If you knew better U dew better....

Today was cool- mainly because I got a lot of things accomplished that I really needed to get done. I took some items back to Menard's that I purchased a year ago and lost the receipt and got a new kitchen faucet (I had really been eye balling)! Yeah I am a square-lol! I then paid all my bills for the Month of December over the Internet in about 1 hour flat. Hated doing it, but at least its done-right? Since eye am always buying used cars, I had to invest some repair coins into my new project ride to get it running tip top- so I took it to my manz and he gonna have it done in a few days. After that, I met with my sum of my Home boyz for lunch over at Lincoln Square on 56Th and Emerson. It was good to catch up with them and reflect on what life has taught us and what we are gonna do with this new knowledge. Hummm

Anyway, as I drove home to meet the kids at the bus stop, I was thinking about how much people claim to love their fellow man and had to chuckle to myself cuz I really believe that is some bull shigitty! For example, I heard some people protesting those pay day loans companies! The argument was about how much interest they charge these innocent citizens. At first, eye was like yeah they are right, then my hood reality logic kicked the freak in! Those pay day loans places exist because the need for assiatance exist for some people. I mean would you want to eat some high priced food rather then have nothing to eat at all? So what if the interest is hi! The important thing is that you aren't doing something silly like robbing people or stealing from WalMart. I began to realize that the protesters of the pay day loans companies are not patrons. They probably mad cause they are getting none of the profit $$$.

Next topic that I thought considered was the super Christians that are all over Facebook. I can't tell you how many times I have heard someone give their testimony of how much they love God, yet they don't even know he has a name. Don't get it twisted, I think its wonderful to have a healthy spiritual relationship, but at what point to you start to walk by faith and not by sight? I mean if you are a good person you don't have to tell everyone you meet that you are such a quality individual. Your actions would speak volumes- would it not? I believe in the Bible these ones were call Pharisees!!!! Its really funny sometimes because some of the christian facebookers have nothing else to talk about-lol! Heck, even Jesus went to a wedding feast and turned water into wine! I wonder when these folk are gonna get off the face-bookers and into life and spreading the good news before its too late?
I am Ward...

Even with a black President.......we Ain't rEaDy.....

I think I finally get it. Humans in general, can not be satisfied no matter what happens or whats given to us. I say this because as I sat back and reflected on this week that has just gone past, I found my self pensive and shaking my head in slight agitation and amazement! Peep this......
*I read how this football player blamed God for "him" having a bad game?
*The black lady who said on national t.v. that she is tired of making excuses to her white friends for Obama lost her job and now supports Obama??
*A friend's car got hit and instead of being happy no one got hurt she beat the lady up who hit her car???
*A black business owner tried to swindle innocent clients out of stimulus money and got caught!
*I have family members who argue on Facebook and think its ok!
*I saw grown men reduced to children like bickering over a game of basketball.
*I witnessed people who think that God favors them over his other millions of children.
*I read how some white people feel that blacks get to much special treatment.
*I read how some black people wish they were white.
*I see parents who do not know how to communicate with their own grown kids and the kids don't even care!
*I saw work-a-holics who don't get that life has even passed them by.
*I learned that I need to stop procrastinating, but I will stop next week!
*Brandy was booted off Dancing with the stars while Sarah Palin's shorty moved on..need I say more on that?
*Most people the turn off the majority of people in their lives, don't even realize that the offended ones are slowing moving out of their circle.

Yeah its been a long week but still I learn a powerful lesson from it all........If some 1 shows you who they are...........BELIEVE THEM....
i AM wArD.....

a few advantages of being a female and male.....

Male advantages
*Phone conversations are over in 3 minutes flat
*A 5 day vacation requires only 1 suit case
*Your underwear is $10 for a pack of four
*The garage is all yours
*Three pair of shoes are more than enough
*U can whip your shirt off on a hot day-OUTSIDE
*If guys don't call another guy when we say we are, we don't think the other has changed
*New shoes do "not" blister or hurt our feet.
*We don't accuse the other of lying with no proof or reasons

Female advantages

*Women out live me (cuz ya nagg us to death)
*Free drinks, dinners and movies (unfair)
*Females can hug your girlfriends w/o wondering if she is gay
*Women don't fart to amuse your self (U just secretly let it out and blame the dog)
*Women know how to dress themselves and men too
*Women fully assess a man just by looking at his shoes
*Women have enough sense to realize that the easiest way to get out of being lost is to ask for directions
*The ability to know everything but can be scard of a spider

I am Ward suckers.......

