to try my hand at acting one day.
21. I don't like repeating myself twice, especially if you were not listening the 1st time (sucka)
22. I love chocolate stars........

I am ward......

Feed back from Ward's 8/24/13 blog....

 Having much feed back about the couple I recently wrote about on 8/24/13, I decided to post a response from a female reader called Ms.Parker.

....Hi Ward, I read that blog about the couple who been dating for 10 years! I think I know at least 5 couples in that exact same situation so I wasn't to surprised. But what did shock me was your tone. It seems like you obviously know this couple and clearly care about them, but why does it seem like you want to change them? I think the problem is that you keep trying to talk logic into an irrational situation with unreasonably mentally blind people. Since they've been together for so long obviously the unhappily happy situation works for them!!! Better when you accept that they are kind of special individuals lol!!. Yes, what you wrote makes total sense, but there is absolutely nothing you can do to change their personalities, which is clearly a separate issues from behavioral issues. Apparently they just need each other I guess??? At this point they'd have to commit to counseling or relationship therapy for the rest of their lives if they want to function how you think they should. I guess there are some people who want a change and there are people who only talk about it. The issues they have, seem to be entertaining enough that they stay another day, with each other just tellin the same old sad story. Ward, if I were you, I'd either run for the hills or take their situation and use it for what it's good for....Entertainment and/ or conversation.

*Thank you Ms.Parker for your feed back, I will post your response.
I am Ward.......

I am a Leader. Follow me or get the freak out da way......

Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is to always try just one more time said the celebrated Mr. Thomas Edison. With these powerful words, I write this blog for the first time for someone else. That unsuspecting recipient is non other than "myself". I have been fortunate to be healthy and in sound mind for the most part. I have two beautiful healthy daughters and son, who know very well my capabilities. I have searched and found the truth and lavished many memories along the way.
With that being said, I know that I must fight against the wrong that I have perfected, in place of following another, far greater than I could ever be, to guide my feet on the narrow path of righteousness. These broken pieces of my life that some many consider failures, I simply see as friendly reminders to try it another way! Allow me to give an example: When I left my parents home at age 17, I had nothing but my dreams and $500 in my cross color jeans. I had no plan B! Along the way to August 26,2013- I had to deal with drug dealers, pimps, killers and con-men. (And that was just my own family-lol!) I gained first hand knowledge of how people are when it comes to looking out for number 1. Life taught me very quickly to expect the the bull #*%, but to never accept it! There is no honor among thieves and no truth among lovers of this wicked world. I began to experience and wonder what happens to people who become drunk with power? One day they can be just a local Joe and the next day you are the WOMAN in charge? Do you forget about all the people you stepped on to get up top or those who depend on you? Do you make your pseudo presence felt by making my other hustler family brethren suffer from your emotional tyrants? I find no happiness in watching others get retribution for their sins, but you gotta admit- it does give a sense of relieve when you feel the helping hand of justice tapping you on your back! I gave this entry the title of a leader, because as sure as someone who can lead you out of a burning building because you listened- is what its all about! The leadership objective is to realize that your emotions are your enemy so we must stop taking things personally. If your enemy wins a battle, congratulate her with a smile and live to fight another day, because you will win. (re-read the first two sentences now). Why you ask? Because Heather told me that "Good things come to those wait, but its usually left overs from those who hustle".
Lesson to be gained: Leaders lead by example. Leaders know that obstacles are opportunities to use strengths you did not know you had! Leaders know that in order to be a great leader, you had to have been a great follower! Leaders win thru actions and never words. Leaders enter with boldness and get results! Leaders laugh at the games people of this generation play because we know its only temporary. We must continue to fight evil with good (Romans 12:21). I am a Leader. Follow me or get the freak out da way.....
I am Ward......

Everything is fine and we love each other........a couples public lie to themselves!!!

