Without a doubt there are men who avoid committing their heart, their time and their money to you. And there are men that love the woman they are with dearly but getting to 'I do' and feeling comfortable about it takes a lot. And it's these commitment fears that stop him from committing to you -- but you can make it easier for him?
Some men will allow their commitment fears to get the better of them but once you know what they are it's your mission to do what you can to alleviate those fears. Here are their fears in brief.
Commitment fear 1
I want to always feel good with her
The woman who this guy has decided to give his heart to has to be able to make him feel good for ever. Now I know this is a bit of a stretch, but if you can reassure him through how you make him feel now, that his good feelings will last, then you will make him feel more secure in you as his potential wife.
So for instance if you make it your duty to always make him feel loved and cared for no matter how stressful your day then he will want to marry you and not let any other guy have you.
Commitment fear 2
Do I really only want to be with her or am I worried that I'll lose her and have someone worse?
Some men just don't know whether they want you because they want you or because they don't want not to have someone- if you see what I mean. Yes I know this is usually attributed to women, but men feel as insecure in relationships as women do- they just hide it better.
So, show him in what you do with and for him everyday that he actually wants you and not anyone else.
Commitment fear 3
Can she keep me occupied physically so I don't feel I'm missing out on other women?
Affection to a man is like cuddling and true deep intimacy for a woman. For men it's how they connect to a woman at a deep level that is hard not to keep wanting more of.
Let that sucka know you are on his team and you are his- He won't leave a T-Bone steak even if he could go to Burger Kang and get it his way......
Commitment fear 4
How do I know for sure that she's the one?
Men just like women are looking for the one. They want to settle down as much as we do and live a life of passion and fun with a woman, but if he's not sure if you're the one, then he's going to have a hard time committing to you.
It take longer for a man to know this than for a woman. So you have to show him in your behavior consistently over time that he has never met anyone like you before and never will.
Commitment fears are not just for men, women feel them too, but knowing what goes on in a guy's mind can help you do something to show him that he has nothing to fear by committing to you.
I am Ward......
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