How could you know how my pain feelz sucka???

Today I was sitting here listening to Cyndi Lauper singing true colors and really listened to the words. I definitely appreciated how she said this world can make you crazy and how your true colors are beautiful like a rainbow. With that being said, I thought about how painful death is to all of us. I lost my Mom to it, perhaps you lost your daughter or even your grand parents. This harsh reality has roots grounded for all us is differently. No two people grieve the same way, nor should they. Still I wanted to put some coping advice out that helps me and I hope that maybe it may reach you or someone you may know as well.

Some times death can happen suddenly and at other times, you may have dealt with long illnesses and both are factors that affect reaction. I learned this view to be true to me-Repressing your feelings can be harmful both physically and emotionally. Its far healthier 2 release your grief. Check out Wardy suggestions below suckers.
1). Talk about your feelings to a true companion who will listen patiently and sympathetically. This is a start, but not an end all. Just let them words flow..
2. Accept its o.k. to grieve. Give way to tears and let the lump go down your throat. you don't have to make excuses for crying in front of someone. Shoot they know how much that loved one meant to you! Sometimes, tears may just start to flow unexpectedly, but don't let that slow your healing down, the Bible says Jesus gave way to tears on occasion too!
3. Stop/Don't blame your self for not doing something different. Perhaps you feel u shouldn't have let your loved one go on the faithful trip, or maybe you should have had a different physician or what ever? Realize that no matter how much we love another person, we cannot control his/her life, nor can we prevent time and unforeseen occurrences form happening to any of us. Besides, no doubt your motives were not bad. You didn't intend to cause harm. You did what you felt was the right decision and acted accordingly.
4. Learn to deal with your anger positively. You may want to blame the police, the lawyer, the system or the Doctor's office, but after talking to a friend, try vigorous exercises when you get angry as a helpful release. Its o.k. to be upset, but not o.k. to act foolish-ya feelz me?
5. Throw your burdens on our heavenly Father and allow him to sustain you! This isn't easy but well worth the effort. Heck he created the universe, I am sure he can deal with your issues-lol!
6. I found it comforting to learn that one day soon, there will be no more death and sadness. The feelings of death pains will soon be forgotten. I look 4ward to day. I know with my experience I felt so helpless and lost. Its a terrible feeling that I wish on no man.
7. Remember you are gonna have good days and some not so good days. Just laugh when you can, cry when you must and pray during the other times. You will get through this cuz you come to far to turn back now.

To those of you who lost onez in I am truly sorry for you misfortune. I won't say I know how you feel, but I hope these suggestions are of some comfort and maybe help.
I am Ward....

Why Ward Thinks Relationships end......

During a recent conversation I was asked about a couple that has issues relating to each other. I thought about it and immediately knew that if this couple in question doesn't get it together and get it together fast- it might spell doom! Like you, I have had my share of strange and questionable relationships and it seems to be the same common thread among all of them that is similar to other couples. This is some reasons I feel relationships end.......

1. Old Fears Surface.

It's to be expected that being in an intimate relationship will inevitable bring up fears and challenges from the past. These might include fearing not being good enough, attractive enough etc. If fears are not expected, looked at and healed, they interfere in some way or another with the health of every relationship. Take some time to notice when the fears surface, be loving with yourself but look inward instead of outward blaming your partner for what clearly is "YOUR" issue.

Ask yourself if your fears are "true" or are you just making "stories" up in your head. If you are creating those "stories" and there's no basis of truth to them, then change your thinking. It's not always easy to do and it takes moment by moment monitoring of your thoughts. If you need help and support to make the changes you want in your life,then go to a dang head doctor and quit driving us crazy along with you.....
You may not have healed your broken heart from past relationships that ended and you find it very difficult to trust your current partner or open your heart completely to him or her. We suggest that you stop living from the hurt of those past relationships and bring yourself into the present moment, without continuing the "stories" of the past. Commit to starting over, allowing your fears to be there but reminding yourself that this is a new day. (Yes you know who you are).

