She said there ain't no good men left.....but I think she part of the problem......

Well let me state the obvious first on foremost.....I am a male and will write the blog from that perspective: with that being said, why the freak do women keep saying that their are not any good men. I heard the good ones are taken, married, in jail or gay! I find that a hard pill to swallow especially since I know so many single men who are looking for a woman. Funny thing is.... to a man, dating is like an employer looking for a talented employee! The position needs to be filled, but not just by anybody!
Think about it, if someone just wants a person to do what they say, when they say do it- they can easily get a puppy and train them and save themselves a whole lot of drama-lol! But in this year of love and extreme hate- we want..not we need an intelligent compliment! True, men are visual creatures, but we still need your mind right even if your body is tight! The days of the trophy wives are long gone, but that don't stop women from thinking that is all it takes (Kim Kardishian). Just today, I was speaking with a lady who said she is accepting that she will never get married again, even though she desires that again.s like huh??? So I asked her why did she break up with her last several men? She said that "All" the men in her past treated HER wrong, they yelled at her, cussed at her, lied to her and some even cheated on her. She said she just didn't deserve that type of treatment over and over again? Surprisingly, there are many women who can totally agree with this logic, but ya boi Wardy can't! I asked this woman, what does she think the dudes from her past would say why ((they)) parted or broke up with her from their perspective? She said they would say that she was great girl friend and lover that they mistreated and didn't realize it until it was too late. I knew then, she was/is the problem (and straight up KRAZEE). How can 7 different dudes all have the same negative trait to be mean to her or what ever! (Perhaps they were brothers)I then asked her if she ever asked the men what they needed from her and she did not answer? I thought to myself hummmmmm.
See, of the 12 women who share this same view, I happen to know this one particularly well. I know her to be very strong willed, the unique skillz to put together a string of complicated cuss words quickly and did I say she is jealous of other women who got they fitness down? I just can't understand why a woman with all these qualities is single-huh?
Enough on her, recall as I stated that dating is like looking for an employee? Well a woman who wants a good man has to be a good woman too right? 1st know thy self well, know what you strengths and weaknesses are and work on them- OFTEN! 2nd be healthy, eat right, get enough sleep and work out if you don't like something about your self. Don't no dude want no couch potatoe- who chain smokes and knows everything that happened yesterday on The Young and the Stupid! 3rd, Read relationship books like Men are from Mars and Women are Krazee and preferably the Bible (see Proverbs Chapter 31 first). Be open to a variety of new things and places. Don't go to the club and expect to find Jesus Jr! Go places that reflect your personality. Religious places of worship, home repair stores (that mean he got a house silly), sporting events etc. Its not rocket science people.
Of course the good men are already doing this same thing-right? I am gonna give you a little free secret today because I am in a good mood. Men love assertive women not dominant women!! Re-read that.... That means we like a woman who can support us by doing what we need either proactively or re-actively but not a know it all. We call them women single!! Some men are not worthy of a good women, but that don't stop yall from giving them the best that you got while further damaging yall for the good sucka- should he happen along.
All, I am saying is that- what ever you did yesterday to get a good man won't work today. Step your game up and do something new to get something permanent. I feel pity for the single women who are hopeless because you are standing in your own way and letting men play u like tissue paper----DISPOSABLE!!! Please keep in mind that the greatest of beauties like Hallie Berry and Nia Long have issues, so you ain't no exception. My advice to yall men hatars, is why you down on the ground complaining, at least learn to crawl while you down there cause you gonna be down there for a minute!
I am Ward...

Yeah She Krazee but Sucka I ain't!!!!!

Let's face it - sometimes we men think/know ALL women are crazy! The fact is - everyone is crazy sometimes. Yes - even you (maybe ESPECIALLY you - you be the judge). That is, everyone does things that others perceive as crazy. Many women seem to be particularly prone to acts of craziness. Beautiful women are even more so.

What makes beautiful women more likely to be crazy? The simple answer is, that they are given more opportunity to be crazy, and crazy behavior seems to be more readily accepted from them. That is, they learn crazy behavior and that they can get away with it. Further, we men often help them along by allowing (even encouraging) craziness in our relationships with them.

I guess at some point we just have to reach our point before a decision has to be made! Sure you have plenty of excitement and wild times, but at the end of the day, you can't deal with the craziness when you need your needs met. Do you know her friends, will she listen to you when its important, will be have deep respect for you and when she is tripping-will she be aware of it and be able to not only laugh at her self but also able to curb that action. Love is challenging from the jump but when time is involved its quite another animal indeed.

Someone once said "we can't pick who we fall in love with" but I say we can pick who we choose to stay and fight with! She knows he is afraid of Beez and he knows she is afraid to drive. He knows she knows him and she knows he knows her yet the crazyness has forced a wedge. Is it crazy for love or crazy for the sake of women? I don't know that answer but I do know that If I can't find my blue socks I will just eat the bacon off the floor!

I am Ward.......

