If the children are the future......then I don't want to see tomorrow

So I have been doing the teaching thing for a minute now and learn everyday that everyone has a different story about life with in their minds. Some have a great life with two parents, brothers and sisters and a dog and a cat! On the other hand some young people are the responsible people in their households. They get up early and get their siblings ready for the day with breakfast and clothes as best they can. Then rush off to school where they have not had time to properly prepare the previous nights home work.
They sometimes sleep in class and often times are not even paying attention when awake. It really seems like they don't know what to do but to follow this normal routine that is set before them. I see them as good kids, just searching for hope.
Even with all this going on, I am amazed at how many youths think that the world revolves around them only! They have to have the latest in fashion, like Ugg boots, name brand shirts and everything that their television idols wear. I honestly don't know how the parents of these kids can afford all these expensive items. Perhaps they are just gifts of remorse due to lack of time spent with the kids.
I enjoy teaching and see the benefits of myself and other positive educators fruits, but I really think that consistently is the key to continued success. I clearly understand that the young people don't know what we know about the future. They have no clue that jobs are hard to find and competition is stiff. We dang near gotta work harder then the kids do to get this point across.
All I know is that I am tired from working alot, but its a good tired-lol! I really want to acknowledged how important tires are to society. I had no ideal of what they/we go through. Wow is all I can say.....

Ward.

Long daze and short nites

I was thinking about how this economy has really affected many people and how many people are unaware that they are affected? Its really ironic when you think about it because the hand writing is on the wall.
I received a phone call from an old friend who said she was fired today because she refused to carry out her assigned duties when she was given extra work. I asked did she think she won the battle and she replied YES! I was surprised because now she is out of a job. I understand how people have to stand up for their rights, but would it behoove us all to have another job before getting another. I have been without a job before and it wasn't all peaches and cream. At first I was like what am I gonna do now. It took me a minute to realize that I am the Ward!! I took some time and got my thoughts together and made more money than I was before.
What did it for me was realizing that the two ways to prevent down sizing is educating one's self and getting your hustle on. So that is what I did, I looked into more classes that are more appropriate to this economy and looked into what things that could be done to meet the new needs of 2009-2010.
So far its going good but i have had some long daze and short nites yet in still at the end of the day, I am a survior....

Ward up....

Why must women always expect a free meal when dating men?

Is there a double standard when it comes to dating? History would undoubtedly scream heck to the yeah!!! Women have long since been chased by men only to take advantage of us. We arrive on time, while U take another 43 minutes to get ready. We meet your creepy unshaven father and moo-moo wearing mother with the big pink rollers in her hair and get humped on by your dog in the mean time. We can dig it, cuz it's a small possibility that you might be worth the wait. So finally you (the woman) come down the stairs looking like a super star. As we (the Man) start to smile and thinking to ourselves that this is gonna be an alright date.

Next as the couple is rolling in the car, they agree on a radio station and make small talk as they head toward the restaurant. They end up at a nice first date food joint like the Cheese Cake Factory or Webber Grill and the woman starts ordering errry thing good, like she is the Queen of the freaking Ghetto. No problem because it's expected that the dude is suppose to pay-right? I think WRONG is an more appropriate answer. Last time Wardy checked- we are in the middle of an recession and men gotz to watch every coin we got or join the ranks of the homeless or broke folk we see around town-lol!

Seriously, it is a trend out there that the man is suppose to pay for the date when ever the couple goes out on the town! I mean its almost expected. I personally had a date once when the young lady ((asked me out)) and then expected me to pay-(what the freak)... I was cool with it. I just smoothly went to the restroom and then to my car where I texted her phone and said I had a wonderful evening and hoped to see her later in the week. I knew she wouldn't call again plus she didn't have a purse with her-lol!

I wonder would women think it would be wrong if the man expected booty every time they went out? I mean after all he paid for everything? I am not saying this is how I feel, but its just a thought. Perhaps going Dutch is a great way to start a friendship and then if you like the other person's company, pay then! I guess women are more important than men are in the new relationship because she is the woman???? I think women really feel yall have the upper hand- but only when it comes to them weak sex thirsty brothers. Personally if I am not happy in the situation, I won't argue or fight, I am just gonna get ghost on that butt, as all men should do.
Willy (friend) told me that this young woman said to him that she don't pay on dates because she is an old fashioned woman. Willy told her that o.k. with him cause he is an old fashioned man who prefers home cooked meals anyway-lol!