2. Not Feeling Understood, Valued, Loved and Appreciated.
Everyone wants to feel understood, valued, loved and appreciated and when we're not, we tend to either withdraw or attack the other person for not meeting our needs. If you want to be appreciated, start appreciating the other people in your life. Sounds basic but it really works!

If you are not feeling loved, start being open to seeing and feeling love and appreciation that people are giving you that you may not be aware of in your daily life. It may be that someone allows you to go ahead of them in traffic or ask you out to lunch! Just take your freaking wall of doubt down for a while...geesh!

3. Not Making their Relationship a Priority.
Many couples take each other for granted and don't give their relationship the attention it needs most of the time. The lack of closeness and connection can be overwhelming and can cause great loneliness. Make your relationship a priority in your life. Set aside time everyday to connect with your partner.

Wardy believes that intimacy happens long before the bedroom. It starts all day long when you have thoughts about your partner--Are these thoughts positive or negative? It continues when you come together--Are you happy to see each other and express love and appreciation or do you great each other with a laundry list of chores, things to be done or grievances? This isn't loving...trust me bruh!

4. One or Both People are Made to Feel They are "Wrong."
I learned that 1 of the biggest mistakes people make is that they make each other wrong. As soon as critical words are said, defenses and walls go up and suddenly that person who you love and they love you becomes an "enemy."

Before you jump into blaming and judging your partner (I call it tit for tat), stop and take a moment to breathe. Ask yourself if making your partner wrong will drive you further apart or move you closer together (that was deep). Open your heart to understanding the dynamics of what's going on between the two of you. Understand the full story before you start making someone wrong. So often we assume to know what is in someone's heart and we really don't. For example calling someone a liar is similar to slapping someone across the face says "Oprah".....

5. Not healing your heart after a previous relationship breakup
Many people go from relationship to relationship without truly healing their hearts. They never discover what went wrong in their previous relationship and what they could have done differently. They keep repeating the same mistakes over and over again and always expect a different outcome which is the definition of insanity! How many times have you seen the girl/guy date the same womanizer, abuser or crack head?

Wardy suggest that you take the time to heal your broken heart and your attachment to being a victim, in being right or whatever holds you to a previous relationship. Spend some energy in taking responsibility for what happened, forgiving yourself and your previous partner, and deciding what you want to change in YOUR FreAKING life.

I am unsure if this information applies to your directly but then again you proably still stuck in the cycle that I call da "circle"-- so it is what it is.......

I am Ward..........

What men want in a woman.....according to Wardy

I was thinking about the high divorce rate and wanted to know why people are attracted then suddenly not! I did research and came up with the following reasons that men are attracted to women!
Soft heartedness - Men are more likely to fall in love with a woman who is soft, or warm, hearted, than a woman who is cold and always ready to challenge you or quick to be tit for tat. Guys love to be respected (not nagged but cared for), and so they tend to fall for a woman who offers them acceptance and warmth. This would have to be the trait that men find most attractive in women. I am not saying the woman has to be a push over, rather a compliment of the man.....

Modesty - Men fall in love with the "modest" girls, and lust after the "hot" ones. Modesty in behavior, dressing and talking is what men look for in their "long-term" partner. Though guys find "hot" women attractive, it's mostly physical in nature and they lose interest after a few passionate encounters in the bed. There is also a common consent among men that "hot" women are less reliable, and high maintenance. In short, men love women who they can take home to their mother ya heard me?

Being Feminine - "Most Men" like feminine women. Feminity is all about being soft, kind hearted, understanding and caring. This attraction is justified by the fact that men are attracted to traits in a woman which they themselves lack 4 the most part. I found that women who dress with clothes that "pop" are so attractive to me. Men like the woman to do this with out us telling them to dress nice!

Character - Men are attracted to a woman who projects a strength of character and integrity. Men are desire women whom they trust to be loving and faithful when he is present or absent! Once men feel their women are community property, he will never look at her the same and will definitely part in the future!

