She said "No man should ever wear skinny jeans"....A journey in men's fashion!

Unless you have been living in a cave or don't have a television set, then I am sure you are well aware of the paradigm shift in men fashion. When you think about it, back in cave man days, clothes were strickly for warmth and that had a lot to do with how good of a hunter you were. I know personally I suck at hunting and more than likely I would have been wearing a rabbit fur covering, but I assure you it that it would have looked good on me!
Well, it obvious that we now wear clothes as an outward expression of who we really are. I must admit, that of all the new things I see men wearing, I sometimes have to raise my eyebrow and smile. In fact, I heard a woman say, "No man should ever wear skinny jeans". I respect her opinion and actually see her point, but then again, society often changes to what is acceptable and what is not every few years! For example, Elvis married his wife when she was 14 years old: Can't do that now can you? Back in the day we didn't have to wear seat belts in the past, but now its a $50 ticket. Rap music was hot with Rappers Delight, but now Soldier Boy got rich off garbage. LL COOL J learned to adapt his music style to keep being relevant, still I can't judge the trends I only accept things. We gotta roll with what is in, not necessarily embracing it but not fighting it so much. At the end of the day, we can dress, think and act like how we want to regardless of what others do!
Look at the posted pics above! Its Klear that the next generation are doing it their way. I find it more amazing how bothered others are that people don't dress like they think they should! This great country was founded on freedom expression wasn't it? I know change is hard for many of us lol! Still I know we will be alright! Excuse me while I go on the Internet and order me some skinny jeans!

I am Ward.....

It has said in Wisdumb many times, but seldom realized for the depth in which the words are spoken. So let me repost this for those who require a refresher!!!!




“Negro, never mind what “”they”” were saying negatively about me, the real question is, “Why did “”they”” feel so comfortable tell you”?

I am WarD………..

Toxic Relationship Advice.....911

They say it's hard out here for a pimp or was that just a song? Any-who, when it comes to love, who got time for all that time wasting and indecisiveness? I mean who wants to be drug down in the mud or drug over the coals in the so called game of love? Its especially hard once you find him/her- only to find out that person who is supposed to be the love of your life, is actually the person disrespecting you and giving you little to no support at all!!!
My mama use say, anyone can do bad by themselves! She was referring to no good partners out there,) and there is plenty of them out here for the choosing)! Ironically, many people (mainly women) who say they don't want no scrubbb, but I don't see to many in actual bad situations doing anything to change it! It is one thing to recognize the negativity,senselessness, cheating, abuse and often unhappiness that come from being involved with the wrong dang person, but its something very different situation when you take charge and make positive changes in your own freakin lives!!!! Wardy just can't understand why so many people allow so much pain and heart ache in your situation and world. WTF????
If I didn't know better, I would think that women are determined to go through some type of drama when it comes to their love lives. Many times women put in a lot of time and energy into a wrong man for the sake of having the privilege of saying "I got a Man"! You sometimes get so freakin caught up in his craziness, that you never seem to make happiness and contentment part of YOUR own mantra! Heck, some even begin to accept his craziness as the new normal or something you deserve? Really people????
Peep game, we all know that brutha who ain't all about the right, but still you hang in there, don't you! (YOU KNOW WHO U ARE) Several years go by and he will be still blowing your coins, while not being totally honest and you are a looking like the NEW FOOL- if you think he has your interest at heart, {{but I understand if you do sister girl!}} On rare occasions, your man's mama will drop some science on you and say her son ain't no good for you, if she really likes you! This should be your sign to*** RUN FOREST RUN***, but we know you're special and you "da only 1 who can change him N2 what GOD hasn't done yet"!! What do you do then? Of course U go on compromising your morals, integrity and self respect because you are afraid of being alone, looking stupid or dealing with a touch of low self esteem. Fear not my interested reader, Wardy got some simple advice: First off, Grown women very well know that the only changing of a man that you can do.... is to change your choice of men and not the men individually!!! I mean how are you gonna let a good man find you if you are busy trying to work with a bad apple??? If a man ain't got his ish 2 gether when you meet him and he trying to swim, "Don't Save Him Cuz He don't want 2 be saved (sing it with me). Let the brutha drown........
I find 3 reasons why women stay with this crazy type of relationship. 1). They got kids 2) finances 3) Loneliness. These are understandable things but so is having a baby with no insurance but somehow it gets done suckers..
What about the women who get the dude who finally starts talking about marriage, but only after he gets his $$$ right! I so disagree with this because if you know this is the woman you can't live with out, why not stand right before GOD and your family and have a simple wedding  (something in your budget) and move forward. Consider this, you need a car and you want a new Mercedes but you work at Wendy's. It might behoove you to get a hooptie and move up to fry manager and then think about a better car later! O.k., say you foolishly agree to live with your mane until he get his weight up ($$$), but then you may realize that he starts to get comfortable with marriage like benefits with the option to string this thing out until her gets tired of you, meet somebody new or just leave. I have a home girl who dated a man for 16 years only to have him leave her and marry his new flame in 88 days-Real Talk! See when you play the living together before marriage game, you run the risk of "not being new no more". You won't get no flowers no more, you won't get trips to lunch and you definitely can't play the with holding SEX game because you know your best SINGLE friend like him anyway.
O.k, let me wrap this blog up like this. If a woman wants a good relationship with the man who is worth her, she has to value her self and show it. Walk with confidence, be open about your needs and be able to bring something to the table that he wants and by all means....be the woman of God that is a loving support partner that the man won't leave your T-Bone steak to go to Burger King even if he can have it his way. Its your choice about how you handle your business, but keep in mind, we see you and if we don't say it, we calling you stupid behind your back. I am just saying...........
I am Ward......