In this writers opinion, it is better to establish the rules up front with no pretensions from both parties: then decide where or if the date is going to continue. For example, if a woman tells a man up front that ain't nothing going down and he is in the friend zone don't get mad if he leaves out of Ruth Chris's parking lot and makes a B-line to white castle's and then suggest that yall both go Dutch!!! Its only fair-right! Proably not to the woman cause that is not what yall use too! Its 2 many games being played in the dating game right about now.

Ladies get out that man's pocket and quit leading him on. Final Fact: Women use sex to get love from men and Men use love to get sex from a women....

I am WaRd....

Quotes of the day...

If you don't like something change it. If you can't change it, change your attitude. Don't complain.
((Maya Angelou))

Things turn out best for the people who make the best of the way things turn out.
((John Wooden))


It's so hard when I have to, and so easy when I want to.
((Annie Gottlier))


I've always felt it was not up to anyone else to make me give my best.
((Akeem Olajuwon))


Failure to prepare is preparing to fail.
((Mike Murdock))

The hardest thing to do is watch the one you love, love someone else.
((Anonymous))


If they make a great sauce called A1, how come they don't make B2 sauce?
((Kierra Ward))


I am wARd.....

All Men Cheat

All men cheat. At least thats what Lisa* told me last night at work! I asked her why she thought that and she gave me two reasons. 1). Eddie Murphy said it during his 80’s stand up routine “All men cheat and if you think your man don’t you are lying to yourself”. 2). Lisa said that every dude that she has ever dated has been unfaithful to her. Like many a young ladies out there, her friends are living the good live of marriage, kids, house and unlimited good times that accompany being married! (((Booooyyyy is she in 4 a big surprise one day-lol!)))

Now Lisa’s concern does raise a good question that the Black Dr. Phil must address. First let’s look at men in general from a biblical stand point. Men were created with a higher sex drive then women because after all, the Earth had to be populated. So the plan was simple- yet highly effective. Have attractive women in eye sight of the highly visual males and the rest will be history. Fast 4 ward to 2009, society makes it more that easy for a man to cheat, creep, get his freak on or have a plethora of options. Hugh Hefner is in his early thousands and his old butt still got 5 regular hotties and a few dippz on the side. In fact, its common knowledge that the male fantasy is two women and one man! I heard a woman say, why would a man want two women if he can’t satisfy one? (We men folk don’t find that funny.

Men and women think very differently at times and cheat for reasons the other may or may no understand. A man wants his intimate needs met with consistently and variety (regardless of arguments-weight gain-stress-etc) along with other important concerns like good cooked meals, clean home and attention to the kids, not 2 mention you keepN yourself looking nice as possible. If any other those areas are neglected, the male being the hunters that we are instinctively- start to notice others who have those missing qualities. It seems that when the female is feeling insecure, which results from darn near anything these daze- from the wind blowing to her girlfriend’s comments about something irrelevant, can affect how she treats her dude. How many times has a woman came home and quizzed her dude about something she read in Cosmo about if he “REALLY LOVES YOU”? It would seem that the women needs change but her communication of that fact doesn't work as fast!

Men are simple. Notice how often out hair style never changes….its called consistency! We feel if we say we love you on Monday, then we don’t need to tell you every day, but yall like to hear it over and over-go figure. Learn from the elephant woman. Anyway back Lisa. My quick advice to her would be this. All people including men have the option to cheat, but that does not mean he will act upon it. When you meet your next EX- sit down with him and explain you views on dating and what you expect and what you are capable of giving. That way he knows the rules of the situation and no surprises for anyone. Give 100% to the relationship and leave your emotional baggage at the door. Ultimately we are gonna do what we wonna do and there ain’t nothing you can do about it. I learned that when you are dealing with imperfect people, imperfect thangs can occur. It doesn’t make it right, but it makes it a reason! If you really want a good realationship, put God in the mix from the jump, then know your self and communicate with your dude daily.
So yes all men are capable of cheating, just like everyone is capable of cheating on a job by stealing time. Its just a matter of a priority of what is important to you. People are as faithful as their options. Cheating doesn't have to be limited to the opposite sex. Some people can over stay at work (ultimely neglecting the family),some may be overly involved in sports or even so deep in their religion that they forget that they are part of a couple. The bottom line involves.....you get out of any relationship what ever you put in. Y not try this: Take care of yourself. Develop a close relationship. Don’t nag. Be supportive. Crazy Huh? I can't lie, I think men do cheat more mainly because: Women need a reason to cheat-while men just need a place.......
*Names have been changed to protect innocent
I am ward…..