The Woman's voice - Women are naturally endowed with a beautiful voice which men find highly attractive. Some men love a strong voice in a woman, some prefer a soft tone, with a high pitch. Some women have a husky voice and many guys find that attractive after they accept it-lol!

Her Smile - A smile can easily win over a male heart. If, as a girl, you are prone to having a smiling face you are more likely to be approached by guys than when you have a smug, or frowning, face.

Her Eyes - Next to the smile, this is another facial feature that men get attracted to. Some men simply fall in love with the woman's eyes. The eyes can speak a thousand words and this is very much true with it comes to attracting men, don't confuse this with the women who are pretending to be shy-lol!

The Woman's Hair - Most men get attracted by moderately long hair or anything close to shoulder length as that looks more feminine. Who wants a lady that goes to the barber shop with them? Long hair is a must suckers...and roller set them joints too!

Physical Structure - As far as physical features are concerned, men get attracted to a woman's skin tone, lips, height and waist-to-hip ratio. Men are not as focused on weight as women are. Men tend to like a women who is confident in her own skin and willing to share it with her dude as needed!

Sense Of Humor - Men generally get attracted to women with a good sense of humor. A Woman who can understand and laugh with them. Sense of humor is not necessarily the ability to crack jokes but the ability to understand and laugh at one. As a funny person, I am always thinking of jokes, so you gotz to be a ride or die with my jokes!

Confidence - Last but not the least, men get attracted towards women who make them feel comfortable and confident by being the same way in this aspect. Woman who supports them and the one with whom he feels relaxed and open will be most desired. Some women want to show the man how smart they are by reminding him of mistakes he has made in the past or by her superior knowledge on nothingness-lol!

So these traits that men find attractive in women are just my views, but again, every man has his unique taste. The above points are common to most men but not for all. Peep game: a man may look for and get attracted to such qualities in a woman that he lacks himself. A logical dude may want an emotional thinker to balance his views and A hard dude may want soft woman to balance him. Ya feels me. Da real question is where do you fit in sucka?
I am Ward.....

Every one has a twinnn......except for me.........

I am (twinless) Ward....

Why is it so cold outside?

Everybody thought I was so happy at work today. They just didn't realize that when I was smiling went I first went outside- it stuck! I mean the smile was frozen on my face until I unthawed-lol!!!! Note to self: Do not think of funny material when about to meet up with Jack Frost......

I am Frozen Ward....

U mm McDonald's is always hiring......

At the age of 23, Tia Thomson already had four children. Since she was living on welfare, we're guessing there was no father(s) to help her out. Matters got worse when Alabama recently informed her that her welfare benefits were about to end...

So Thompson decided to put an end to herself -- and two of her children. She got into her car with her 3 and 4-year-old kids, failed to buckle them into their car seats, then purposely drove the car into a utility pole.

We're guessing she wasn't going that fast, or perhaps she just sucks at suicide and the art of killing children. The kids were treated for minor injuries and given to their grandparents. But it looks like mom will now be enjoying a new kind of welfare -- the variety dispensed by the Alabama penal system, which is not known for its generosity.

After the accident, Thompson admitted to that she purposely drove into the pole as a suicide attempt. She said she'd recently been given notice that her welfare benefits would end, and she couldn't afford to support her family.

There's no word on whether another alternative -- known as a "job" -- entered her thinking. Then again, it could be that no jobs are available in Montgomery these days. (Could you enlighten us on this, dearest readers from Alabama?)

Either way, the path she did choose has resulted in attempted murder charges for trying to kill her kids.

Tia Thompson was arrested Monday after driving her car into a power pole in an attempt to take her own life and that of two of her four children, ages three and four, Montgomery police investigators say.

Police found Thompson, 23, at the 1300 block of Woodley Road Monday. She is charged with two counts of attempted murder and has been taken to the Montgomery County Detention Facility with a bond of $200,000.

Thompson advised a Montgomery Police Department officer that she had intentionally hit the power pole while driving, police announced.

She and the children were taken to Jackson Hospital and treated for minor injuries.

Neither child was in a safety seat or had a seat belt fastened, according to MPD spokesman Capt. Ron Cook. Both children were treated and released to a grandparent, according to the Department of Human Resources.