She got all the questions, but I got all the answers.......

Today I asked my friend if she could make the decision of her being a man or a woman, which she would choose. I admit, eye was thinking the obvious answer would be to say "being a man"! Who wouldn't want to be a man!!! No cycles to deal with, not ever getting pregnant (unless you that one crazy dude that had a sex change) nobody knowing how big your boobs are, not getting shafting at the car dealers, o.k. with getting our hair wet, not crying, not getting emotional, phone conversations over in 30 seconds or less, shorter bathroom lines, can pack for a week in one small suit case, keep your last name, don't look thru yo man's pants or receipts,can get dressed in 10 minutes and same work more money? Whhheeeewww, sorry I got caught up-lol

Anyway back to my hommie, do you know she missed the obvious and choose being a woman!!! I bout feel off my chair! Talking about women has advantages that men don't have. I had to actually think about that for a minute? Could she really be telling the truth? Is it really all that being a female? Naaaah, I just can't see it my nizzle! So I did some research on what advantage women over men and surprisingly I found out this: Life expectancy is longer, don't sweat as much, don't go bald, ok to be small, love to dance in public, know how to look without staring, don't grow hair in strange places and can blame man if you get pregnant. Humm, I never thought about it like that, but I still wouldn't trade places lol! Heck, the title of this here blog says: She got all the questions, but I got all the answers for a reason. See its well-known fact that women use more words than men, because they always trying to catch a brother slipping by playing inch high private eye! "Where you been, who was all there, what time did you leave to get there, did you see any cute chicks". All the brother gotta do is say, I had a terrible time or it wasn't me, but keep in mind, the woman thinks she smarter and will make mental notes that can and (((will))) be used against you in a future argument lol! Before I end this blog eye must drop this free advice 2 the women: stop talking so darn much already and men get smarter and spend time with your lady and talk her to death before she start bugging ya with all her questions.

I am Ward.......

    

So you took your cheater back and you feeling stoooopid now!

