If you've ever felt jealousy gripping you - I mean really gripping you - you'll know exactly what I mean. Your heart thumps against your chest, your breath seems to rasp in your throat as you gasp for air, and your emotions seem to ricochet between crazy rage and psychotic panic. Not only can jealousy suck your self-esteem right out from under your nose, it can seemingly rob you of any capacity to function normally at all. Jealousy has the capacity to break up relationships and families and destroy careers with the quickness.
For many women jealousy has become a dominant emotion that afflicts them like a disease. They feel no power or control when an "attack" overwhelms them. Heck, I cant tell you how many jealous women I know in my life already, all of em have seem justified in their thinking 2! I am all for that too, cuz if you gonna do something-give it 100%. Be str8ght up full on crazy.....
One of the most interesting things about jealousy is that it appears to be becoming more and more prevalent in our lives. But, even though it can act a little like a disease, it is not one. You cannot catch it from someone else. So just why is jealousy more prevalent among us than ever before? That is the question?
The women of today have options and choices they did not have in the past. You know that stay at home wife, who cooked dinner by the time dude got home 2 his clean house, washed dog and kids sitting in the kitchen eating cookies and drinking milk- smiling cuz they homework is done. Humm....just ain't like that no more right.....that darn t.v. helped messed that up for us good guys.
Even women who may be appalled by Sex and the City can recognize that they can largely choose the terms of their romantic relationships. They can choose with whom and for how long. They can choose a career, or kids, or both. They can choose to go for it all.
So what I began to wonder is-why all the jealous people act like that with so many freaking new options. I mean, many women snoop thru dudes clothes, check his wallet, smell his under rooz and dare eye say read his cell phone bill????
This simple truth holds a magical power to rescue you from the vicious grip of jealousy. But you must work hard to tap into this power - you will not feel it by simply reading the words.
You will also need to man up or woman up-lol. Women who believe they cannot cope with the possibility of losing tend to be the ones who get jealous. Jealousy tugs at yall weave and you when you feel afraid that you are about to lose something that you already have, or something to which you believe you are entitled.
What happens when you feel jealous? How do your emotions make you behave? You become less likeable, more unreasonably demanding, less trusting, less objective - in fact that last part of jealousy is "LOUSY" and misery loves company. The Bible even says that love is not jealous at 1 Corinthians 13:4. Don't get it twisted cuz there is natural jealously and not wanting someone to check your piece out or something but what I am talking about is that girl who call Human Resources at your job daily to make sure you really at work (true stuff).
I could run long on this blog but I will stop soon because I have accepted that people are not gonna do what they feel is right and deal with the consequences. People smoke cigarettes and know it will eventually kill them, people drink and drive home from the club and all the unprotected sex leading to all kinds of kids and diseases but we all have our choices and consequences don't we? If you love your dude, sit down and express your concerns and tell him what you need to make you feel comfortable in the relationship. He may not like it but he will respect you. I understand that sometimes that sometimes trust is broken in a relationship but if want to salvage the relationship, then you gotta learn to let go and learn to do what God does everyday. Forgive suckers.....
I am wARd......
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