11 Ways to show dat Man he is ReSpecTed by you!

1. Be approachable, but not too obviously available. You want him to know you are receptive to his advances, but you don't want him to believe you are desperate or actively on the make.

2. Greet him warmly with a sweet, sincere smile. This will let him know that you are genuinely happy to see him.

3. When he speaks to you, look into his eyes, listen intently to every word he says and nod often to indicate that you are listening (and comprehending) what he is saying.

4. During conversation, touch him gently and briefly on the hand, arm or shoulder. This is a subtle, yet definite indication of interest and affection.

5. Laugh heartily when he tells a joke (Brothers like me are very funny). This will let him know you appreciate his wit and share his sense of humor.

6. Use your observational skills to determine what his interests are. Learn everything you can about them, and encourage him to share them with you (This will be a challenge for most of yall).

7. Learn all you can about the things he values most. Let him know that you respect the things that are important to him!!!!

8, Compliment him often. Let him know how good he is at everything he does. Dont over do it, cause you become fake!

9. Be considerate of his feelings. Show him how thoughtful and considerate you are with your every action and interaction.

10. Tell him how important he is to you, and let him know how profusely grateful you are to have him in your life, Word!

11. Let him have his space. Don't hover over him, spy on him, stalk him or act possessive toward him. Refusing to allow a man to have personal space and time is the quickest way to alienate a man and drive him out of your life forever! By all means, give him the space he needs, along with assurance that you ain't going nowhere!

I am Ward!!!

My newest book ideals to help out women folk!!!

*You Can Change The Oil Too...a woman's guide
*How Not To Sob Like A Sponge When Your dude Is Right
*Balancing A Checkbook - Even You Can Get It Right sometimes
*You, The Whining Sex.....uggggh
*How To Close The Garage Door
*If You Don't Want An Excuse, Don't Demand An Explanation darn it
*How To Retain Your Composure While Your Husband Is Relaxing By Himself
*How To Act Younger Than Your Mother...loose the moo-moo
*Attainable Goal - Catching A Ball Before It Stops Moving
*How To Close The Top On The Toothpaste and squeeze from the bottom
*How To Put Down A Toilet Seat without complaining
*Garbage - Getting It To The Curb in my absence
*Give Me A Break - Why We Know Your Excuses Are Lies
*You Too Can Be A Designated Driver

Ward

Distracted by life....

Everybody seems to be looking for a fix. It use to be just junkies trying to chase that original high, but now its the teenager trying to loosen his parents death grip of tough love, its the single mom who has a few kids trying to find Mr.Right! Everybody has needs and most are willing to do what ever they need to do to solve them.
My issue is this. I think that when foreigners come to America, they see opportunities and the chance to make a way out of now way. They R well aware that nothing beats a chance but a try. Most speak another language or two and willing to make sacrifices to make their dreams happen. If they don't know how to do something they look, listen and learn. They may drive a hooptie, live 15 deep in an one bed room apartment and do with out the finer things in life to make it happen. What about the people in the first paragraph. Is life tougher for them. Does life have them distracted or is it just a double standard.
Sometimes we just gotta realize that we are often times our own biggest obstacle. And what is an obstacle you wonder? I consider an obstacle an opportunity to use skills that you may not have even been aware that you already have! If you fall down you only have two options: 1). You can learn to crawl while you stay down on the ground or 2). Or you can get back up and learn from your error.
We all heard when life gives you lemons......make lemonade. Now I don't know what that means to you but here is what it means to me. I make no mistakes...let me say that again in case you think I erred! I make no mistakes, I only have learning experiences. So if something does not go like I planned, I learn from that and choose another option in the future. I can't keep doing the same actions and expect different results can I? Of course not!
So here is some free advice from Wardy. Pretend you ain't from round these parts partner and do what others do...Make it happen by making a way outta no way. No one ever said life is easy, but as along as your alive keep on trying to reach for the Sun and even if yOu fail, at least you will be amongst the stars.

Ward...