I had the opportunity to interview several couples about what they like and dislike about their relationships! One couple stood out from the rest because of the length of time (10 yrs), the disrespect from the female and the total void of God in this relationship. I spoke with the female first because I know that only 3 types of people who tell the truth 100% of the time. 1). Kids 2. ) Drunk people 3). Out of control women. Eye say this because kids are innocent and you can't blame them for calling a fat person fat if they are-right! Drunk people have all those liquid libations in they system and feel the power of the courage and just let the flood gates of realness flow! And the out of control women just don't give a fudge after they realize their dude is weak and begging to be walked all over!
Anywho, back to the couple in question! I asked the lady how is her love life?  The female was more than happy to tell me about how her dude and how he is the  major problem in the relationship and never her! I asked her if they have a future together other than 4 eva dating and she stated that she doesn't really want to marry him because of all the lies that he has told her over the years and how UN-trust-able he is! In addition to that, he doesn't believe in God, which means they would be unevenly yoked by being married to him???? (This is not what the Bible means by unevenly yoked....its for Christians who actively follow and apply Bible principles in their lives and not just someone who picks and choosing certain things to pretend to do) I inquired of her how does she think her God views her, considering that she is a chronic cigarette smoker, extremely jealous and having no respect 4 her dude (all things are strongly discussed in the Bible she claims to live by). Her reply was " God knows her heart and knows she is working on stopping these things (most people stop toxic behaviors in 6 months not 10+ years) but since her dude is so negative according to her, its making it harder on her. My next question was "Since she so strongly claims to be a Christian, how come she doesn't lead by example of a Christian, like all of the other women in the Bible who over came obstacles to be spoken highly of?" Reply was," she reads her scriptures all the time????" Yes I was biased on this case because of how adamant the lady was that she is basically better than her dude. I firmly believe the woman is man's compliment or helper not someone to tear him down with words and actions!
At this point, it became clear to me that this woman has created her own world of what is right and wrong and refuses to listen to anyone who has a differing view point, even if its her dude. The interviewee really made it clear that she is/could be the perfect mate if everyone else does what ever she wants, and how her dude is basically worse than Satan. Seems, her dude is not worthy of her, but she stays with ((( him ))) because he begs her to stay and not leave him. I dang near fell off my chair!!!!
I was somewhat perplexed that a man would want  to stay in a situation with a woman who thinks he is UN-trust-able, worse than the devil and has zero respect for him? She doesn't even kiss the guy who she lives with. I couldn't wait to interview him.
I asked the guy how was the relationship going and how has it managed to last for so long (and not progress any further). The guy stated that he loves his (we will call her girlfriend-not fiance yet) girlfriend because she is good to their young son and has always been there. That response did not indicate that he has feelings that a man has for a woman he wants to share the rest of his life with because I wanted to know what she does for him to make him appreciate her? The guy couldn't say what was really "good" about the relationship because what he basically gets from this thing is constant nagging about him cheating all the time (He swore he has never cheated in 10 years). He is unable to go anywhere with-out her, other than work (but he must call her on "every break" and all the way home from work to prevent him from cheating). He is unable to watch television shows with too many women, like track and field, music videos and anything sexual (he may lust after them). It was difficult to do this interview, because I saw this as clearly ""1 shell of a man"" that i use 2 know. I was surprised he allows himself to be treated like that.
This man is with a woman that he knows he has no future with but stays with her anyway, because its all he knows! In 21 years he has dated 2 woman who basically the same! They both treated him like crap and he gave them the world.It seems like he doesn't want a woman who loves and respects him as the Bible says a woman should do, but rather someone who thinks he needs to be micro watched 24/7ths. Dude once had one of the best jump shots I have ever seen in my life, but is no longer allowed to play basketball without taking his entire family (girlfriend & young son). If they don't want to watch him play, then he can't go play because it maybe women there and he is clearly a weak minded man that can not be trusted around them. What the freak?????
The male interviewee's final nail in the coffin occurred when he admitted that his goal in the relationship is to keep the peace by remaining silent until really upset. He allows his girlfriend to disrespect him as she feels the need to. If she wants to yell down the street that he is a child molester (she has really done this) to the neighborhood....he is cool with that! If she wants to smoke nasty cigarettes and shorten her life, he is cool with that! If she wants to quit her job and stay home to monitor his every move, he is cool with that! The long of the story is the female runs this extra toxic relationship and the guy is not strong enough to do anything about it. I call this being unhappily happy! I think he will marry her soon one day and get divorced really fast because he ain't seen nothing yet. The kids will be used as a pawn and everyone will be hurt. The sad thing about my study couple is that everyone is talking about them and asking the sames questions? How much longer and Why this long?
I appreciate the couples participation in this blog, but I just can't understand why two people stay together and neither are happy, but quick to think the on lookers are blind to reality? Good luck with that.
I am Ward.

How you gonna like the fruit but hate the tree it came from......a religious point?