Da MisEduKation of the Skool system.....a Ward perspective

I have been dealing with some form of instructing or educating youth for the past few years and one thing that I know for sure is that students learn best from educators who are passionate and care about their profession! With that being said please take a quick journey in my world about why I am stepping back from being an educator in the public school system in the future.
Many times students come home with what seems to be quite a bit of home work, and as a parent you may wonder how can one person have that much to do in a day? Sometimes, the students don't get around to learning- to many distractions and what not! Another sad fact is that most parents really don't get that involved in their children's school life until there is a problem at school. True-some parents didn't enjoy their school experience and dread going to check up on their kids progress because after `the teachers are suppose to educate the youth as a job right? Yes and No....When I am at these variety of school, I see the majority of students who follow directions and actually are ready to learn, but you always got them few demon seeds sprinkled in the classes to keep everybody off balance. In the Indianapolis Star Sunday, it was a great article about how this 5 year old kid comes to class and throws fits of range and even chairs! Ya see, in school we have no deterrent to curb these issues. I can't tell you how many times I have removed students from my class rooms only to have them return in less than 5 minutes with an office staff saying the trouble maker is sorry and ready to get on some "act right". Obviously, as u can you can guess, the kids return to what they do best....acting out.
I am sure its plenty of reasons why these young people have issues and I truly believe it starts at home. Consider that parents are younger now then when I was a youngster. Its not uncommon to see a grand mother at 32years old. They sometimes have attitudes and are not afraid to use them: especially when they are 100% sure that they child would not be a disruptive student. Can somebody please tell me why we out lawed paddling in class rooms?
In addition to the regular occurrence of students being rude, disrespectful and talking back- I find that those same ones are failing in school. If your kids grades are not looking good, then perhaps you might want 2 ask your self when was the last time you or your baby Daddy went to the school and surprised your kid, to be his or her deterrent, motivator and to show the teacher that you are a concerned parent. Do we need more black males in the schools? Well did we need a black man in the oval office???....enough said-lol!
So to the reason why I am stepping back. I decided that I am more useful as Counselor for the youth and those addicted to drugs. I enjoy helping and teaching others but the system I see on this level is BROKE.....I am sure all Bible readers know what really needs to be done, but in reality....most of the people are gonna keep on doing what they do best.....(u fill in the statement). Sometimes I feel sad when I see Teachers who are burnt out or just doing it for the money because the children are the future and if yall know what eye know.....then be afraid-VERY AFRAID
I am Ward......

Keeping it real MUndaze.....

Consider how hard it is to change yourself and you'll understand what little chance you have in trying to change others......

I am Ward

What Ward is Thinking today?

I don't know much about Jay Z-other than what "he" carefully allows the media to see or think about him.Kind of reminds me of me-lol! Anyway the thing that I do find intriguing about him would have to be how well he guards his life. He had a less than perfect young life, but heck who can't say that anymore! However, J (Sean Carter) isn't following the typical rapper route of jail and drug use or beating their women up or getting caught drunk driving?!?!? LOL, now that think about it, shouldn't that be the norm??
Jay has been successful at the rap game, the clothing game, shoe game, making money, selling out his tours and we know he got a 5 star chick (in check I might add). Dude seems to have his head on straight, but I am curious as to why he made moves that others rappers choose not to follow or attempt to implement . I am not trying to place one brotha above another, but TI, Gucci,Weezie and count less others have gone to jail for things that I just don't get. I can't front, if my rap career would have taken off when I was a kid, I may have went to jail my dang self.
This is what I learned from Jay. Reputation is what others think about you. The person they think and hope you are based on what you have allowed them to see of you. I mean I think Will Smith is cool. If I knew him, I am sure I would kick it with him, because we seem to be similar in many ways (not the gay stuff- I love women waaaay to much for that) but then again, I really don't know him. I only know of his reputation. On the other hand, we have integrity!! This is where the true person lies, ya know what you do when no one is looking! Do you take items that are not yours, do you lie to get ahead, would you cheat on test or would you get away with something if you were sure you would not get caught? Integrity is the ((realness)) of a person. I don't think one can fake integrity for any length of time because its a natural thing. That would be like a kid trying to run a major company with no help!
Take Me (Wardy) for example, I don't like to be lied to on any level. I know I am a responsible adult who deserves to be told the truth regardless of the consequences. So when I speak to people, I give it to you 100! I have no reason to lie to you and rightfully expect the same. Of course, it doesn't always go down like that, but at least its clear where I am coming from. So with that being said, I like the reputation of Jay z and I love my own integrity. So in the words of Capital 1...Whats in your wallet?
I am just thinking today.........
I be WaRdY

Life is all about adaptation

Losing a loved one in death is helpless pain that we all unfortunately must endure at some point in life! Sure we don't like to think about it but as certain as a pregnant lady will have to give birth to that monster growing insider her-keep on living and ye too shall feel the burn of pain 2!
Similarly, letting go of a loved one can be devastating as well. Sometimes we have to watch our young ones go off to college and feel that tense nervous fear of the unknown and sometimes we have to let go of a lover who has out grown us to allow them to stretch their proverbial wings. Whats around the corner you wonder? No one may know for sure, but life is like a picture, and once we get the chance- we have to take it or forever wonder what may have been!
Don't be fooled by the words, gestures and promises you or they may encounter! Most important are the actions shown, for they well the truth of a person. Wardy always sez, "If someone shows you who they are.....believe them"! Easier said then done-right. I am no exception to the rule. In my life, I have had my fair share of love and pain, but I grew and learned from it, or so eye like to think. I learned you can not color a thought, pick who want to fall in love with and you can not make anyone but your self-- do a darn thing!! I learned to be the best me that I can be and allow others to do the same. Life is short: and with that being said, we have to keep moving and allow the dead to bury their own. (Read the Bible for the thought-lol). The only way to get to point C is to continue forward movement from points A and B!
As parents, all we can do is impart knowledge and be good examples and allow the youngsters to have their shot at life's choices and opportunities. Life is all about adaptation in one form or another. But the real challange is being able to convince your ((self)) that you can and will keep on moving. Sometimes the pain of life can be so great that you dwell on the past. Its natural, but so is acceptance and progression. Embrace today, and dance like no one is watching, love like you have never been hurt and smile that kool-aide smile, because you know I will always love you......
I am Still WarD............