Some people believe that if you truly love a person you would never cheat on them. I disagree, because that belief dictates that emotion is what drives people to cheat or remain faithful. In reality, there is far more logic involved in(((( not)))) cheating than emotion. I know, everybody tells me I am to logical, but I can only be me-right? I think we can all agree that Love is an emotion. Given the large number of people that cheat on their loved ones each and every day of the week, it is klearly not enough to stop people from cheating. That’s where logic comes into play. Love might keep you in a relationship, but it’s logic that keeps you from straying, especially when you believe you won’t get caught! Someone told me recently that men are as faithful as their options. This is only somewhat tru. Most men have options. Honestly, being in a relationship might increase a man’s options considering there are a certain group of women that like to go after committed men – but that’s another blog for another day. *Not all women who date married men are bad people, I think they understand the situation and are willing to ride out for the love they feel, as married women do for their side piece.
Most unfaithful men aren’t seeking out an additional relationship. In fact, most men aren’t even looking to replace or give up the relationship they already have. Unfaithful men are generally only seeking to satisfy physical needs. There is a smaller group of men who are looking for a woman to satisfy something they’re not getting at home – usually something ego based – but even these men are rarely looking to leave the woman they’re with. I like to call this 1 unhappily happy in life. Maybe its something that just happens and the other woman likes you because you fit her needs and she doesn't want anything more at that moment.
In 9 out of 10 cases, men aren’t looking to replace the woman they already have. The exception would be if he meets another woman that clearly supersedes the woman he is already with. This is rare for a few reasons: 1) if you’re already in a relationship, it’s difficult to get to know another woman beyond the physical; 2) the woman he is already with has a head start because he’s familiar with her in his life; and 3) the only thing more amazing than how long some women will stay with an unfaithful man is how long a side-woman is willing to remain in the side-woman role. Love is a powerful thang!
So the question is should you take them back? Well if you did, chances are: you already know what to expect and the only one who is gonna be surprised either way is ""YOU"". I been on both sides of this fence and all I can say is be honest and play ur role, what ever that is!

I am WARd.......

Future single women and the men they drive away.............

Every man has his own list of what feels disrespectful and respectful to him.  Some things are almost universally one way or the other to almost all men.  Some things are particular to your dude.  So – what matters most is what is respectful and disrespectful to YOUR man. That’s why it is important to ask him about his preferences and what bothers him and what speaks respect to him.  When things are not tense – you could ask him about some of the things on yo' list and get his take on the different items.  I wouldn’t ask him about all of them at once – but maybe ask about a few at a time every few days or so and REALLY pay attention to his answers.  Maybe print them out and check the ones that bother him so that you don’t forget. 
It seems to me that when couples begin their relationships: the men usually starts out thinking how much he loves this new woman he has found and hopes she never EVER- EVER changes (sadly she changes!!!!) The women generally enters the relationship thinking the man who she has "allowed" to find her is almost perfect (after she makes a few major changes to him). Nevertheless, society is often telling saying how the man is suppose make his woman happy because if MAMA ain't happy, nobody in the house is gonna be happy! KLEARLY, I don't subscribe to that school of thought, because I believe the man is the head of the house and has the responsibility to make good decisions for the family or answer to God! (1Timothy 5:8)
O.k., let's just name a few things that women do to make their dude feels less than loved or have him considering seriously leaving yall dusty butt!

• asking him to do something, then doing it ya dang self before he has a chance
• lack of attention/appreciation (saying things that don't make sense or really considered)
• too much help (We are not helpless)
• criticism
• interruptions (Let the brutha finish a sentence)
• not really listening (He has to routinely repeat him self several times)
• second guessing/lack of confidence
• being too busy to spend time with him – texting, computer,on the phone
• complaining (work, traffic, ex's,life and customer service)
• speaking negatively of him 
• scowling (twisted kiki shepard faces)
• body language – arms crossed, a look of condemnation
• answering for him (he is a grown Man)
• telling him what to do (Why didn't you do this or that sucka)
• lying then saying that is not what you meant its just what you said and expect men to know the difference??????

Someone asked me why men cheat? I think at the end of the day, men just want a happy home with a solider on his team, but due to imperfections of human kind, it doesn't all ways happen. But after time, men just get tired of having to fight the world of work, racism, injustice and life in general- to have a so called partner on his team finishing off what the rest of the other forces couldn't finish. Then along comes someone who listens to him, has things in common with him, sings songs with him, talks to him for hours about nothing and gets to know him. Then you (his Woman) are like how did this happen??? Wouldn't it be nice if the woman could be a support partner like the Bible out lined. I know women will say, but what about men treating the women like a queen and supporting her and making her feel special??? I agree with that, but my point is this: For women, treat your man how he wants to be treated and do your part and let God finish the rest. If you ain't married to this sucka then walk away if you are unhappy. Men if she ain't the one, do yourself a favor and get what you want now because as we know.....women are krazy and Men ain't make em dat way....

 I am Ward.....

If you want an amazing lover, they won’t come to you so easy,


If your lover was easy, they would not be amazing.

If your lover is worth it, you would not give up so easy,

If you gave up on your lover, you are not worthy.

It boils down to diss, everybody (and eye do mean all) is going to get hurt by love!!

You just have to find the right person who is worth suffering 4! Ya digggg???



I AM WaRd………..