What would you say if to someone if they said  "I love golden delicious apples but eye hate the trees that they grow on"? The tree is what the fruit is all about. If the tree is healthy so will the apples. Nice, juicy and colorful to the eye. Got me wondering if I saw a scrawny tree with some crackish looking fruit barely dangling on it, would I be interested???? NOT!
With that being said, I spoke to a woman the other day about some peoplez view of Jehovah Witnesses. It is no secret that many people are misinformed about them, their purpose and who they really are. I found a quote on the web that was interesting:


 PLEASE do not give me any of those Bible quotes about Jesus talking about how if the world hates you, then remember that it hated him first, etc. I mean, I seirously can understand the irritation of other Christians, as I experience this, myself. Most of them use fear, manipulation, and hatred to fully change you and make you join a cult. However, not only do Jehovah's Witness understand what the Bible teaches, they are so tolerant and kind to nonbelievers. While I also believe that Jesus is the son of God, I certainly do not believe that anyone deserves to burn for an eternity. Most Jehovah's Witnesses don't feel this either.
So, my main question boils down to why do people hate Jehovah's Witnesses, out of all the Christians? I mean, they are the most tolerant, least sadistic, and most understanding of the Bible!

I won't get deep on this topic today, rather I will pose a question. Despite all the strong views you have about Witnesses, think about the ones you know personally or have seen. Have you noticed that they seem peaceable, neutral, and loving toward all. I personally, find that most people say that the onez they know are cool people. So I say, if you don't like a person because of his/her religion, then you don't like that person because that is the infrastructure of the person. Like my fruit and like me. Hate my tree and hate me. I asked an actual Witnesses why she thinks people don't like her religious choice and she stated this:

We do not participate in fornication, adultery, homosexual practices, theft, drugs, violence or bar hopping just to name a few things that most people like to do and don't want to be reminded that they shouldn't either.
Instead, they find churches and preachers to "tickle their ears" as the bible says.
I am Ward.......

Spending the Wknd in St. Louis.......

Bond's Baddd Bosses Breakdown.......by Brandon Bond (guest blogger)

After speaking to one young brutha about his experiences from the working environment the other day I came up with a great ideal ( o.k., it was his ideal but this is my blog!), which was to have him give me a glimpse into his mind so I could share it with my peoples. I know many people enjoyed the movie horrible bosses, guess who? and many others and no doubt realized one thing........we can identify with them? I invite you to read the following thoughts of my brutha.........

I’ve had enough…

                In the 28 years that God has allowed me to walk this blue marble we lovingly call Earth, I have had some good experiences and some bad ones…

One bad one that continues to plague me in my adult years is that of a bad boss…

We all have been there and I am sure that some of you that may be reading this can fall into that category. Now don’t get me wrong I am by no means stating that I am perfect by any stretch, but I feel that there strong skill sets lacking in today’s manager that must be addressed… Ya wonna hear it? Well here it goes!

1.       Time put in at a particular workplace does not qualify someone as “good boss”

a.       Someone who has been at the same place of employment for 20+ years does not mean that they are management material.

                                                              i.      Ever think that they may be in that particular job for a reason? Chances are that particular employee has looked for other job opportunities, but have been looked over for whatever reason. I agree in rewarding time put in, but there has to be another way other than promotion.

TIME Rendered DOES NOT mean PROMOTE

2.       Education is" not" the only way to distinguish people of merit and those without.

a.       Plenty of educated people make for bad management.

                                                              i.       George Bush 1 & 2…Need I say more

3.       Is that boo boo on your nose or are you just a kiss @$$?

a.       I mean yes, it is a great idea to become social with your boss and maybe take them to lunch to show them appreciation, but dang ratting out other employees…

                                                              i.      Do you really think you will be a good boss by becoming a rat or spy? You better off crawling under the desk and getting it that way…Ooooppss took it a little 2 far

All in all way 2 many people are being promoted into management and they leave us the hard working employee to suffer from the misguided principals of what it takes to be a BOSS…Year after year and bad boss after bad boss I have come to the conclusion that

I’VE HAD ENOUGH

B-

 *The views expressed are not necessarily those of "I am Ward" but greatly appreciated! In fact I personally feel that sometimes we have to learn the game, control what we can control and seek the kingdom 1st and let the rest work it self out! I understand how some people can and do, rub us the wrong way at times, but I encourage all to be better than what we have experienced and let bad bosses be inspirational 4 us to be better!

