As a parent, sometimes it seems like your day is filled with an endless stream of backtalk from your kids—you hear it when you ask them to do chores, when you tell them it’s time to stop watching TV, and when you lay down rules they don’t like. It’s one of the most frustrating and exhausting things that we deal with as parents. The ironic thing is that we must handle these situations uniquely because no two are the same. Nonetheless, it has to be dealt with quickly to be effective in my opinion.
I am no parenting expert by any stretch of the imagination, but I can say that I have worked with young people for the past several years and one thing that I know that- eye know, is it is easier to lighten up (Be nicer to people) than it is to tighten up (Get hard and put rules down) later. The young people may not like everything you say or do, but they will respect you. We all have to decide which is more important to us, even if it means telling them the truth about your past. If you smoked or drank, tell them. Also tell them that you won't let them do it on your watch because it was wrong then, and wrong now!!!! It may cause you some discomfort or embarrassment, but that's why you are the parent-You can handle it sucka!
When it comes to my own kids, I enjoy joking with them and teaching them new things, but I am confident that they know how I am and talking back is not a good choice. I completely understand that teenagers are growing into young adults and want to stretch out a little bit, but talking crazy to the parent is not going to prepare you for the real world. Then again, some people just gotta find out the hard way what happens when you talk side ways to your boss, the police or what ever your goal for that instance is! Then guess who society will look to blame? Yelp you guessed it, they gonna blame the parent. Really, it is necessary to take the blame game because having kids are not only gifts from God, but a huge responsibility that successful parents learn to do well.
Teens may look like mature and men and women but they don't always have the experience and knowledge that older people can impart, but the communication gap, the lack of respect and influence of the world is making child rearing dang near a headache for some!
This is Wardy suggests= 1.Realize that you are not your child's friend, what you say goes or they can feel free to get out of your cribb & do life their own way. 2. you don't have to have a debate with your kid once you give your decision. Sure you can have discussion, but once its final, its final. (how often do you argue with your own boss). 3.Set well defined rules and expectations and enforce them. If you get wishy-washy now, don't expect to see good results! 4.Make time to talk to your kids about whats important to them and have a regular dialogue, you may be surprised at what they share once they realize you care about their needs. 5. Lead by example. Let your kids see you reading and applying the Bible in your life and watch your own tone and smart Alec comments to them and others. 6. Be firm yet tactful. Respect the child but also make it clear you are in charge.
So in closing, I just find it so discomforting to see parents who allow their kids to run their lives when the kids have not lived in the real world. Parents don't ever have to raise their voices or hit their kids to make a point. You just have to be a parent! Just as sure as you are reading my blog, I am not yelling at your or talking sideways, yet you hear me loud and clear. Please, if you are a parent, love your kids enough to be the best parent they can have and deserve, because if you don't the streets is really to do your job if you can't handle it.
I am ward.........
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