Thompson told police she received notification that her welfare benefits were getting cut and was told she could no longer support herself or her children, according to the police report.
I am Ward

You may just be gheTTo.....

There is an alarming trend going on in black America. I almost hate to admit this reality is even amongst us, but hey, some body has got 2 say it, so why not let it be me. If you are standing up, I suggest that you have a seat because this information just may be about you. It seems that its a bunch of people out here who are extremely ghetto and they don't even know about it! I saw a crowd of young folk at McDonald's fighting over a McNugget-yes one nugget. The fight lasted about 20 minutes and a lot of people got hurt. Therefore, the blog had to be written. So to help you out, Wardy is gonna help you with some signs that you may be in the group! You might be ghetto if:


You put sugar on your frosted flakes


Your kids were in your wedding


You call your mama by her first name


You have a cell phone with no minutes- so you at the pay phone


You iron dirty clothes.


You've been a guest on Maury, or Jerry Springer.


You're nineteen and you just met your father.


You have a wife and kids but still live at home with your momma.


You chew ice.


You still wear anything that says "Whoop, there it is."


You have ever used terms such as "It's all good", "she's all that", "don't go there" etc.

Your mother did your hair in the kitchen.


You don't pay your rent until you get the three-day notice.


You put on panty-hose instead of shaving your legs.


You buy clothes for a party and return them to the store the next day.


Your first name begins with TA', La', or Sha'.


You took the batteries out of the smoke detector to put in your pager.


Your bank is a check-cashing place.


You have to put stuff on layway at the 99-cent store.


You think putting batteries in the refrigerator recharges them.


When you were little you had to be in the house before the streetlights came on.


You take bubble baths with diswashing liquid, shampoo, or liquid detergent.


You return gifts for money.


You save cooking grease.


The only dates marked on the calendar are the 1st and the 15th.


Your mama whipped you and your friends.


You keep food stamps in a money clip.


You wear tube socks with dress shoes.


You add water to shampoo to stretch it.


You put your kids to sleep with NyQuil or Dimetapp.


You use your welfare check as collateral.


You can read your haircut.


You bought your rims before you bought your car.


Your fingernails are longer than your fingers.


You think jury duty is a good way to make money.


You think going on a diet means no candy.


You have a drawer in your kitchen just for condiments from fast-food restaurants.

Turning up the heat means turning on a burner on the stove.


The batteries in your remote control are held with a piece of tape.


Something smells spoiled in the refrigerator, and all you do is change the box of Arm & Hammer Baking soda.


Your furniture is covered in plastic.


You run and get pots as soon as it rains.


The back of your toilet seat is always off.


You use vaseline for shoe polish.


You don't think you're clean unless there is visible baby powder on your neck and chest.


The heels on your feet look like you've been kicking flour.


You use black eye liner to line your lips.


You wear your shower cap everywhere but in the shower.


You've never been to the dentist.


You clean your ears with a bobby pin, key, or ink pen cap.


The only art you own is on your fingernails.


You never learned to swim because you couldn't get your hair wet.


Your child thinks his real name is "Lil' Man"


You have trouble spelling your children's names and you named them

You got angry when the government stopped the cheese program


You drive around on a donut, months after the flat happened.

There are more guest at the reception than at the wedding.


The majority of the flowers at the burial site are plastic and/or taken back the next day.


You take the bus to a club.


You ask perfect strangers to take a picture with you and tell people you dated them.


Your child drops his pacifier and you sanitize it by sucking on it.


You buy your stockings at the same place you do your grocery shopping.


You tell all your friends you are mixed with some other nationality, but the naps tell a different story.


You mixed up some kool-aid and realized you don't have sugar. Then you put the pitcher in the frige until you buy some.


If you ever use 'nem to describe a group of people (ex. Leroy and nem, or Jethro and nem)


You have relatives named Leroy and Jethro.


You ever left a social gathering with a plate.


You add "ED" or "T" to the end of words already in the past tense (ex. Tooked, Light-skinneded, kilt or killeded, ruint, )


You fell asleep in a chair so that you wouldn't mess up your new hairdo.

I am Ward.....