I am Ward......

If it means enough to fight me, just know your outcomes!

 I wrote this poem for your guys ( You Know Who You R)

 You know sometimes I do not know how to stop the things U say.
Quickly building a defense against what come and what may.
Confused most of the time about what’s going on.
Not sure what why when or how these things begin/begun.

At moment of fight the anger- the hurt takes flight.
The feeling that you don’t believe in me.
That alone I stand and even you I have to make see.
That I try so hard and most of the time I’m doing fine.
Why carry on and attack me why can’t certain things just left to be.

Only knowing not wanting to proceed.
With these malicious thoughts and evil deeds.
I don’t want to always feel the need
To explain to you" my actions", to feel insufficient to feel mean.

I hate the person that lingers inside of us.
The onez that emerges when the argument arises.
The onez who looks and seeks disguises.
The onez who linger and look for reasons.
The onez who seems to always start the fight..

I can say sorry in many diff languages and many ways.
But you will never see what these little arguments do to me.
I can only wonder and hope that you will feel, that you will see.
How much I love you and how much to me you mean, but if leaving is what needed.?
Then just look over your shoulder, Cuz I won't be there....

I am Ward

The anatomy of the break up!!!

After talking to several single women, I realize that all have several things in common. The obvious is that they are single and the other two are they wish they would have done things differently while together and how trust was a major issue in the situation. Studies have shown that 2nd  marriages have a higher divorce rate than 1st time marriages. That's mainly due to people having been through stupid or stressful things sooo many times that they refuse to relive the craziness again, like a bad episode of the movie "Ground Hog Day".
So when I say people wish they had done things differently, its because separation can some times bring about appreciation. For example, did the couple really have to argue about all the little things that begin the nag at the relationship. Perhaps the couple could have/should have spent more time enjoying each others company. I have heard that many times the things that bring a couple together are the same things break them apart, once the actions stopped (walking in the park, going to dinner and movies or affection). I find that it is not too difficult to recognize your relationship is in danger, stop the toxic behaviors and move forward positively in the future.  We all know the warning signs but we don't always follow thru.
I also feel when you stop trusting your mate is when you have a decision to make. You can go on being unhappily happy for years while calling yourself Christian. Funny thing is Christians are expected to do better, but sometimes are the biggest hypocrites in the world. The anatomy of the break up begins when communication breaks down. When a couple stops learning and growing with each other and transition into abusive speech and actions, the real problems begin. I see couples with separate bank accounts living as one, couples who have zero trust but stay together, and couples who don't know what a real relationship is about. Any-who, its sad that most relationships end with the other person being blind sided (often by choice). If love is a part of ones character, then it would behoove them to get they ish together before they are doing the forbidden dance called the "LOOOK who single now game!
I am Ward....

Is cheating to win really winning?

I am not a sports fan by any stretch of the imagination (only basketball). Lately in the sports world there has been all this talk about Mr. A. Rod taking some type of enhancement drugs that apparently helps him be worth the 200 + million he is being paid by major league baseball! I don't understand why so many well off or broke people for that matter, take a huge risk for the short term pay off of winning? Heck, for the matter, it is the same in relationships 2! But I am gonna let you figure that one out lol!
My nephew told me he is loving his love for playing basketball. I was shocked considering how good he is, but he did make sense when he said how his body is tired. I can dig it. Sure, everyone wants to win but who wants to put in work. I hear so many women speak of loosing weight as they sit and eat more and more food.
My question arises again. Is cheating to win really winning? I heard Tom Joyner say that if you ain't cheating then you really don't want to win in today's world? I don't agree with that but I do believe that many people do subscribe to that skool of thought. The other day I returned back from my lunch break 10 min past my time. I told my supervisor and my co-workers told me I should have kept that to myself. Perhaps they have a good point, but I sometimes do the right thing, even if i get in trouble.
At the end of the day, cheaters never win long term. Who wants to llok over thier back all the dang time. Just do the right thing, seek the kingdom first and have a clean concsiouis.
I am Ward.....

What (((not))) to say on your first date!!!!!

1. You're wearing that?
2. Something smells funny.
3. Where's the Tylenol?
4. And to think, I first wanted to date your sister.
5. I have a confession to make…
6. My mom has a dress just like that.
7. That lady is hot. Look at her.
8. My ex, I had to kill her!
9. You're going to order that? Really?
10. You're how old?”

I AM WARD!!!!